Sally00 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 My boyfriend wants to get a tattoo (maybe 3). He talked to me about it to see what I thought. I was surprised and kept telling him noooo. That I love him the way he is and he'd just look different to me if he got one. He said we'll always physically look different to each other... we can't always keep the appearance we have now forever. But still... when I look at his arm, this time he'll have a permanent marking. Yeah, you can remove a tattoo.. but there's still a mark on it. It won't completely go back to the way it was. I just think it'll look trashy... He won't look like the same good friend I had and the same boyfriend I have now. He told his uncle about it (he has no tattoos) but he said it's HIS body and he can do what he wants and that he should get a tattoo. I should tell him thanks for the help........ I told him it was really sweet that he considered my feelings about this though. I asked him why he asked me. He said it's only because I'm in his life and I'm his girlfriend and that I might accidentally end up marrying him (LoL). So apparently I'm a very important person in his life and I'm part of his big decisions (like talking to me about the Air Force). Then he asked if I would hate him or break up with him if he got one. I said I'll "hate him" but I'll still love him... and that there's no way I can break up with him over something so petty. I'll only break up with him if he cheats on me. And another thing... I don't want him to be a bad influence on our kids someday... like they'll see his tattoo(s) and be like, "Mommy, I want tattoos just like Daddy." I don't want my kids to be thinking it's perfectly fine to be getting tattoos since Daddy has one! Ugh. So, I guess what I'm saying is... Do you think it's wrong for me to tell him I don't want him to get a tattoo? I gave up and told him he can get a tattoo if he wants... cuz it IS his body. I'll just be... unhappy about it. :/
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 My boyfriend wants to get a tattoo (maybe 3). I would allow it (that is, the relationship to continue - despite the permanent body art). Express your displeasure (you already have, I guess). And insist that at least one says "Sally." That's commitment (to girls named Sally, at least).
Outcast Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Remind him that when he gets older, a faded, saggy tattoo will look pretty sad.
aloralily Posted August 4, 2006 Posted August 4, 2006 Hmmm... interesting. We are in two completely different worlds. I myself have no tattoos, but I absolutely adore my boyfriend's tattoos... he's studying to become a tattoo artist, and I'd say aout 65-70% of his body is covered in colorful tattoos. He usually gets a new tattoo or gets more work done every other month or so, and I doubt he'll ever stop. I would never ever change that about him, because he is so unique and beautiful. All of his body art is custom designed by some of the most infamous artists in the world. He is a literally a living, breathing masterpiece, and I feel lucky to have such a beautiful man in my life. But I can understand how you might feel differently, since it's been such a taboo practice for so long. Your boyfriend while he may look different, will be the same on the inside. Just make sure he doesn't get any cheap unorginal flash or lame tribal art... tell him to be unique and orginal and get something custom, so no one in the world has it!
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