Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Well long story put in short way. I am out of town for 2 months to be with my kids, this man that I have been dating is now going out non stop as well as going to the bars. Now normally I would not care, I love to go out as well however when I am with him and in town with him he never has time to do this, he says he hates the bars , he only goes there to meet woman thats it, now that he has me he has no reason to go to the bar. I try all the time when I am with him but he always says no to me. We have lived together for almost 2.5 years, He says he loves me and cares about me but I feel his actions do not show it. He is not the type to communicate with me about things. I am feeling lost and not knowing what to do about this. I do feel attracted to him but when he pulls this off with me I am feeling like leaving him. I sit at home day after day wanting to go out and have fun, go to the park, go dancing, take the dogs out, go out for dinner, or just relax at home. we use to go out all the time then he changed and I started to go out myself. Is is a sign that he wants it over but does not know how to tell me? Anyone with advise on how to approch this without fighting is so needed (he does get deffensive about things) Thank you
Infinity0530 Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 We have lived together for almost 2.5 years, He says he loves me and cares about me but I feel his actions do not show it. He is not the type to communicate with me about things. Well I think I see a problem with your relationship that you mentioned in that quote. His actions don't reflect his words and he is not good at communicating. Both of those qualities are very important in relationships. The first one, his action's reflecting his words, eventually turns into a trust issue. If you can't believe what he's saying to you because his actions are not backing them up, then eventually there will be a lack of trust in the relationship. Also, without communication, problems such as the ones you are facing now will never got solved. They will keep boiling under the surface until something explodes, such as an argument or confrontation, which I can sense from your post, is something that you wish to avoid. How have you attempted to talk to him about this situation so far? What have his responses been?
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