Guest Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 If there is anyone who has hired a PI before, can you tell me me cost. Just an estimate at least? I guess it goes by what all you want done and for how loing right? Are consultations free? I'm really not sure if I'm going this route or not, but its something I may need to consider.
linn949 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I found mine on the internet,To look up a licence plate was $30.00
Mz. Pixie Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Why not skip the cost of this and do your own snooping?? Borrow a car of a friends and the next time they are out and you're suspicious follow them.
Guest Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Why not skip the cost of this and do your own snooping?? Borrow a car of a friends and the next time they are out and you're suspicious follow them. I have thought of this, but doesn't seem workable for me. I don't have any friends around here at the moment to be able to borrow a car. Snooping as far as me doing, its probably not a good idea. I don't want to go the PI rougte either really, becasue of expense, but it might be something to consider. I really need them to just check out one thing, that I have no info on.
Owl Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Don't know your situation, but a good thought IS to do your own snooping. Take what ya need from this: Buy a keylogger for your home computer to track emails/chat sessions. Works great to get passwords to gain access to these. Get an online invoice setup for your mobile phones. Most companies will provide them easily. Snoop his cell phone (text log, phone book, call history) when he's asleep (get him good and drunk some nite if he tends to sleep first...LOL) Get a DIGITAL (read, no moving parts, so totally silent) recorder and place this in your spouse's car to listen to his half of conversations that he has there. Put a digital recorder in any room your H tends to take calls in...like if he's in the habit of taking his cell phone into the bathroom with him or something. If he's going out to places and you're concerned with anything he's doing...have a friend that he doesn't know follow him and observe what he's doing. Use this ESPECIALLY when you suspect he's going to meet with OW or whatever.
Owl Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 What's the "one thing"? We might be able to help you figure out how to manage it.
stoopid_guy Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Don't know your situation, but a good thought IS to do your own snooping. Take what ya need from this: Buy a keylogger for your home computer to track emails/chat sessions. Works great to get passwords to gain access to these. Get an online invoice setup for your mobile phones. Most companies will provide them easily. Snoop his cell phone (text log, phone book, call history) when he's asleep (get him good and drunk some nite if he tends to sleep first...LOL) Get a DIGITAL (read, no moving parts, so totally silent) recorder and place this in your spouse's car to listen to his half of conversations that he has there. Put a digital recorder in any room your H tends to take calls in...like if he's in the habit of taking his cell phone into the bathroom with him or something. If he's going out to places and you're concerned with anything he's doing...have a friend that he doesn't know follow him and observe what he's doing. Use this ESPECIALLY when you suspect he's going to meet with OW or whatever. Hate to say it, but those steps would pi$$ me off so much I would leave! Talk to him, voice your concerns, but invading his privacy (yes, married people deserve privacy) is as low as cheating. If you don't trust the guy, let him go! If he deserves your mistrust, you're better off without him. If he doesn't deserve your mistrust, he's better off without you.
JamesM Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Don't go overboard on the snooping. What is the one thing? Someone here may be able to give you some reassurance or direction.
Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Personally, if you have doubts, your instincts are probably right on the money. Spend it - get your mind clear and move onto a happier life!
RecordProducer Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Rent a car with cash and buy a hat then change your hair and follow him around. You can also spy his phone and emails. Look it up on the net.
Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hate to say it, but those steps would pi$$ me off so much I would leave! Talk to him, voice your concerns, but invading his privacy (yes, married people deserve privacy) is as low as cheating. If you don't trust the guy, let him go! If he deserves your mistrust, you're better off without him. If he doesn't deserve your mistrust, he's better off without you. Since I have worked in the PI field for awhile now, the most common mistakes people make when they feel something is up, is confronting their spouse. I'm all for marriages working, and talking, communication etc. I have delt with so many cases where a spouse will talk to their spouse about things, how they feel etc, just to be left hanging with no proof of anything, but yet their gut instinct is still screaming something is wrong. If you ever suspect your spouse or partner is doing something, NEVER call them out on it. Do not let them know you know something is up. WHY? You will blow the whole thing if you are trying to find something out. Chances are they wont stop whatever they are doing, they will become better at hiding, and take extra steps to hide it becasue they know you know something is up. This is not about me wanting people to hire a PI, me wanting your money and not communicating with your spouse. Thats what you are supposed to do anyway. Most people do not refer to a PI off the bat. They usually have been suspicious for awhile and still are not getting clear cut answers as to whats going, so they call a PI. They usually will talk, communicate to their spouse how they feel, they might even do some snooping themselves to get to the bottom of things. Alot of times they do a great job at finding out what they need too. Then there are some who would rather hire PI's. Its their call. I get so many people who say, "I have heard if things are so bad that you hire a PI then the marriage is already over. False! That is not always the case. The marriage is over depending on what the 2 people involved are wanting or not wanting. Most people do not snoop just to be snooping, and as one said it would piss them off. Sure everyone is entilted to privacy, but if something is up, and someone can't quite put their finger on it, then yes chances are they will snoop to get to the bottom of it. Theres actually alot more people who snoop than they are willing to admit. Also, some people feel snooping is not a good thing, but neither is what a spouse might or might not be doing. One is no different than the other. Most people want to know whats going on. To the OP, the cost of PI's varies. It depends on what needs to be done and for how long. The longer and more in depth the investigation the more it may cost. Looking into one or two things might not run you as high.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hate to say it, but those steps would pi$$ me off so much I would leave! Talk to him, voice your concerns, but invading his privacy (yes, married people deserve privacy) is as low as cheating. If you don't trust the guy, let him go! If he deserves your mistrust, you're better off without him. If he doesn't deserve your mistrust, he's better off without you. Stoopid- Sorry I disagree. Married people should not hold secrets against each other- especially relationships with the opposite sex. Married people deserve privacy until they do something to make their spouse uncomfortable. But that privacy doesn't include anything that would be damaging to the marriage. People have a instinct about them and they need to listen to it more. Usually where there is smoke there is fire. People like Owl loved their wives and didn't want divorces. Snooping helped them find out what was going on and repair their marriages. When kids and property and years and years are involved the cost is high and it's like war to save your marriage. And if you'll read his posts you can see that he saved his. They lose the right to privacy when their actions are not honorable and instead sneaky. A cheating spouse is all full of justification and will not tell the truth in the first place. It's usually snooping that helps the betrayed spouse find out what's going on. The betrayed spouse deserves that knowledge.
stoopid_guy Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Every person and relationship is different. I don't even go into my wife's purse without asking, and don't expect her to go into my wallet. I understand what you're saying Pixie, but I put a lot more importance on "space."
JackJack Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Every person and relationship is different. I don't even go into my wife's purse without asking, and don't expect her to go into my wallet. I understand what you're saying Pixie, but I put a lot more importance on "space." Thats easy for you to say right now, becasue chances are she hasn't given you reason to feel the need to snoop. Until you have been in a situation such as that, its hard to understand why someone might would snoop. If you ask her if you can go in her purse, thats great, but if things all of a sudden seem off balance, and things just don't seem right to you, after you have talked with her about things, and you feel you're not getting an aswer for why things seem the way they are, you might would snoop to get to the bottom of it as well. Not saying you would, but most people who don't have answers to whats going on, usually would do that.
Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Stoopid- Sorry I disagree. Married people should not hold secrets against each other- especially relationships with the opposite sex. Married people deserve privacy until they do something to make their spouse uncomfortable. But that privacy doesn't include anything that would be damaging to the marriage. People have a instinct about them and they need to listen to it more. Usually where there is smoke there is fire. People like Owl loved their wives and didn't want divorces. Snooping helped them find out what was going on and repair their marriages. When kids and property and years and years are involved the cost is high and it's like war to save your marriage. And if you'll read his posts you can see that he saved his. They lose the right to privacy when their actions are not honorable and instead sneaky. A cheating spouse is all full of justification and will not tell the truth in the first place. It's usually snooping that helps the betrayed spouse find out what's going on. The betrayed spouse deserves that knowledge. Thank you...this is totally my point. I don't want to snoop or hire a PI, but things in the marraige have gotten to the point to where I'm wondering whats going on, and sometimes people have to do what they have to do. I'm not a paranoid or supicious person by nature, never have been. But the radar goes up when I feel something is not right or I'm not getting answers. My husband is the type that would never tell me anything anyway. Its like pulling teeth with him just to get him to tel me he has a headache. I mean really. Anyway, theres a number on the cell bill he seems to know nothing about. However, its received calls to his cell, plus he has dialed this person back as well. Its also stored in his cell phonebook. I have asked him about who it was that was in his cell phonebook, I know all others in there but just this one person. He tells me its someone he works with, just like the others he works with. However according to his work, they have never heard of this person. So theres a lie right there. He then changes his story and says it must have been someone from along time ago and he couldn't remember. However this is a recent number. He even called me out on it once when the number was on the cell bill, asking ME who this person was. I said I was going to ask you the same thing, since the number is called to your cell. He didn't say a thing, and then the calls stopped, came to a complete halt. Now they are starting back up again out of the blue. I thought about the digital voice recorder. The only thing with that is, he goes to work parks his car then he is out on a job site all day. So the only recording it would do would be while he was in his car to and from work, and I don't see where any calls are made or received while on his way in. Its usually made when he is out at work. I wouldn't know really who he was on the cell with. I know the name and number of this person, but thats all the info I have at this point. Its a cell based number form a town about 45 minutes from my home. The point is, he seems to know nothing of this person, but its on the cell bill and stored in his cell phone. There has to be a reason for that.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Thats easy for you to say right now, becasue chances are she hasn't given you reason to feel the need to snoop. Until you have been in a situation such as that, its hard to understand why someone might would snoop. If you ask her if you can go in her purse, thats great, but if things all of a sudden seem off balance, and things just don't seem right to you, after you have talked with her about things, and you feel you're not getting an aswer for why things seem the way they are, you might would snoop to get to the bottom of it as well. Not saying you would, but most people who don't have answers to whats going on, usually would do that. I will never be naive. I know how common cheating is, and how easy it is to get away with. Jackjack- you're absolutely right.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Thank you...this is totally my point. I don't want to snoop or hire a PI, but things in the marraige have gotten to the point to where I'm wondering whats going on, and sometimes people have to do what they have to do. I'm not a paranoid or supicious person by nature, never have been. But the radar goes up when I feel something is not right or I'm not getting answers. My husband is the type that would never tell me anything anyway. Its like pulling teeth with him just to get him to tel me he has a headache. I mean really. Anyway, theres a number on the cell bill he seems to know nothing about. However, its received calls to his cell, plus he has dialed this person back as well. Its also stored in his cell phonebook. I have asked him about who it was that was in his cell phonebook, I know all others in there but just this one person. He tells me its someone he works with, just like the others he works with. However according to his work, they have never heard of this person. So theres a lie right there. He then changes his story and says it must have been someone from along time ago and he couldn't remember. However this is a recent number. He even called me out on it once when the number was on the cell bill, asking ME who this person was. I said I was going to ask you the same thing, since the number is called to your cell. He didn't say a thing, and then the calls stopped, came to a complete halt. Now they are starting back up again out of the blue. I thought about the digital voice recorder. The only thing with that is, he goes to work parks his car then he is out on a job site all day. So the only recording it would do would be while he was in his car to and from work, and I don't see where any calls are made or received while on his way in. Its usually made when he is out at work. I wouldn't know really who he was on the cell with. I know the name and number of this person, but thats all the info I have at this point. Its a cell based number form a town about 45 minutes from my home. The point is, he seems to know nothing of this person, but its on the cell bill and stored in his cell phone. There has to be a reason for that. My red flag is going up Guest because when I was having my affair- I kinda did the same thing. Perhaps someone here can post some info about how you can get that phone number information. There are reverse cell phone look ups somewhere. Perhaps Owl will come back and check in and give you some info.
JamesM Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Here is a cell phone number lookup....searchdetective.net I have not personally used it to find a name, but when I entered my own, it gave the carrier and said the name of the person was available. For $15, they would tell me. Do a google for cell phone number directory. I think you will find answers to your mysterious number.
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