Shimmer Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Hi everyone, My story is complex but I'll try and condense it as much as possible. I've had this guy friend for about 3 years, who has liked me for that time. I dated other people, but this year I found myself falling for him. So I told him how I felt.. but was unsure of what to do.. I'm doing my HSC which is an important school year so I kept him hanging on (which I regret now) telling him I wanted to wait till the end of the year till we got together. He was cool with that. Soon enough I felt guilty though, and thus we got together. It was wonderful while it lasted... I had some insecurity issues about his ex but apart from that we were happy. He kept telling me he had never felt this way about someone before, I was special because he had liked me for long, all his other relationships had been opportunistic, I was the only one he had ever really liked, etc. We finally said "I love you" Then only a mere couple of days after saying that, it all went wrong. Some guy adds me to IM, starts telling me that my bf has been saying stuff behind my back.. still loves his ex and I'm only "okay for now", he was using me, etc the guy showed me conversations and everything. Naturally I confront my bf about it, went off at him, he went off at me. I left, then came back a few hours later apologizing. He is mad I didn't trust him and trusted a internet guy over him. I say I want to work things out... And then he dumps me on the spot. Says he had been planning to do it for a while.. we were too different, I was too insecure, this year was too important, etc. Asked to be friends still. I refused, and we didn't speak for two weeks. Then we got back to school, second day back he speaks to me. We discuss the guy who added me, trying to figure out who it was, we say all the things we wanted to say but didn't get to, he says maybe we can work things out and get back together. Later he goes back on that, saying he doesn't want to go out with me anymore, he only wants to be friends. We fight again, he calls me a bitch for not wanting to be friends, we stop talking for a week. Then he invites me to his party, says he wants to put it all behind him, reluctantly I go and we act as normal, and I have a good time. But I still love him so. Reason I didn't want to be friends with him anymore, because I knew I'd never get over him. Well, I see him all the time at school and we speak little.. say hi every now and then. But my feelings for him are really strong. We were only together a month, if even that.. but he seemed to REALLY like me..and I liked him and that's why I don't understand why he give up on us so easily. Yes, I admit believing the guy online was bad but I don't know why we couldn't work through it, especially if he liked me as he said he did. I just don't know what to do. Everytime I see him, I get that weird feeling in my stomach and I cry when I see places we used to go, or hear our song. It's been nearly two months, and I'm still completely on him. - How do I get over him? - Is he worth it? - Was it my fault it all happened? - Should I tell him how I feel, see if he EVER wants to get back? etc etc Thank you so much for your help
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