jimmy20013 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 I am pretty sure you all are familiar with my story so I wont bore you with the mundane details. Basically, I got dumped 2 months ago by my first GF. It was her 6th relationship but the first serious one. She wanted to marry me and she called me her soulmate. We really loved each other. My question is, even though it has been more than 2 months since we broke up, does she still think of me? Because I do. When she hears the songs I used to sing for her, does she remember me? Does she miss my touch? When she does things that we used to do together, does she think of me? I ask because I think of her and I miss her. I am just curious how she feels. I never really understood woman. I don't understand how they can get so emotional at times and in the next moment just walk away from the person they promised to spend their life with. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to do that. The kind of strength I dont have.
Walk Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I'm gonna be honest with you. She probably thinks of you often... depending on how long the two of you were together. I "dumped" my ex little over 3 years ago. Right after we first split those memories mostly caused me anger, and pain. There were a lot of unresolved feelings, animosity, hurt, etc. So when I was reminded of him, they were bad memories. Hurtful, angry, unhappy. Some were good, but they'd make me upset because I felt like those were all false because of all the bad. Anyway, I still think about him, remember good and bad times.. I see it more clearly now. Without all the emotions and anger clouding the actual events. Some of them were great times, and I look back at them fondly. Like the time we went mountain biking in a severe thunderstorm and we were soaked, and covered in mud from head to toe. So yes... she probably does think of you often. But depending on how the two of you left the relationship, and how honest she is with herself, determines how she remembers the past. It's probably not with the same longing as you might have. But it doesnt' mean she doesn't cherish what you once shared. And I'd guarantee that some days she misses how it used to be. And somedays she's probably angry at you. A wide range of emotions depending on the day and the memory. One last thing... All the hurt and pain and anger that was in my past relationship, I still (with all my heart) want my ex to be happy. I didn't want to ruin his life, I'd love for him to find a woman who adores him and would love to be his wife. I just wasn't happy there, and knew I couldn't make him happy if I wasn't happy.
magichands Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 One last thing... All the hurt and pain and anger that was in my past relationship, I still (with all my heart) want my ex to be happy. I didn't want to ruin his life, I'd love for him to find a woman who adores him and would love to be his wife. I just wasn't happy there, and knew I couldn't make him happy if I wasn't happy. That's a lovely sentiment. Maybe you can focus on this thought.
LaraV Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Depends, Jimmy. Once I broke up with an ex fiance of mine and I thought about him all the time. I broke up because at the time his actions were hurting me, and I knew I had to get away, but by no means had I stopped loving him, and since we kept in contact, well, it was that much more painful. Another time I left a guy I just didn't love anymore, and I'm sad to say that I don't even remember the break up or the days after. Honestly, I think I was totally fine and hardly ever thought about him.
9Lives Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Well it just depend what happen between you to and what she wanted from you. If she believes that she loves you but you cant or wont make her happy or you have unresolved issue that if she comes back will still be there, she wont be thinking about you as much because she wants to move ehead. Not that she dont love you or anything. Not that she dont want you. She is just taking control of her life and not letting anyone stop her. I dont know the whole situation by far but most of the time,,,,,women are that strong if they have been hurt by you or fed up with something.....something like that. Why do you want her back?
stillafool Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I am pretty sure you all are familiar with my story so I wont bore you with the mundane details. Basically, I got dumped 2 months ago by my first GF. It was her 6th relationship but the first serious one. She wanted to marry me and she called me her soulmate. We really loved each other. My question is, even though it has been more than 2 months since we broke up, does she still think of me? Because I do. When she hears the songs I used to sing for her, does she remember me? Does she miss my touch? When she does things that we used to do together, does she think of me? I ask because I think of her and I miss her. I am just curious how she feels. I never really understood woman. I don't understand how they can get so emotional at times and in the next moment just walk away from the person they promised to spend their life with. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to do that. The kind of strength I dont have. How long were you together? Why did you break up? I would say if she's like most of us women who love a man - she can't stop thinking about you. She definitely misses your touch and probably by now even the annoying things you use to do are funny to her. I don't know why you broke up or your story but if you feel the way you do why not give her a call. Unless of course you are talking about a married woman.
bluegal79 Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I'm so sorry you are feeling sad. Breakups are so difficult, especially when it was not our choice to breakup. Before my recent ex and I got together, I dated someone for 4 years ( college boyfriend). I was the one who broke up with him because we didn't agree on certain issues about our future, mainly he never wanted to have children and I wanted to someday and there was no compromising on either side about that. I did think about him and would miss him and would feel bad about hurting him. He and I did have limited contact through out the breakup and it hurt me to hear him so sad and I would get sad also but I knew I couldn't be with someone who didn't want the same things in the future as me. Even when I started dating my ex-fiance a few month after that breakup, I would still miss my college bf and couldn't help but compare them in my mind, especially when my ex-fiance did something hurtful and I would think, " College BF would never have acted like that." And I would think of going to ask him for another chance, then I would remember he never wanted to have kids and I would remember that is why we broke up. A couple of month after I started dating my ex-fiance, my college bf met someone and they started dating. I was happy he found someone and he is still with her today. During my recent breakup with my ex-fiance, my college bf was very kind to me when I reached out to him to tell him what had happened ( please read my previous posts for back story) and ask him for advice. He actually came over to my house with his dog 3 times ( his gf said it was alright) to check on me for a few minutes in the days following me being dumped when I was the most depressed and to encourage me to eat something because I had lost my appetite and would not eat for a day or two. I appreciated every visit and every phone call from him checking up on me. I ended up telling him on the phone one day that I was sorry if I hurt him when I broke up with him and that I was so happy he has found his gf because she made him happy. He told me that I would always have a friend in him and even though it didn't work out for us, didn't mean he stopped caring for me as a friend and human being. I truly wish him every happiness in the world and I am so glad he found someone he is compatible with because he is a wonderful man. Now, my ex-fiance is a totally different story and I wonder do men who dump ( actually suddenly abandon) and immediately start forced NC think of the woman who they proclaimed all their love to and wanted to make their wife?
Author jimmy20013 Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 For all who you asked: 1. My first gf dumped me after 18 months of very serious and commited relationship. 2. Reason unknown. 3. 6 days before break-up and also numerous other times told me she wanted to spend her life with me. 4. 2 weeks after breakup, told me that she still loves me. 5. Tries talking to me inspite of the fact that I told her not to do so.
shepshep1100 Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 I am pretty sure you all are familiar with my story so I wont bore you with the mundane details. Basically, I got dumped 2 months ago by my first GF. It was her 6th relationship but the first serious one. She wanted to marry me and she called me her soulmate. We really loved each other. My question is, even though it has been more than 2 months since we broke up, does she still think of me? Because I do. When she hears the songs I used to sing for her, does she remember me? Does she miss my touch? When she does things that we used to do together, does she think of me? I ask because I think of her and I miss her. I am just curious how she feels. I never really understood woman. I don't understand how they can get so emotional at times and in the next moment just walk away from the person they promised to spend their life with. It takes a tremendous amount of strength to do that. The kind of strength I dont have. The quickest way to get over some one is to find some one new, you dont have to jump into a serious relationship fast but spending time with someone will take your ming off of her. If this girl doesnt want to be with you, then why would you want to be with her, ther are many more wonderful women out there for you, you just have to look.
Guest Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Well if she did not give you a reason that's even worse but don't be fooled. Sometimes people think the grass is greener somewhere else if you know what I mean and then if it's not they miss what they had - it's natrual I think to feel that way. I am not saying this happened to you or anything but honestly I believe if people walk out of your life you need to let them go. That's just what I think. However being female and leaving relationships I never went back. Sure I wanted my ex to be happy and find someone new because I knew that I was not going to be happy or I could not make them happy. Sure we still think about each other, how can you not if you tell someone everyday you love them? However our thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more.
Ariadne Posted August 2, 2006 Posted August 2, 2006 Hi, Here is another letter idea for you. Ariadne ------------ Dear angel girl, Do you think of me? Because I do think of you. When you hear the songs I used to sing for you, do you remember me? Do you miss my touch? When you do the things that we used to do together, do you think of me? I ask you because, I think of you, and I miss you. I am just curious as to how you feel. Love always, jimmy
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