Stunner Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I reacted poorly, I'm afraid. My boyfriend and I had plans for tonight. He touched bases with me about noon saying that he was headed further away to make some business happen with a new client...the whole reason he drove overnight to do some personal business growth in the first place. Now this was out of state but within driving distance. I was surprised he was headed the direction away from home but understand that getting new business was the whole point of the trip anyway. He said he might not be back until abou 9pm...still ok in my book because I have the kids at a friend's house overnight. I know I sounded disappointed but didn't give him a hard time about it..... I asked him what he wanted to do...if he wanted to 'cancel'. Then I jumped in with, "oooh, I already confirmed the plans so if I cancel now then we'll have to wait until next weekend to see each other." He said he would give me a call and let me know how far out he is. It was a short conversation because he was driving...we don't drive and talk typically. I didn't have a chance to congradulate him on his new client...or anything...I feel like an *******. I called back about half an hour later apologizing if I sounded unsupportive, that his statement threw me off and I had ten different things running through my mind about plans, rescheduling, etc. and certainly didn't mean it to come across that way. This is a new relationship, only a month out. We are crazy about each other and just two nights ago he was telling me all the wonderful things he saw in us and in me and he is eager to grow the friendship too. Someone please tell me not to freak out...right now that is EXACTLY what I'm doing. I KNOW I didn't sound snotty but I didn't acknowledge everything in the conversation I normally would have because of my surprise. Sheesh.
Agent M Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 DON'T FREAK OUT!! Just make a mental note to yourself that you have the inclination to do this sometimes. In other words, this type of situation could happen again so you need to remind yourself not to take it personally. Of course, if it becomes a habit of his there needs to be a conversation. But at this stage, just remind yourself to chill out and be cool with it.
johan Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Nothing you wrote sounded like a big deal to me. If you showed your disappointment, I can't see what's wrong with that. At least you care. Whatever you think the problem is/was, if he can't forgive you for it he's short on long-term potential. Forgive yourself. I wish there was some nice chick like you all wound up about me like this.
whichwayisup Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 He's a guy. I highly doubt he's worrying and freakin', wondering why you didn't say the right thing on the phone. Relax ... And you have to be you. Things can't be so happy go lucky ALL the time, you're human and you're allowed to be disappointed when plans fall through. Things are going to be fine, you'll see eachother next week and just let this go.
sugarplum Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Nothing you wrote sounded like a big deal to me. If you showed your disappointment, I can't see what's wrong with that. At least you care. Whatever you think the problem is/was, if he can't forgive you for it he's short on long-term potential. Forgive yourself. I wish there was some nice chick like you all wound up about me like this. Exactly. I am still trying to figure out what you are upset about. Chances are, he thought nothing of it.
Author Stunner Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 Thanks you all! I went out by myself and danced my ass off! No sitting at home. If I had done that I would have driven myself crazy. Johan, thank you! I am going to bed now and just friggin' relax...you guys are right...thanks for having a nice girl's back!
Author Stunner Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 You were right. I just heard from him. He was apologetic for not having made it back in time. He left his laptop in a different town and had to drive an additional five hours out of his way to go get it as he needed it for tomorrow morning. He is tired and aggravated with himself. Poor guy. Never at any point was he upset with me. Just simply out in the boonies with no cell phone ability. Now, I'm off to soak my sore feet! Ha!
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