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Is it the fact that your EX has moved on to someone else so quickly, or is it because you cant. Isn't it fair to assume the same stance as an Ex. Why cant those of us who have been rejected, act just as cold? Why will it more than likely take some of us a great while to move on with someone else, when our Ex's will be off dating, getting engaged ect... while we sit on our stupid broken a$$e$$ and whine?

 

When I think about dating again, I just feel so cold inside. I have absolutely no desire to go there right now. I have talked with a few women and I just never ever felt that connection. I for one cannot pretend to be interested in someone just for the sake of having someone by my side. Im weird like that I suppose.. hehe

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It's not really fun when they haven't moved on either. When it becomes a "No...maybe...no... maybe" situation. Feels like you're stabbed, and they're still holding the hilt on the knife, and you're wondering if they're going to take it out and try to heal the wound, or if at any minute they're going to twist it and finish you off for good.

 

And you keep trying to muster the conviction to really truly end it yourself... but continue to find yourself lacking.

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it hurts more when you try and compare your pain, or try and justify your feelings against an incomparable.

 

To each his own. Take YOUR time and do YOUR healing.

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Is it the fact that your EX has moved on to someone else so quickly, or is it because you cant.

 

The latter. There's nothing noble or pleasant or heroic in loving in vain someone that doesn't love you back.

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Both. and the fact that their getting married at 19. I new this would happen. Its all hurtful on the ego too

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Hi,

 

Is it the fact that your EX has moved on to someone else so quickly, or is it because you cant.

 

Nah, none of that, I lost my soulmate and it had taken me forever to find him :( .

 

Ariadne

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Yep thats the jist of it, how can some one who claims they love u so much then go on 2 another so fast, i dont no how any one can b so cruel or is it me being so weak?

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Yep thats the jist of it, how can some one who claims they love u so much then go on 2 another so fast, i dont no how any one can b so cruel or is it me being so weak?

 

People think they are in love when they are actually not. when they can move on quickly , obviously means it was not troo love ... people say these things without knowing what it actually means ... its different for everyone

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i no what u mean and deep down i no he just cared about me , the thing that hurts the most is i was in love with him, i gave him my heart and my soul and he ripped them apart :o/

Dont u just wish sometimes u could turn back time?

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Do you wish that you could see your lovers as things, as objects that you can keep or simply toss? Do you wish that your love for another was shallow, an inch deep and a mile wide? Do you wish you could love another without giving your heart and feeling any true emotions? Do you wish you could be a consummate ACTOR and pretend to go around falling in love with someone you met a few weeks ago? Do you wish you could lie to your lovers and not have any guilt or remorse about it?

 

If your wish came true and you could suddenly do all of these things, then you too could move on and have a new lover instantly, like your X did.

 

regards

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What hurts the most is that they don't care anymore. Them being with someone else is just a reflection of this unless it's a rebound.

 

If it's a rebound than seeing someone else has nothing to do with whether s/he is over you. Consider that you are the odd point on the rebound triangle or that your are in, if you will, a threebound situation. It may be not so much their way of getting over you as their way of getting through the breakup. Which isn't that pretty, either, but still.

 

The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. And there's nothing you can do about it but accept that and the pain that comes with it. And hold on to the fact that the pain won't last forever.

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Do you wish that you could see your lovers as things, as objects that you can keep or simply toss? Do you wish that your love for another was shallow, an inch deep and a mile wide? Do you wish you could love another without giving your heart and feeling any true emotions? Do you wish you could be a consummate ACTOR and pretend to go around falling in love with someone you met a few weeks ago? Do you wish you could lie to your lovers and not have any guilt or remorse about it?

 

If your wish came true and you could suddenly do all of these things, then you too could move on and have a new lover instantly, like your X did.

 

regards

 

Thats a very good point... Thanks

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