SamX Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 My BF and I are in the process of breakng up. He moved in while he was looking for a house and has decided he does not want to be together any more. This is no surprise. He has been wanting it for som time but he has stayed out of guilt because I break down every time he brings it up. The love is gone and so is the passion. He has been emotionally abusive for quite some time. I admit fault in the relationship as well though. I am agressive and difficult. But, never cruel like him. He says things I would never imagine someone who loved me would say. Never threats just really cruel comments about my person and body. We were long distance for 2 years and I moved here to be with him. It has been 2 years and he does not feel like he wants to marry me. He feels someone else out there is better suited for him. My question is how do I handle this with grace? I am an emotional wreck. He does not have a house yet so we are stuck until he puts an offer on a house he has been looking at. My freinds and family say to kick him out but there is a aprt of me that hopes he will stay. I still love him even though he does not love me. I am turning 30 in a couple of weeks and we had plans to celebrate because we have the same birthday. I guess those plans are out now. I am just lost. I am going to be 30 and single. I know this is not a healthy realtionship but why cant I let go?
shepshep1100 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 i know how you feel, my bf just broke up with me last saturday and my 30th is on this saturday. he has his ex girlfriend pregnant, we just moved into a place and it sucks to have to be in the same place with a man like that, If he doesnt want you then why do you want him, ask your what would you get by him staying, hes not going to change and be a nicer person. hes not just going to start loving you again. he has set him mind to having this relationship be over and you need to do the same. he is not worth your tears. nor is he worth your time. He should stay with some one untill his permanant move and he can put his stuff in storage, if thats not an option maybe you can stay with a friend for a while untill he is gone. i know its hard to move on, but be glad you can make an easy break, you dont have kids to worrie about or a marrige to disolve. you will land with your feet on the ground, i did, with in a week i was moved out
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