crazywelshchick Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Hiya all my problem is this..... I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years and we have just split up and I am not sure what too do about him he is txting me things like "I cant eat sleep or do anything without you" I feel terrible about it but still dont want to go back heres our relationship so you can see if I should or not go back. I first met the guy when I was 7 he was 8 and as soon as i saw him even at that young age my stomach flipped and i ran home LOL then as we were growing up (he lived in the street behind mine) I sort of stalked him he hung around with a bunch of older kids one of whom being my mates relative so I was always around him, when i got to 14 i decided to push it up a level as i was obviously not getting through to him so I wrote my name with his all over the bt box outside his house where his gang congretated and that resulted in a quick snog one sat morning whilst he was waiting for his mates to come out!!! still nothing so for the next few years I tried everything I even convinced his mother one morning to let me in too make him breakfast and was there when he woke up (scary or what lol ) needless to say still nothing I was a good looking girl not scary at all so after a few more years of waiting oppopsite his place of work and watching him deliver milk at 5am from my bedroom window I gave up and at 17 left the area I had another relationship that resulted in 2 gorgeous children, many black eyes and broken ribs, I came back home at 20 got my self sorted and over the previous relationship met up with all my old friends heard snatches about him and found that he had a child also, On my 21st birthday i went out for a drink and bumped into him and found him to be very interested in me but playing it cool i decided to leave and go too another pub i had forgotten all about him by 12pm and ended up in some illegal rave in a filed somewhere I bumped into him again but this time being worse for wear i snogged him and told him to call down sometime so i went off home and nipped into my neighbours house and low and behold guess who knocked my door at 6am I couldnt believe it to be honest (no i didnt answer the door i was watching from my neighbours window lol ) over the next few weeks i forgot all about it and carried on my life then I got a knock on the door and he was there saying he would like to take me out from then on we were in a relationship which was very up and down he would call one day then i wouldnt see him for weeks after 3 years i found out i was pregnant I told him he seemed ok about it untill the next day he came down and told me he was not happy and he had spoken to his mother and I should get rid of it I was deverstated but felt unable to cope on my own with another child so I told him I will have his abortion but I never want to see him again six months later we got back together ( me doing the chasing) and this time he was all over me like nothing else had ever happened I got pregant again and we decided to keep the child (lil boy) i was all loved up and then he started the crap again calling round one day then not for weeks but this time i had a child this happened on and off for the next 3 years and I always chased him back now 9 years on our relationship did get better (we also have another son and 5 years ago moved into together permanently ) but now its all over last august I decided enough was enough I couldnt take it any more I had 4 kids and was not allowed out as he dosent babysit (his words even tho they are his kids) so I kicked him out and sorted myself out he got his way back in but we have not slept together since I cant do it its like I have a mental block when it comes to sex with him I have tried just to satsify him but i dont want it so 4 weeks ago I told him its all gone and we should split I feel so strongly about this too this time there will be no going back but he is txting me saying these things and i feel guilty he is accusing me of all sorts and I cannot cope what should I do? can anyone else see that over the years he has given me such crap that he has killed the relationship or is it me??? I think he thinks I am fridgid or something I just dont know what to do next!!! ps sorry for the long post buts best to see it from the start to get the picture!!! thanks guys
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