momof3 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I just got married in March 2006. We have been together for 3 years prior to getting married. I honestly do love him, and want to stay married, but there are so many problems. I just need some advice. When I married him, I had accepted everything about him, and I mean everything. BUt it seems like he married me to change me. I have worked ever since we met, and he has had some miscilaneous jobs here and there, but has not worked for more than 2 years at all. I had 2 kids prior to our relationship, and he was always great with my kids. I got pregnant with his child in March of last year, and soon ofter I had the baby is when we got married. It was like things changed sooooo dramatically. He is constantly puting me down, calling me names, and telling me how lazy I am. I get up every morning and I get all 3 of my kids dressed, and myself. I drop the kids off at 3 different places, while he sits around the house playing video games, or goes somewhere to drink. I work for 8-9 hours a day before getting my kids and coming home. I do not clean the house nor do I cook fancy meals. I do what is easiest for me. He yells at me constantly telling me I am a bad mother because I don't spend enough time with my kids, I don't fix them healthy meals, or clean up their messes. Am I wrong for not doing these things? He is always home and does absolutely nothing all day, and complains and yells at me when I get home. Im sorry but I feel if he is there and spending my money then he can earn it. I am just soooo tired of being called names, put down, and hurt all the time because of him. If it weren't for me he wouldn't have a home at all. He wouldn't have food to eat, or even beer to drink for that matter. Is there anything I can do to make him see that he is truly hurting me, and I am about to call it quits?
Ladyjane14 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Why is this guy home all day and not working for two years?
Gunny376 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Why are you with this guy? He's not part of the answers ~ he's part of the question! He's not part of the solution ~ he's part of the problem! Two years un-employeed? Sweetheart! I've been through the mud, the blood and the beer, since I've retired from the Marine Corps, but you can find a job doing something! You may not like it ~ but WTF does "like" have to do with it? I've worked plenty of jobs that I didn't like. I've worked for some Royal azzholes I didn't like and who couldn't manage to lead a bunch of starving Boy Scout across the street to McDonald's giveing away free hamburgers, after having been lost in the woods for a month! Dump this clown! You don't need the grief!
amaysngrace Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 It sounds like he is calling you the names he feels he, himself, is. Projecting. I think that's what it's called. When he complains about you, it is just a taste of what he's feeling about himself. Some people do this. I agree with the above poster...why isn't he working?
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