Okay gentlemen, what about women drives you nuts

[HopefulOne]

I know it's a funny question but men and women are quite different as we know. Just thought I would throw it out there and see what's on your minds?

[SoCalCatman72]

When they play games and mess with your mind instead of saying what they really mean and want.

 

Also when they get all quiet and say "nothing" in a snippy tone when you ask what's wrong.

 

Also when they yell at you for stuff you have no control over, just because you are there.

 

oops, I think I misunderstood the context, If you meant nuts in a good way:

 

When they give you that little sideways smiling glance.

When they flip their hair around and you can smell the shampoo fragrance.

When they touch you ever so softly on the arm.

[superconductor]

• Indecision;
  
• Using 50 words when 5 will do;
  
• Constant whining and moaning about their periods - gawd, you've been dealing with it since you were 13. GET A HANDLE ON IT ALREADY;
  
• Not getting the oil changed in the car regularly;
  
• Expect men to be clarivoyant;
  
• Ask questions with no acceptable answer (eg: Do I look fat in these pants?);
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
  
• Getting all fancied up to look sexy and provocative, then gets offended when a man responds;
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.
  

[basscatcher]

Hey.. This is a good thread. I plan to keep checking in.. Yeahh.. So far I'm guilty of three of the negtive comments and all of the good ones.

[lindya]

I need validation. Is that annoying?

[allina]

• 
   
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
   
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.
   
  

 

I'm guilty of these two, but why does this driven men nuts? It has nothing to do with the kind of person I am or how I treat men. There are things men like and have a lot of as well.

[HopefulOne]

• Indecision;
  
• Using 50 words when 5 will do;
  
• Constant whining and moaning about their periods - gawd, you've been dealing with it since you were 13. GET A HANDLE ON IT ALREADY;
  
• Not getting the oil changed in the car regularly;
  
• Expect men to be clarivoyant;
  
• Ask questions with no acceptable answer (eg: Do I look fat in these pants?);
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
  
• Getting all fancied up to look sexy and provocative, then gets offended when a man responds;
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.

 

Funny..... Although I don't fit too many of these catergories except maybe using too many words when 5 will do

[Blackfrost]

When they need validation

 

When they don't want you talking while they're watching their tv shows, but love to just continue babbling away when you're trying to watch yours.

 

Lack of hobbies, or personal interest pursuits

 

definitely Socals comment

When they play games and mess with your mind instead of saying what they really mean and want.

 

When they assume that going to work means your having a blast and playing with friends all day vs. busting your butt and trying to survive in the nasty world of corporate politics.

 

When they don't understand that when I say "I am mad or angry about something that has nothing to do with you in any way shape or form and don't want to discuss it" That it has something to do with them.

 

When I say "I'm not in the mood to 'do it' tonight which has nothing to do with you in any way shape or form" that it has something to do with them.

 

When I'm asked to go through her closet and tell her all the things that I don't like to see her wear, and then she continues to keep some of those items and wear them: then wonders why I don't comment on how good she looks that day. I only flatter when I mean it.

[Tony T]

• Indecision;
  
• Using 50 words when 5 will do;
  
• Constant whining and moaning about their periods - gawd, you've been dealing with it since you were 13. GET A HANDLE ON IT ALREADY;
  
• Not getting the oil changed in the car regularly;
  
• Expect men to be clarivoyant;
  
• Ask questions with no acceptable answer (eg: Do I look fat in these pants?);
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
  
• Getting all fancied up to look sexy and provocative, then gets offended when a man responds;
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.
  

 

This is priceless stuff and OH SO TRUE!!! How about somemore???

[RecordProducer]

I know it's a funny question but men and women are quite different as we know. Just thought I would throw it out there and see what's on your minds?

HopefulOne, the secret code is as follows:

 

Step #1 (Saving your ass): "Baby, I love you so much, I hate to see you upset like this. Please tell me what you want from me and I'll do anything to make you happy."

 

(Please note that this is pure manipulation. She glows and shines on the inside, may pretend for a while that she is still angry, but will surrender eventually if you continue in the same manner. She thinks she won this time.)

 

Step #2: (You think about her complaints/demands and either change to a certain extent or continue the same way as before. Don't forget to shower her with affection).

 

Step #3: (You enjoy the products of your strategy as she enjoys your affection).

 

Step #4: (She notices that not much has changed and she goes crazy again): repeat steps #1 through 3#.

 

Give a woman affection and attention (even false one such as " Honey, look at all these women; you're the sexiest one here... Second thought, you're the sexiest in the whole world!") and she'll eat from your hand!

 

[CrushedOrgans]

 

 

 

When they don't understand that when I say "I am mad or angry about something that has nothing to do with you in any way shape or form and don't want to discuss it" That it has something to do with them.

 

When I say "I'm not in the mood to 'do it' tonight which has nothing to do with you in any way shape or form" that it has something to do with them.

 

 

these two things seem to fall under this:

 

When they play games and mess with your mind instead of saying what they really mean and want.

 

don't you think? unless i am misunderstanding it...

 

 

 

*and RP, your face is so fresh and so pretty, i just wanted to say that.

[Outcast]

Which all boils down to: communication and mutual understanding - or lack thereof

[HopefulOne]

Which all boils down to: communication and mutual understanding - or lack thereof

 

Very well said.... While men and women are different, if we treat each other with respect and listen, communicate and try to understand the others point of view ( because we care about them as a person).... I suppose we would all have great relationships..

 

I was just curious how men see things, this is very enlighting....

[Guest]

Well...I'll tell you why woman drive you nuts. If we act as if we like you/want you - you suddenly become cool, distant. If we say I want to see other people, than suddenly - you can't understand why...please!!!! I'll change! So, the girl will say, ok, I'll stop seeing other guys if you are faithful, loving.

Ok!!! You say....but then, she becomes too clingy, wanting, controlling...you need your space.

So... you break up with her. You start seeing someone else, as does she. But wait!!!If someone else wants to date her, there must be something good about her! I want her back.

So, you fight, and win her back, but after a week or two her same 'annoying' habits of talking of love and s#$% make you realize - she's too needy. I need someone else. So you find someone who is not into relationships, but one-nighters...fun for a night or two, or even three. But, now you feel kinda used...is this girl just using me? So you go back to girl #1 and she is through with you. And you don't get why she doesn't want you anymore. And you think...that crazy girl...she doesn't know what she is missing by not being with me.

But, by now she is on to bigger and better.

Maybe, you should treat people as who they are...not try to change them and be happy. Just a thought.

[laRubiaBonita]

• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 6 different kinds of soap;
  

 

but it all smells good right?

[a4a]

• Indecision;
  
• Using 50 words when 5 will do;
  
• Constant whining and moaning about their periods - gawd, you've been dealing with it since you were 13. GET A HANDLE ON IT ALREADY;
  
• Not getting the oil changed in the car regularly;
  
• Expect men to be clarivoyant;
  
• Ask questions with no acceptable answer (eg: Do I look fat in these pants?);
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
  
• Getting all fancied up to look sexy and provocative, then gets offended when a man responds;
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.
  

 

 

OH SC you would fall in love with me as I do none of the above!

 

I actually have asked my H to just give me a yes or no answer when I ask a question instead of a 20 minute freaking story!!! Grrrrrrrrr!!

 

Me =Do you want potatoes with dinner tonight?

 

Him= Do you want them? You know I was thinkig that maybe they would be good but we could have them tomorrow if you don't want them tonight, or we could have beans with dinner. I used to make this potatoe thing with cheese and then burn them just a little under the broiler (I am now at the point of rolling my eyes at him) I don't think we have enough potatoes to do that though tonight. The red potatoes are usually better that way, the baking potatoes probably won't work.........

 

Me (interrupting) = Do you want the F-ing potatoes or not tonight? JHC maybe we should tie the potatoe to a kite and freaking cook it, yes lets wait for a lightening storm then we will eat the freaking potatoes.... Now do you want the freakin' potatoes or not! ?

 

Thus my urge to stab him in the head with a fork from time to time.

[superconductor]

Uh, in order to avoid personal injury or some other maiming by a sharp object - it might puncure me and let all the air out - I'll have french fries please.

 

No gravy. Just fries.

OH SC you would fall in love with me as I do none of the above!

 

I actually have asked my H to just give me a yes or no answer when I ask a question instead of a 20 minute freaking story!!! Grrrrrrrrr!!

 

Me =Do you want potatoes with dinner tonight?

 

Him= Do you want them? You know I was thinkig that maybe they would be good but we could have them tomorrow if you don't want them tonight, or we could have beans with dinner. I used to make this potatoe thing with cheese and then burn them just a little under the broiler (I am now at the point of rolling my eyes at him) I don't think we have enough potatoes to do that though tonight. The red potatoes are usually better that way, the baking potatoes probably won't work.........

 

Me (interrupting) = Do you want the F-ing potatoes or not tonight? JHC maybe we should tie the potatoe to a kite and freaking cook it, yes lets wait for a lightening storm then we will eat the freaking potatoes.... Now do you want the freakin' potatoes or not! ?

 

Thus my urge to stab him in the head with a fork from time to time.

[Darkwall]

When they play games and mess with your mind instead of saying what they really mean and want.

 

I recently just did this. Said I wasn't mad when really I wanted to club him over the head with anything close. NOTE: not to play a game, although I should have just come right out and voiced my reason for being angry.

 

Sometimes men seem to give us women the impression they're just asking so there's no tension in the air.

 

I did this because I feel sometimes talking about it gets me nowhere fast.

[Darkwall]

• Indecision;
  
• Using 50 words when 5 will do;
  
• Constant whining and moaning about their periods - gawd, you've been dealing with it since you were 13. GET A HANDLE ON IT ALREADY;
  
• Not getting the oil changed in the car regularly;
  
• Expect men to be clarivoyant;
  
• Ask questions with no acceptable answer (eg: Do I look fat in these pants?);
  
• Seven different kinds of shampoo, 5 different kinds of conditioner, 4 hair dryers, 6 different kinds of soap;
  
• Getting all fancied up to look sexy and provocative, then gets offended when a man responds;
  
• Too many shoes, too many clothes.
  

 

It takes 50 paragraphs to get you to understand. And then, you say... Oh, I'm sorry. That wasn't my intention.

[superconductor]

It takes 50 paragraphs to get you to understand.

The clarity of the message sent is up to the sender, not the receiver.

 

If he (or she) doesn't understand, that's the speaker's fault, not the listeners.

[rina_r]

The clarity of the message sent is up to the sender, not the receiver.

 

Not true. Some people hear but never listen.

[a4a]

Uh, in order to avoid personal injury or some other maiming by a sharp object - it might puncure me and let all the air out - I'll have french fries please.

 

No gravy. Just fries.

 

Thank you!!!!!

[Asafan]

When she asks my advice on something, then does the exact opposite of my advice.

[HopefulOne]

The clarity of the message sent is up to the sender, not the receiver.

 

If he (or she) doesn't understand, that's the speaker's fault, not the listeners.

 

 

Most men aren't like women, they do not want to have some long over anaylazed conversation about about what they want or need nor do they want to here your version of it. Make it simple and quick and they will listen.... Well, that's my take on it...

[a4a]

When she asks my advice on something, then does the exact opposite of my advice.

 

maybe you give really bad advice and she is aware of it so does the opposite