Apathetic Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 What is the difference(in your opinion) between love addiction & not being able to let go? Is it kind of the same thing?
KittenMoon Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I think it just falls under the concept of "I want". And it's very hard to not want something you want, especially if you've already had it, and you liked it.
Author Apathetic Posted August 2, 2006 Author Posted August 2, 2006 Im sure that could be a part of it but im also sure there's more to it..Who knows though!
AriaIncognito Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I think it's also pretty easy to idealize a relationship, once it's gone, to the point where you just remember the good feelings you had and not the bad. For example, looking back at my recent, I could look back and remember that I always felt like he could leave at any time, since he was unwilling to commit, but instead, i seem to still remember moreso the good things about the relationship. We become "addicted" to what we felt with the person. Or, we can become "addicted" to what we choose to remember about the past relationship. Heck, it's even possible to be "in love with the idea of being in love" rather than the person. There's definitely room for addictive qualities/tendencies discussion when it comes to love lol Jennifer
Author Apathetic Posted August 2, 2006 Author Posted August 2, 2006 Thats true I agree,however I would like to hear some more opinions The whole situation confuses me & I dont know what to think anymore!
Diver012 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Ive had a lot of wonderful relationships in my past. Obvioulsy they didnt all work out as im still single. hehe.. Theres been times when I was dating someone and just wasnt that deep into them, and there has been other times that I was deeply in love with someone and for what ever reason, it didnt work out. It really just depends on the level of commitment you shared with this person. The longer you both had that connection, the longer it takes to get over the loss. Part of what hurts I think is that somewhere along the line, you were still commited, and they started backing off. You may have noticed it, you may not have. We sometimes see and hear what we want to. Its easier for me to let go of things at my age because ive had a few deep meaningful relationships. I know there will be a point where I will have anotherone with someone else. Ill take what I have learned and apply it to the next one.
blind_otter Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Addiction: If it interferes with your life, and your ability to function normally. If you get withdrawal symptoms like panic, irritability, sometimes even the shakes. If you are, after a prolonged period of separation, still unable to move through your life without associating everything around you with your ex (it's normal to get occassional reminders, not constant ones). If you find yourself spasmodically reaching out to that ex, regardless of their ability to be there for you, then you might have addiction issues. Man that sounded like those "you might be a redneck" jokes....
Diver012 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Google oxytocin and start reading. Scientific proof that women are nuts!! *Runs and Hides*
In Sync Posted August 3, 2006 Posted August 3, 2006 What is the difference(in your opinion) between love addiction & not being able to let go? Is it kind of the same thing? At first I was going to same there is no difference but then I realized the key word in the first phrase is love addiction. If you had asked whether being addicted to a person & not being able to let go were the same, I'd say yeah. But love addiction says to me someone who is addicted to the feelings of being in love, they get a high from that first bloom of love, the thrill of a new love, then when that wears off because life happens and its impossible to stay in that mode and the relationship becomes routine, the love addict then moves onto another conquest to create that feeling of falling in love. They become serial seekers of love. On the other hand addiction to a person and not being able to let go is the same thing. One may even think they are in 'love' with that person who they can't let go when in fact they are not in love. It's just the idea of letting go is too traumatic to deal with so you convince yourself it's love.
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