kovo_7809 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Hi I'm a 19 year-old male and have been keeping this a secret not even my parents know and I don't think you're gonna be too happy about it. It's about the woman of my dreams I met again 6 months ago and it's been 3 months since we're now exclusive (b/f and g/f). Reason I can't tell parents nor anyone in my family about it is because she used to be my nanny/babysitter from the time I was 9 till I turned 14 and thought I would never see her again. I feel in love with her one afternoon when I was 12 and she say she was gonna teach me something in case I ever had a g/f. I was confused off course and didn't know what it was. It started with a kiss and I kissed her back, I fell in love right away. Mind ya, but she's the first and only woman I lost my virginity, me being 12 about the time and she was 24, this went on for two more years. When I first had sex with her, it felt very weird, but then she say it was out of love. I figure this was a longt iem ago already and since I'm now 19, nothing can happen right? But I gotta would have to inform them who my g/f is and I can imagine they won't like it when I introduce them. Any suggestions or should I continue keeping my g/f a secret.
amaysngrace Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Mind ya, but she's the first and only woman I lost my virginity, me being 12 about the time and she was 24, this went on for two more years. I think the reason you'd like to keep this a secret is because you know you had to keep your prior relationship with her hidden. Because it's forbidden. Because it's a crime. She is a pedophile. Please, for your own sake, do not have a relationship with this woman. She has already abused you, sexually and emotionally. She is not a good person for you to have a relationship with. Before you had no choice...now you do. Please, don't do it.
Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 she is so using you..... I think you need to tell your parents all about and what she did to you.... she raped you..... and decieved you into thinking that you wanted it when you were 12 years old.... And now she is trying to cover it up by dating you..... I was molested when i was younger and i wish i would have told someone... but i was afraid.... he molested another girl who was 7 years old and went to prison... I often think if I would have told someone about this that little girl might have not have had to go through that... I am praying for you... Sincerely, still healing
Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 She is obviously a sick individual and does'nt need you in her life.Think about it would you want your kid to be in the same situation.
owcanbhppy Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 sweetheart, im very, very, liberal in many ways. but what this woman did falls nothing short of sexual abuse, and abuse of a minor. her actions DID change who you are, and how you view a loving relationship. im sorry your family didnt notice something wasnt right w/ you. its difficult for me to believe you displayed no signs of something not being right. that is not your fault. it wasnt her place to 'teach you' adult partnerships while you were a child in her care. its definately not you place to be her partner, while entering adulthood, when shes still so screwed up to see how out of line she was w/ you as a child. RUN! RUN! RUN!
Guest Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 I think the reason you'd like to keep this a secret is because you know you had to keep your prior relationship with her hidden. Because it's forbidden. Because it's a crime. She is a pedophile. Please, for your own sake, do not have a relationship with this woman. She has already abused you, sexually and emotionally. She is not a good person for you to have a relationship with. Before you had no choice...now you do. Please, don't do it. 1. Grace, she is not a pedophile. Pedos like children, not adolecents who have hit puberty. I agree with the rest of your post though. 2. OP, talk to a counselor if not your family. You were molested, statuatorily raped at the least and having a relationship with this women is not healthy for you. She took advantage of you.
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