Smung Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Ok, I just had to log back in and help out if I can. I have not been on this site for awhile, Why? Well... I am done coping. I was hurt by a breakup I had about 4 months ago. I thought I was a total TOOL for caring for someone who didn't want to be with me and figured it was because I was, well.. a tool!! I started reading this board and noticed that MANY were going through the same pain I was and it helped me make a choice. remain sorry for myself OR MOVE ON! I decided to go out. Start a new business and find someone else to spend some time with. Going out with friends helped, but I really was in no mood to date right after my breakup. BUT, I kept at it and in no time I started enjoying life again. Wanting to go out to fairs with friends, see movies, walk in the park AND enjoy it!! People, there is hope and it's up to you to move on. Don't hold on to a love that doesn't love you the way you Deserve to be loved! There are so many out there looking for you... GO OUT AND FIND THAT PERSON!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 What exactly do you meen by tool? meaning she used you??
PeanutHead88 Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 What exactly do you meen by tool? Did she use you?
AriaIncognito Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Excellent post smung :-) Many people here can stand to hear that over and over again. Good luck to you, and very happy to hear you are doing so well! Jennifer
loveinlife Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Thanks smung for the inspiration. I have been doing all the above and still feel unhappy at times. Maybe i was really commited to my ex. It was the first for everything and i felt comfortable and happy with her. I wish it all never happened sometimes. Why her? Never been in love b4 before her and I am afraid to get hurt or trust another person again. i just feel its hard for me to give them my all. But im happy for you. Nice to hear you are doing so well.
Author Smung Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Brittney and Peanut yes, tool= used. But the point is that the people on this board need to understand that Moving on is a choice one makes. It's tough, painful, but is the only way to TAKE your love life back!! Also, it seems to happen that once you have moved on. Your ex has a nasty habit of coming back around, so WATCH OUT!! You are all wonderful and I thank all of you for your help the last 4 months! Take care Jason
Brittjean06 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Ah my ex at 19 years is getting married from what his new girlfriend wrote on her blog. I was told I was the tool, by my ex and his friends. Looking back on it it was very hurtful. But what comes around goes around and I'm fighting back. I'm sorry you were the tool screw her but good inspiration! I'm glad you are letting go. Hopefully your ex will be used as a tool at one point in her life.
a4a Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Ah my ex at 19 years is getting married from what his new girlfriend wrote on her blog. I was told I was the tool, by my ex and his friends. Looking back on it it was very hurtful. But what comes around goes around and I'm fighting back. I'm sorry you were the tool screw her but good inspiration! I'm glad you are letting go. Hopefully your ex will be used as a tool at one point in her life. what does fighting back mean? BJ not to be cruel but it has been a year.. he is getting married or they claim they are. There is not a whole lot you can do. If they are posting nastiness about you the best response is to either ignore it or simply ask them to stop as you have moved on and wish them happiness. If it is any indication from your posting here about him and your obsession of him for all this time(1 year) do you think in RL they got wind of your thoughts about him and thus posted such things in a blog? Perhaps they see that you are logging onto her website??? Not sure how those things work....... Sorry to jack the thread...... and congrats Smung.... job well done.
Brittjean06 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 It's okay your not being cruel, your just telling me that truth. Yeah its been a year but to heal these certain things it takes new things to come in to your life to fully heal you. Has that happend to me yet no? I have a very bruised ego so I really am trying to make the best of all this, I really am trying to hold together. Wow I am strong haha
LaraV Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 It's okay your not being cruel, your just telling me that truth. Yeah its been a year but to heal these certain things it takes new things to come in to your life to fully heal you. Has that happend to me yet no? I have a very bruised ego so I really am trying to make the best of all this, I really am trying to hold together. Wow I am strong haha And I think you have made the best of your situation, Britt. I must admit I am utterly amazed at how you've managed to do NC for a year, given your age, it seems like a rather mature thing. I definitely didn't have as "together" as you when I was your age.
Brittjean06 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Well I guess it has been easy considering I had too, and he hasn't spoken to me which is a good thing. Luckily I've learned all this pretty young, a very hurtful experience! haah thank you though
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