backwardsattraction Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 my boyfriend of three years and i just recently split ways. actually it happened yesterday, and I know it may be too soon for any advice, but i really need it. I need to talk to people who don't know me so that they will be brutally honest. we argue alot, all of his friends are girls. he goes out to eat with them, not to resturants (usually) but just out. him and i never go out, and i guess it could be because neither of us have cars. but it still bothers me, and he doesnt understand. i cant talk to him either because he gets mad and defensive. hes a great guy and treats me well aside from all of this. but yesterday i finally said "if we dont make eachother happy, lets just end it" and he said "you always just want to end it, you never want to work things out" which i do try, but it never works and i feel tired of it all. and then he said "a break would be good though" what do i do? do i talk to him? a little? do i move on? do we discuss what needs to change? do i let him be? i have never been through this, and its rough.
Guest Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I think that one of the most important things in a relationship is the ability to communicate. If one person in a relationship is not willing to sit down and discuss what the problem is and how to fix it then you can never move in a positive direction. Things will continue to move down the path that they are right now for you and that obviously is not what you want. I had the same problem with my ex and it is very frustrating. All I can say from my experience is that if he is not willing to talk and make the changes that are necessary to make the relationship work then maybe you should find someone who is willing to do those things for you. Dont waste your time being frustrated I know how tough it is to make someone change thier ways. Relationships should be easy not a chore.
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