Guest Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 We broke up about 2 months ago and she has since moved away. It was not an I hate you breakup, it was the teary eyed, I Love you kind. I have since told her I was wrong and want to move to her and get married. The first month she was gone we talked about it and everything was going in the right direction. Then about a month ago the contact stopped. What little I have gotten leads nowhere. I still send her an email once a week and that states my love has not changed and I get back (occasionaly) a reply asking about the weather or something meaningless. I finally broke down and called her last week and the only thing of importance I got was that she is not going to help me, I need to figure this out for myself. That's it. Actually that's the question what is "It"? Please help because I have already figured out that she is it to me and she is aware of that. So what is she trying to make me do? Please Help.. Thanks
MTK Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Back off some. It may be a push/pull kind of thing, you're pulling, and she's in a mad sprint. It also may be over, or there might be a new guy as bad as that is to say. I got the whole teary eyed breakup from her also, and she went out and got into a serious relationship 2 days later! (after ending her 3/4 year one between us!) Focus on yourself. You're hurting. It'll take at least 2-3 months for the pain to stop and your life to pick up. Don't call her, don't email her. Block everything there is of her. Box all of her stuff up and shove it into some remote closet in your home. This is the only way that you'll get over her and the pain. You care for her obviously, and she's not at the same level at this point. She knows it, but she can be playing you outright. Put NC into effect, and if she calls you, start asking questions again on LS. But foremost, focus on improving yourself, and help yourself to heal. Maybe she will want to pick things back up, and work on things. Maybe she won't. But if you're killing yourself over her, you're not doing yourself or any chance of the relationship any good. Take care bud -and look into the 2nd chance forums/ NC rules.
sickkitty Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Im hearing that, when my ex broke up with me he said he needed 2 sort his life out and doent have time for a gf right now ( we dated for just over a yr) he gave all this bullsh*t about in time we can get back 2gether, keeping me sweet! Then i found out he is round a girls house (who fancied him) 1 week after we broke up! i think she was the reason he broke up with me! Its almost like a drug when there not around u crave them and when u see them ur on an instant high, its crazy! Ever wish u could escape from urself?
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