laRubiaBonita Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 so my bf had said he would come over on sunday, and we would spend the morning/ afternoon together before i had to work at 3. so i texted him when i woke up, did not hear from him till 11:30 or so..... i had found a sub to work for me, and i was gonna make dinner, so i called him around a little after 12, to let him know that i had gotten off work, i was making dinner, he was invited to come over. around 2 or 3, i told him to come over aroung 6-ish..... since he hadn't shown up yet anyways. then i let him know my parents would be home around 7 and we would eat dinner after they got home. at 7:30 my family and i, no bf, sat down to dinner. i never heard a word from him. so around 9 something i texted that i guessed he would not be coming and i appriciated the prior heads up. so i get this email today: Regarding Sunday- I'll explain my position, I would like for you to do the same, and then I'd just like to move on from the fact that I misunderstood you, and that our communication with each other, just wasn't on point. The only reason that I didn't come up in the afternoon on Sunday, was because I was under the impression that you were getting laundry done, that you were cleaning the house, and that you were busy trying to get casseroles and whatever else, ready for dinner (at a time that I wasn't real sure when that would be). I didn't want to slow you down or get in the way, or be stuck sitting around watching tv. That being said, if you had made the request that you would like me to have come up, early in the afternoon, I clearly would have obliged. As for dinner, the only time that I was aware of was that your parents were coming home, sometime possibly around 7. Were you going to be sitting down to eat as soon as they got home? Would dinner be ready within a half hour AFTER they got home? What time were you going to have dinner if they were running later than 7-ish? Sooo. . . as i assumed that you and Charlyn were busy getting thrings ready (and still cleaning or doing laundry- i dunno), I waited to hear back from you- specifically WHAT time you wanted me to swing up? I even asked you as much. Not what time your parents were going to be getting home, but what time you wanted ME to swing up. By 8:00, I hadn't heard from you so i went ahead and heated up something to eat here. I'm sorry for the miscommunication and the lack of effort on my part. In the future, please be clear if you would like me to come up, earlier in the day. Or, if I ask what time you would like ME to meet you, please give me a specific time. I would have been more than willing to come up, at any point yesterday. With all that being said (in which I really didn't want the week to get off on this kinda start), I hope that you have yourself a good Monday. Again, I apologize that things didn't pan out the way we had hoped, yesterday. so i replied: Well here is my take on the miscommunications. Firstly, you had mentioned coming over in the morning, I texted you, but never heard back until after 12 or something. So I was going on the assumption that you were still going to be coming over that day. Then I thought it was clear that I said come over after 6-ish…….. then I just let you know that my folks would be home a little after 7, hence we would eat shortly thereafter…. but not right away. It is just that you could have called to get a specific time, or see what was going on. Just mean what you say, and say what you mean. but the thing that bugs me the most is he'll make plans, then cancel them or just plain flake out. like we were to go see a movie on sat. afternoon, i rushed from work to his house, were i was gonna shower and get ready.... and he says, is it ok if we just go next weekend.... blah blah blah.... really i was tired, so i did not care that much.... but if it were me saying i am tired, lets go another time... he would have been put out. and he'll say he *might* drop by and see me, at work on the weekends.... i lifeguard.... but he'll flake and not come.... Suuure he said Might.... well do not tell me there is even a possibility then...... ugh!
blind_otter Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I dunno about his excuses. It seems like you make a lot more effort than he does. With the driving while you were house sitting and his flakiness regarding plans. And that's a whole lot of explanation and excuse making, which I don't tolerate with children, much less with adults. The way I see it, the more words you use to explain why you did something, the more likely it is that those words are just ass-covering manuevers.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 I dunno about his excuses. It seems like you make a lot more effort than he does. With the driving while you were house sitting and his flakiness regarding plans. And that's a whole lot of explanation and excuse making, which I don't tolerate with children, much less with adults. The way I see it, the more words you use to explain why you did something, the more likely it is that those words are just ass-covering manuevers. agreed..... and now he is acting all sheepish....... normal we banter online back and forth. i have, surprisingly been the bigger person too, i think. my normal reaction would be to ignore him and let him make the first contact. but last night i texted him goodnight, i texted him this a.m. good morning, he replied back to that one. i have emailed him my "explaination".... but to his personal email. and then i have emailed him at work, with the regular hows your day kinda stuff..... he replied he was steadily busy.... that's all. gawd..... why does he make this soo hard?
blind_otter Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I dunno but maybe he's operating by the ALPHAMALE 50% ******* rule.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 ugh..... so now he is being a big terd-head...... we are going on vaca next week, a few days at the beach then we are gonna meet up with his folks at their timeshare. and know he is like... "if you are still going"...... and he wants to stay at one beach, i want to stay at another..... i am going to scream!
Author laRubiaBonita Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 is he not that into you? he says he is head over heels for me. he did get us a place booked at the beach i want to go to!! yay me! we'll see if i can stand him, and if he can stand me for a whole week!
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