louie812 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Okay. I in need of some advice badly. I am 26 and my partner is 37. We have been seeing each other for nearly 7 months now. But recently she has been getting extremely jealouse. For example on of he friends came over to her house the other day and i said hi to her etc.. previously she had been talking about a women by the name of sarah, and how much of a flurt she was, when she left i asked if that was the sarah she was refering to, in reply to me asking that she accused me of starring at her and that did i think she was pretty, at first i said i didnt really notice, at this point she got quite nasty and told me not to lie (while giving me a very dirty look) i said i guess she's quite pretty. The **** hit the fan at this point and started shouting "well you mustve had a bloody good look!" i mean wtf?? i wasnt even paying much attention to her. And way there was another time when we parked outside my parents house. Anyway we pulled up and i started to do my window up, and in the corner of my eye on the opposite side of the road i saw a bus stop with people moving about anyway i turned my head slighty to have a look what was happening, purly innocent like anyone would, well unfortunatly it was a bus stop full of teenage girls. i SWEAR i glanced for about 2 seconds thought oh well just kids messing about,and proceeded to do my window up. This is when the **** hit the fan, she asked me with tears in her eyes "you were starring at those girls werent you?" instinct told me to say no becasue i really wasnt, there couldve been 2 old me at the bus stop and i still wouldve looked the same length of time. anyway i denied it then she shouted " i saw you!" i then admitted i glanced over but didnt stare. Anyway she soon exited the car and stormed off!? am i in the wrong hear? i feel as if im in a catch 22 situation. She asks me if i looked at other girls in the street. but i mean how can you walk through the street and no look at a female, even innocently???? Please help me out with why she is being like this. Am i doing something wrong? Any insight will be greatly appreciated.
Guest Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 From what you've said, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. Those two situations seemed like misunderstandings. She sounds a bit insecure, maybe it has to do with the age difference. Maybe she's insecure because she thinks you'll leave her for someone younger and prettier. Reassure her that you love and care about her. If your relationship is a good one (secure) then she shouldn't feel the need to be jealous (even though we can't help it sometimes, it happens; human nature, but there has to be a good reason for it).
stillhere Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 This woman sounds extremely insecure. I'm a jealous person to an extent, but i would never flip out on my BF for glancing or looking at a girl. Sh*t, if he was checking out another chick, i probably pointed her out to him! I get a bit touchy when a female openly flirts with him when i'm around, or if he tells me about a female, that we both see occasionaly, has been flirting with him......i'll throw her a dirty look. I am secure enough with myself and with him, that i know he's not going to wander off with the first female that makes eyes at him. Sounds like you can talk to her and try to convince her until you're blue in the face, but she's not going to believe you. This behavior would drive me crazy, but if you can sit her down some time and explain to her, that it's her and only her that you want, and show her, maybe she'll relax a bit. It's worth a shot, otherwise, you will soon get fed up with these accusations.
mental_traveller Posted August 6, 2006 Posted August 6, 2006 Bunny boiler alert! Get out while you still can, my friend.
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