TheBoogeyMan Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Hi guys. My name is Jon and I'm new to the forums. My girlfriend of about 3.5 years dumped me about 3 months ago and I feel like hell everyday. She dumped me because she said there is no future with me. But, she did have a good reason...we never did do a whole lot and I didnt have a job for 6 months.....I just sat at home everyday. BUT...I am getting my act together. I've taken this time to focus on myself. I've got a job now and I'm actually going to back to school to make a better future for myself. But, I still think about her EVERYDAY. I love this girl so much. I've did the begging and the pleading and it just pushed her further away so, now...I'm going to try NC. I still feel that deep down inside she still loves me but, she just acts like she doesn't care one bit about me anymore. Is there any hope for my situation? Thanks guys, Jon N.
Brittjean06 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hey boogeyman. I'm sorry you've been dumped! pretty painful isn't it? Well this site will do wonders for you, because we all have experienced some pain. Even if she did have feelings for you, she dumped you! It's really hard not to have hope but all hope does is hurt us in the long run even more! We all have begged and pleaded at one time or another but you really need to not talk to her or lay low for a while. Of course after 3 months things still feel traumatising and that things will never get better. But its been a year for me and even though I am not over what happend I have had so many good days. People break up, nothing really lasts forever and were all bound to go through this at one point or another. Time might seem like its going slow now but sooner than you know it will be a year and you will be feeling so much better boogey man. People will tell you to go find what you like to do and what makes you happy and go meet new people . But sometimes the best thing to do is let life sort its self. It's really painful to try to do all these things at a begining of a " tragedy " just don't take it too far. Try to think positive about your self! and reamber all the cons of that relationship
Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I know - it hurts bad. I was dumped by my x of 2 years - too long of a drama story to tell but at any rate I can tell you that it will get better, but you have to make it get better. Remember that God brings people into your life for a reason, however when they walk out on you - let them go. I went through pure heck over my breakup - didn't eat, didn't sleep, thought about him all the time - but then the minute I realized that God had a different plan for me and started getting back out there and having fun I have met some new great people! And no one should ever walk out on you - just remember that - let her go. Maybe you can start meeting up with some old friends and start doing some stuff with them - I'm telling ya it really worked for me. Don't forget in all of this that you are #1 and that you come first. Take care of you. Good luck to you and just remember people might be in our lives for a season but we turned that into something that it was not meant to be. It's ok because you will find someone who won't walk out on you and who you absolutley adore! She's out there - but you have to get out there too! Take Care!
Ariadne Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hi, Is there any hope for my situation? Oh boggey, well, don't think about those hard things right now. You never know what is going to happen in the future. What will be will be. If she dumped you, what can you do. Take it easy now and good luck, Ariadne
Author TheBoogeyMan Posted August 2, 2006 Author Posted August 2, 2006 It's alot easier said than done. I was with this girl for over 3 years. The thing that really hurts is she told me that her biggest fear was to loose me. I think it would be easier on me if I had some friends but people grow up and grow appart. She was my life! We were together all of the time....people even called us "John and Yoko". This all started because she said when she graduates, she wanted to move to Hawaii and I said I didn't wanna move away from family and it would cost WAY too much!! Well, I'm gonna try NC for a while to see if it works. I just dont see how someone could throw away a 3.5 relationship down the drain so damn fast!!! Thanks, Jon N.
Ariadne Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hi boogey, Well, can you be friends with her even? That would be nice. And talk as usual, give her an update on where you are at now, maybe visit her in Hawaii for the holidays. Who knows, maybe you get to like the place and the love is rekindled now that your life is more in order. Good luck, and don't lose hope, Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author TheBoogeyMan Posted August 2, 2006 Author Posted August 2, 2006 I've tried to patch things up. I've talked to her a couple of times on the phone and she seems fine. I've been trying SO hard to patch things up. She really isn't giving me any input. So, I'm done. If she loves me, she will call. I really think that people DO deserve a second chance. People change over time. In order for any relationship to work, there must be compromises and give and take from both people. If you can't do that, the relationship will not last. O well, I guess we'll see what happens. Thanks, Jon N.
Ariadne Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hi, O well, I guess we'll see what happens. Yeah, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. As long as you stay in touch is what counts. Maybe if you see her again things may change. Good luck, Ariadne
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