notwantbeseen Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Confession...this is a secret of mine that nobody knows...Because I lie... Ok here is my situation...I had dated 4 people in my life kind of...thats it...and I've never had a real relationship. Obviously I'd want to keep this secret because I'm ashamed. No I'm not 300 lbs and a complete geek either... No I'm not a midgett either...I'm 6 feet. I'm strait of course. Actualy I'm very fit and work as a fitness trainer. I've been asked before if I've ever consitered modeling. I am a public speaker part time and a writer. I've got good fashion sense..I'm nice..I'm funny (done stand up comedy before). I've even got that "confidence" thing that is supposed to be so important. I'm also a strait A student who has been given honors in my university. People always say I am interesting to talk to...I've got plenty of money and from the looks I'll have a lot more in a few months...By all accounts I would say I am...a good enough guy...I'm the real "mans man" hanign gout with my buddies at the bar...hell I'd venture so far to say I'm a damn good guy...but... here is the thing that makes me sick to my stomach to admite and my deepest secret revieled on the net...I've had one kiss in my life... one...uno...singular...and it wasn't even a good one. I've had so little romantic intereaction and it is burning a hole insid my brain. I don't know what to do! how did I get to this point? I'm dying inside and I've got to feel this "love" I think about every day. I feel like the 40 year old version...except not THAT bad. a few possible reasons to my horrible relationship records may be... I do get slightly shy around girls...but nothing extreme...I've been told I'm arrogant or stuck up sometimes...and that I scare ppl with seeming "too good" or something... but I do not know..just thought I'd post this and see what people say... got any advice for me? or anything?
Tony T Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 You'll get no sympathy from me, buster. Almost every personal ad I read from a woman says she wants a guy six feet tall or better...I'm five inches short of that. However, from a young age I've been able to get almost any lady I wanted...I mean ANY ONE OF THEM!
Tony T Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 You'll get no sympathy from me, buster. Almost every personal ad I read from a woman says she wants a guy six feet tall or better...I'm five inches short of that. However, from a young age I've been able to get almost any lady I wanted...I mean ANY ONE OF THEM! Your problem is right in your post. Your attitude. Your feeling sorry for yourself. Your inaction. Women aren't going to pull you into them and give you the biggest smack on the lips you've ever had, you have to pull them to you!!! Women aren't going to come up to you in flocks to ask you out...you've got to do that yourself. You need a mentor, an instructor. Read as much as you can and then let some trusted friend, or even a paid counsellor, support you in your efforts to get more going for you socially. Wear clothes than are hip and sporty. Straighten up your posture. Get your hair done in a new style. Get your entire self made over so you are confident. That's what women want...a confident made who is sure of himself. If you were sure of yourself, you wouldn't have posted above. There is no reason why you shouldn't be with a nice girl now. They are all over the place...I mean everywhere. Learn to flirt. Right now, today, you can go to the mall or store and get a date with a cashier. You just have to do it the right way. There are so many women out there who would jump at the chance to go out with you...if you would take the first step. BE A MAN AND GO FOR IT!!!
whichwayisup Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I feel like the 40 year old version...except not THAT bad. You're funny though, as that made me laugh! It's virgin, silly! Anyway, you say you have self confidence, sure, with daily life and you're confident when it comes to work...But, you don't seem confident with the ladies and I am telling you (as I am a woman), WOMEN pick up on non-confident guys. Your shyness can be cute, many women find that intriguing and mysterious...But, the energy you're obviously putting out there isn't attracting them... Tony T is right, start flirting...Even in the bank or grocery store. Make eye contact and smile...
burning 4 revenge Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I think the poster must be foreign And by that I mean not from the United States ,because everyone else is by definition foreigners. Oh, I better put so this does'nt get deleted
rina_r Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Straight "A" student? Public speaker and writer??? With your spelling??? I think you keep on lying here, on this forum, too.
allina Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Maybe you should work on your attitude, your post feels like you're a little full of yourself and look down on others (others that are getting way more action and love than you btw) "I'm not 300 lbs and a complete geek either... No I'm not a midgett either...I'm 6 feet. I'm strait of course. Actualy I'm very fit and work as a fitness trainer. I've been asked before if I've ever consitered modeling." I find this sort of popmous attitude unattractive and phony, maybe you could tone it down a little when trying to know women. Good luck.
CrushedOrgans Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Maybe you should work on your attitude, your post feels like you're a little full of yourself and look down on others (others that are getting way more action and love than you btw) "I'm not 300 lbs and a complete geek either... No I'm not a midgett either...I'm 6 feet. I'm strait of course. Actualy I'm very fit and work as a fitness trainer. I've been asked before if I've ever consitered modeling." I find this sort of popmous attitude unattractive and phony, maybe you could tone it down a little when trying to know women. Good luck. right on. i agree.
Sally00 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I feel like the 40 year old version...except not THAT bad. You're funny though, as that made me laugh! It's virgin, silly! Made me laugh too. However, version also makes sense. He is a version of the 40-yr. old virgin. And I also agree... confidence is important. But not TOO confident, as I was involved with a very, very cocky person once... it was a turn-off. Just be confident enough. Girls don't want someone who's like, "Well... I GUESS I'm a nice guy... I GUESS I can make you happy..." Trust me. I was talking to my boyfriend and he told me that cuz I called him too confident. LoL. He's right.
quankanne Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 since you're in good running condition, you might consider becoming a kissing bandit. You know, find something to wear to mask your identity, then do hit and run kissing on women (on the cheek, mind you). You might get lucky and find that it lightens your inhibitions.
Ross_K Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Check out this forum, it's for involuntary celibates, http://s15.invisionfree.com/IncelSupport/
john2776 Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 You must have the wrong friends. How can you have not ended up at a party where half the girls get too drunk and start hitting on you just because you have a heartbeat?? Do you actually attempt to meet girls? Don't you have a buddy you can play wingman with? If you are not confident, let him to the hard work and you can end up with the less attractive friend. You need to start somewhere to build your confidence. In my younger years I didn't even need to do anything at bars. I would go out by myself - so it was obvious I was single - and before I knew it some girl would stand next to me and order a drink and strike up a conversation, and often offer to buy me a drink. What in the world are you doing wrong??? Come to think of it, this still happens at bars even if Im with my girlfriend... At which point are you having a problem? Can you talk to girls? Do you have any girls as just friends? Maybe you could choose one to tell your secret to and ask if she can help you become more confident with girls by getting her to teach you how to kiss. Man just try things, try everything! Do you have a fear of rejection? I think you just need a lot of coaching...
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