Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months. We are both virgins and this last weekend we saw each other and we were fooling around for a little bit. She then pulled a few condoms out and asked if I wanted to have sex (we had discussed sex before and both decided we wanted to, but the previous time we were going to it didn't quite work out as planned). I wasn't expecting this at all but I decided I really wanted to. So, I guess I wanted to get her ready so I went down on her, at this point I was decently hard. Then I tried to put on the condom and the more I put it on the more flaccid I got. Finally I got her on top of me and I was completely limp. She tried going down on me, I tried getting myself hard, and after awhile it was just completely awkward and she was just like "its ok we don't have to if you don't want to". I explained to her that I really did want to and in complete and utter frustration I put my clothes back on and we gave up. I have never been so humiliated/frustrated/upset/depressed in my life. I don't know how to deal with this and I just am afraid the more I think about it the worse it will be. I haven't been able to sleep well since, all I keep worrying about is if I will ever be able to have sex with her. Because it happened this time, who says it won't next time? Usually all it takes is her to nibble my ear and I am ready to go, but this time I couldn't any ounce of blood in my body to help prop me up. Anyways, I feel kind of ****ty and I don't have anyone to talk to about this. I was hoping someone could help me out with any advice or anything... Thanks.
norajane Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 You're just nervous, and probably need to spend some time practicing putting on a condom when you are alone. Buy a box and when you're masturbating, stop and put it on so you get used to how it's done. Don't stress out - this happens to lots of guys their first time, and sometimes after that, too. The more you freak out and stress and turn it into a big issue in your head, the more likely it will happen again. Just relax and practice with the condom. Next time you and your gf try, tell her you've been practicing with the condom and laugh about it. It's really more humilating and whatnot in your head than it needs to be.
Pink Amulet Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 Awww *hugs you* please don't feel ashamed. I hear it happens to the best of them! Give it time, you will be a sex stud before you know it.
Guest Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Thanks a lot guys. She still hasn't talked to me about it... But I tried one on while masturbating, everything went fine, almost too fine. I don't know, doing that has restored my confidence a little bit but I still have this whole thing hanging over my head... and who knows when we will try again.
norajane Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Thanks a lot guys. She still hasn't talked to me about it... But I tried one on while masturbating, everything went fine, almost too fine. I don't know, doing that has restored my confidence a little bit but I still have this whole thing hanging over my head... and who knows when we will try again. Sex takes practice, sweets. Lots and lots of it...but that's the fun part!
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