Hunny D Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Two weeks ago I had a one night stand even though I had promised myself I wouldn't ever again. I hate the lonley feeling afterwards knowing that you gave yourself to someone and there's really nothing more to show for it. Anyhow I had gone in with the mindset of walking away as two strangers in the night with no intent to contact him again. However during the whole ordel he keeps telling me that he wants to talk to me again, that he's going to call me and we should get together etc... Meanwhile I'm saying to him openly, no you won't and you don't have to say those things. When the sex aspect of it was done he continued to say these things, in which I finally took his bluff and said ok I'll give you 2 weeks! I mostly did it to shut him up but I don't understand why he would feel the need to lie about calling? I could have easily walked away if he hadn't put the idea in my head, but now I want to call him and complain that he didn't call >_<. (P.S We're a full state apart.)
john2776 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Shouldn't you be asking "Why did I do this to myself?" If you are not the kind of person who can have a one night stand because of how you feel afterwards - why do you do it? You constantly told this guy you were not interested in taking it further, you live in another state - of course given a bit more time to think about it he realised there was no point in calling. You basically set yourself up for failure....
Walk Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Well... I have no idea why guys do this, but they do. And complaining won't do any good. You already know this. Write out a letter venting, and then burn it while chanting a*hole over and over. Acutally, it'd probably be more worthwhile for you to try to look a little deeper into how you get into a situation like that. I'm not judging, been there myself. But I was running from some emotional problems that I didn't want to confront. So I bought one of those cute journals they sell at the grocery store around here, refused to go out on weekends, and every time I started to go a little crazy I wrote in the journal. Just dumped everything into it. And it did help. Not that I'm not still crazy, but it did help me sort out what I was feeling, what caused those feelings, and allowed me to see ways to change my life so I could be happier. The one night stands just rip a girls self-esteem apart. Dangerous to mind and body. Its a self-destructive mentality. I think you'd feel a lot better about yourself and your life if you'd try the journaling. Also exercise helps. If you don't like exercise, try Yoga. I've started taking a class once a week, and I have never slept so well as I did after that class. Very relaxing and calming. Also helps me work through problems while doing Yoga. Guess it diverts part of my mind enough so that I can rationalize through things rather than sit on the couch and freak out. Anyway, it's really helped me.
JeNeSaisQuoi Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I'm sure, while in the moment, he felt as though he wanted to see you again. But, after he was seperated from you and that initial passion inevidably faded, he realized that he wasn't all that attached. "Why Men Love Bitches: from Doormat to Dreamgirl" I suggest you pick it up. XoXo Amy
allina Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I think he actually was planning on seeing you again untill you bombarded him with "no you won't!"
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