Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 My boyfriend of five years andI have been broken up fortwo months now... however during thesetwo months we have spent alotoftime together and still hookup frequently. Both of us have been with other peopel during the break up but continue tostill hang out with each other. I want to be with him very much,but I also feelwe areata very transitionalpoint in our lives, iwill graduate from college in thefall and he just got an apartment with his friends and began working full time with alot of overtime, he is very tiered and stressed out. The stress from both our lives is what started the break up we were taking out to much on each other and causeing fights. I still want him in my life as someone to hang out with and stay close with. I have recently decided hooking up is no longer ok but that hanging out and talking at least once a week is good. I want to enjoy my senior year as a single, not so much for the purpose of hooking up with others, just so much to spend time with friends and focus on my school work. I see him in my future as someone I could marry, but what i need advice on is if I should maintain close with him during this split and if i still feel i want him in my life romanticly a few months down the road to ask him to try and be with me again,or should i cut off contact now and try to move on and find some one new. I know him and i both are not interested in getting back together right now but personally at the moment i feel that eventually i will want him back when i am more stable and have more time so should i keep him around and in mind for further down the road or let go now ????
Sally00 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I see nothing wrong staying friends with him. Does he feel the same way you do? If he doesn't, maybe you might be leading him on? Just as long as the communication is clear between you two, being friends shouldn't be a problem.
kulyok Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 You may want him further down the road: marry him and so on. Does he? If he doesn't, it's a problem, and it will snowball. I agree, clear communication is the key here.
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