bobbi678 Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Maybe I am just being paranoid about this whole situation, but since my boyfriend and I talked last night he told me something that has been bothering me all day. We have been dating for alittle over a month and a half. Its not serious, but everything has been going great between us. Recently, he made a trip to visit his mom and some of his old highschool friends across country. Before I met him, he was seeing a girl that I was just name "Anna". "Anna" cheated on him a few times years ago and that is how their relationship ended. I don't believe he has ever gotten over getting hurt, but then again not many people can. Anyways, we got to talking last night and he told me that before he went on his trip she had called him. He told me that she had wanted to sleep with him when he went to visit his mom and some friends. I automatically asked "what his response was?" And he said that he was to much into "shock" to really answer her. Then he said when he did see her, that she said that she hadn't meant to ask him to sleep with her and that she was just going through a hard time. The thing is......he keep this from me for weeks. First...I don't understand why he would keep something like that from me unless I should be suspicious. And second.....I wonder if he actually went through with it. Maybe I am just being extremely paranoid, but I am just afraid of getting hurt really bad and Im not sure exactly what I should do about this situation. Should I have a right to be suspicious?
norajane Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 If you've only been dating for 6 weeks, and you say he 'kept' this from you for weeks, you were only dating a very, very short time when all this happened. I'm surprised he told you at all...you were barely a couple. It's a good sign that he even told you since you would never have known if he hadn't. Don't make too much of this. If he had slept with her, he would never have mentioned this to you.
Author bobbi678 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 yes that makes sense. But we are also past the dating stage and are actually boyfriend and girlfriend. So if he did end up sleeping with her, then it would be considered cheating.
CrushedOrgans Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 If he had slept with her, he would never have mentioned this to you. sometimes that's true. other times, people like to talk about something that is very present on their minds, so they find a way to bring it up without actually telling anything truly incriminating about themselves. then they can pull the "i didn't even have to mention this to you" line when suspicion comes round.
Author bobbi678 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 So CrushedOrgan...what do you think the deal is?
CrushedOrgans Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 So CrushedOrgan...what do you think the deal is? i think it is just as likely that he did as that he did not. honestly, i don't know. i do know i would feel the same way you do, and would probably be going crazy trying to find out. i wish you a lot of luck with this, and i hope it doesn't drive you mad. suspicion is a tough nut to crack, because it is always easier to accept someone's proven guilt than their proven innocence.
Author bobbi678 Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 Thanks for the advice CrushedOrgans. The problem with suspicious is that once it starts...its hard to move past it. Im not sure what to do and I'm just afraid of being played.
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