Abercrombie Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Ok a little background first. I am jobless at the moment and can not drive because I got a dui. My life is horrible at the moment. I was in a 3 year relationship which didn't work. She was also in a 3 year relationship where she got beat up by her boyfriend alot. So anyways I met this girl at the beginning of summer and hung out with her and our friends. We fooled around and what not and I knew she liked me, as we acted like we were going out anyways. So I popped the question and we started dating. At first, a few things about her began to bother me. Some of the things she said and did I did not like but I got used to them. A week ago from yesterday was our friends birthday. They were going bowling. I did not want to go up to the bowling alley on a saturday and just sit there as money is a little tight right now. And this girl and I have made plans before we even knew they were going to the bowling alley. So I felt like she kinda ditched me, but she didn't. So we were talking on the phone and i got mad. In the heat of the moment I said "Don't call me anymore, peace" and hung up on her. The next day I woke up and realised I had made a HUGE mistake. I tryed calling her for 3 days and sent her messages on myspace. She didn't respond until the 3rd day and it was in an email. Heres the email: **************** [FONT=verdana][sIZE=2] hi....ok so i wanted to start by telling u that im not "ignoring" you. just the other night i was soooo mad at u b/c U DID TELL ME NOT TO EVER CALL YOU AND TO PEACE! so i didnt want to talk to you yeaterday. and today i was busy all day. but n e ways... im sorry and all if im making you mad...but lemme just say that i was in a 3 yr relationship of HELL and by u telling me NOT to call you and PEACE b/c ohhh...i was with my cousin and u specifcally said that u were either staying in or playing cards w/ the guys b/c u didnt want to bowl or even go there and sit b/c u werent getting drunk and everyone else was and it was going to be BORING...well that pissed me off. u have not been wanting to hang with my friends, come to my house, nothin...and its not ok with me. i have told u NUMEROUS times but u just wanted things UR WAY and thats it. im sorry but that doesnt make any sense to me. when we first met u told me all these things like u were a partier, and loved to hang with ur friends...and ya we did for a while. but now...u hang with them only if u drink or have money to play poker. i feel like i was the only one putting any effort into our relationship and i did that once and not doing it again. i hate that u did bitch about sooo many things and that u cant even hang out with our friends if ur not drinking. well thats not someone i want to be with. im sorry if what i am saying is hurting you but its the truth. u NEED to get a job and u decide not to. i dont care if u had court josh...u have a fine u need to pay and NO JOB! to tell u the honest truth...im not ready to committ myself to someone right now. u told me in the last e-mail that u were starting to get serious feelings for me. well thats what also is pushing me away josh. im not anywhere near wanting something serious right now. maybe we rushed into things...and maybe we didnt. i dunno. alls i know is what happened...and im not putting up with another bad relationship. im sorry but its the truth. i was going to call you tonight so we could talk about it but i had to work late tonight and it was too late to call ur house. im sorry this is happening josh but its how i feel. i really do want to still be friends with you if that is all possible...but im just going to leave that one to you. i dont want u to hate me i just need to do what is best for me right now. ill call you tomorrow so we can talk more k! g'nite************* So we talked and whatnot and it bascially came down to the same thing that was said in the letter. A few days later I messaged her saying ************* [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=verdana][sIZE=2] For some reason and I dunno why, I'm already missing you. I wish I wouldn't have ****ed up. I never meant to hurt you as I'm better then that. I don't know what the **** I was thinking, you are a great girl. Now I gotta live with this ****. Anyways I just wanted to say good luck with everything you do. I hope school goes good for you. I can't do this **** anymore that I've been doing. Something dramastic is going to change. Take er easy. [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=verdana][sIZE=2] ************ And she responded with : ******[/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=verdana][sIZE=2]what do u mean something dramastic is going to change? i dont hate u, nor do i want to stop talking to u. look....my g-ma died today and im not very happy right now and with u saying that makes it even worse. im sorry for everything josh....just i cant be with anyone right now...im sorry...but im not going to just disappear or STOP talking to u...NO! i cant do that. just...i need to do whats best for me right now...and why is there NO photo on ur thingy thing? thats not ok either...well sometime this week ill give u a call and stuff.... ************ Now that we are broke up I've realised I made a HUGE mistake. She is realy a great person and I blew up on her for no reason. I've also realised that I should not be in a relationship and need to get my life back in order. My question is how do I deal with her? I still want her as a friend very much so, but I don't know if she is sincere in what she said about the friends thing. I would like to get to know her better and stay close incase something happens in the future. What do I do? [/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=verdana][sIZE=2] [/sIZE][/FONT]
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