chocolate_boy Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 You know, the one that will probably always have a place in my heart. Met up with my ex from about 5 years ago again on Friday, we tend to meet up once or twice a year, although last few times I have sort of missed her a lot after we've gone home. She is currently going through her third break-up with the guy she got with after me, and I don't like seeing her so hurt, although obviously she has only got herself to blame, and hopefully this time she has learnt.. Also stupidly I sort of feel bit reponsible as if i hadn't ended it all those years ago she would have not gone though all the pain he has put her through (cheating, pushing her around etc.). I suppose with me its more when we're together it reminds me of probably the happiest time of my life so far, and she was the closest I've ever had to another human being, we were due to get married years ago but I called it off as I was only 22 and felt too young, luckily I have now got a good career and life for doing that (she was always a very homely person, and I wouldn't have the job I have today had I stayed with her). I have always thought I chose my career over true love, and to be honest I did. So i'm not looking at getting back with her or anything stupid, infact I'm sure she'd freak if she knew I was still hiding feelings for her after five years of being apart, but she is the only ex who still makes me feel this way. I'm not looking for advice or anything, I can deal with this just fine and have for years. And I did do NC for 2.5 years and have had three relationships since! Wondered if anyone else has one like that? Maybe she's the only girl I ever have really loved, suppose you maybe never do 100% get over it.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 I reamber talking to you about your ex's. This woulden't happen to be the ex that was a down right B*itch right?? Or was this your first love. In five years I will know who I will still have in my heart, but its been a year and I'm not over that one guy even though I should be since he was a big jerk haha
Author chocolate_boy Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 I reamber talking to you about your ex's. This woulden't happen to be the ex that was a down right B*itch right?? Or was this your first love. In five years I will know who I will still have in my heart, but its been a year and I'm not over that one guy even though I should be since he was a big jerk haha Ah no there have been a couple of b**tches but I don't ever speak to them anymore, this one was good for me in lots of ways and I broke her heart when I broke up with her, but we were just too young and wanted different things out of life. To be honest part of me has had a degree of regret ever since and you always wonder how life would be if I'd have stayed with her and worked our problems out, got married etc. But obviously I felt strong enough back then to do it and I knew in my heart I had to for my career, maybe too cos no relationship since or before came anywhere near what we had, I'm convinced I did experience true love with her. Had she been a bitch I certainly wouldn't be meeting up with her and hanging out with her at all, some people reckon that's a bad idea period, maybe they're right? But we live quite a distance a part and like I said, we don't see each other very often, but it is nice having her back in my life (we've been back in touch since about a year ago).
Guest Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Maybe you are that one ex for her too. You know, the one that she never really got over. I think that you should go for it. I also think that your post is going to give alot of people on this board hope. I have been happily married for about 20 years. I ran into an ex I hadn't seen in 22 years the other day and they ran the other way. I guess it opened old wounds. I wish I knew why they ran as they were the one who broke up with me. So I guess that I have an ex that I never really got over either although I never really thought about it until just now.
Teacher's Pet Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 I have an ex like that. We were together almost 6 years, and looking back, I think we BOTH screwed up that relationship. I have had NC with her for about 5 years now, but she will always hold a place in my heart. I've never had a relationship like her since then. For a while, you could have even said we were "perfect" together, though eventually we learned we weren't. I'll always wonder "What if" when it comes to her, though I'll never find out. -tp
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 I don't see anything wrong with you meeting up with this ex. You can love someone else and still get hurt by all these other girls? Jw
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