BlueFig Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 My exboyfriend who started dating his old girlfriend and who is about to depart on a two week vacation with her has spent all day harassing me to do his laundry. I have no contact with him and have been ignoring his emails, phonecalls, etc. (More background here : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t93189/ ) I'm about to move away from him/'his' town and move nearly 100 miles back to my hometown. Unfortunately I still live just a block away from him. Ive been keeping a low profile, but he spotted me getting an iced coffee today and then proceeded to leave a note on my door, call my cell , text message me, email me and IM me that he desperately needs my help to do his laundry so he can go on vacation. So completely nutso. I keep track of him contacting me to have a proof if it escalates worse. His last message was creepy. He said they he won't ever forget me not helping him a time of need, that I'm a selfish c^nty bitch and I 'may' experience his wrath. He said he doesn't like to be friends with people who aren't real friends like me and that people like that deserve punishment. He also ranted that one of my friends won't talk to him anymore and he accused me of turning her against him. He said I better be smarter than to ever make him look bad or he'd find a way to make me sorry. Argh. Im holding onto my sanity pretty well, but I just need to move asap. My condo was supposed to close August 3rd, but the buyers are trying to put it off for two more weeks. Im at the end of my sanity and just need to leave asap. ::Sigh: I looked into getting an order of protection against but where I live they didnt take it seriously. They actually dissuaded me and said since I dont live with him or are married or him they can't do anything. I live next door to a very violent town and I guess my problems pale in comparison to the amount of brutal domestic abuse that goes on there.
SoCalCatman72 Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Document all of the incidents, clear documentation of threats, try to maintain a timeline. If the police aren't listening to you, go to the District Attorney's office and demand that a protective order be filed. Make sure that all of your friends and family that you trust and are close to know about your ex's threats. That's all I can think of right now. Good luck, I hope this jerk gets a lethal dose of lead poisoning.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 how long have you guys been broken up for?? Please don't tell me A year or so because than this guy is completely out of his mind.
Author BlueFig Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 how long have you guys been broken up for?? Please don't tell me A year or so because than this guy is completely out of his mind. Broke up for good 3 weeks ago. Broke up because he said it's okay for some women to get hit or beat if they're annoying a man. He somehow thinks we're still friends.
magichands Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 My exboyfriend who started dating his old girlfriend and who is about to depart on a two week vacation with her has spent all day harassing me to do his laundry. In the time you spent worrying - and writing - about this, you could have already done it! But I hope there is no ironing involved. When guys ask you do their laundry, soon after breaking up, it is code for, "I love you, I have made the most awful mistake, you are the only girl I have ever truly loved, I will totally mould myself to your requirements... in short - please, please, please take my sorry ass back." Well, as soon as I get back from my vacation. So - is he in possession of his clothes?! I hope you don't still have any of his stuff. This is crazy talk - good riddance to him!!!!
Author BlueFig Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 So - is he in possession of his clothes?! I hope you don't still have any of his stuff. This is crazy talk - good riddance to him!!!! Yep he has his clothes. He even took the trouble to snap pic of his mountain of dirty laundry and emailed it to me. He then added that if I had kept on top of it before "I left him in a lurch" that he wouldn't have so much to do. He's good with the supposed guilt.
johan Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 He can't do his own laundry?? What the hell? Did you know this about him before you started dating?
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