Teacher's Pet Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 If I wasn't so busy at work today, I would have posted that I had a date tonight to get some "encouragement" from you guys, but I didn't have the chance... Anyhow.... I started talking to this person about a week ago online. She's the same age as me, and lives in my general area, so we decided to meet for dinner tonight after work. We had a good dinner, with light, friendly, and fun conversation. After eating, we started talking in the parking lot of the restaurant for about an hour and a half....I was enjoying myself, and starting to relax (I was nervous!) About halfway into our conversation outside, I saw my ex's car drive by the restaurant we were at out of the corner of my eye. My heart sank. I couldn't tell who (I pretended not to notice), but there was someone in the passenger seat. My breathing practically stopped for about 30 seconds. My date asked me what was wrong, that I suddenly stopped talking and seemed "distracted". I tried to play it off, but I gave in and told her. She's recently single too (going through a divorce actually), so she was sympathetic, but I couldn't get my mind off my ex. I've been NC with her for over a month now, and it's totally killing me. I don't think I'm ready to date, which sucks, because I put my personal ad back online, and got a lot of responses from women who seems really nice. I'm just so afraid of being hurt right now, that I'm almost too afraid to just reach out to people. This is the hardest breakup I've ever had, and we were only together for 6 months. I just don't know what to do now. Now I have this picture in my head of my ex with some other guy, probably going to a movie tonight (that was the general direction they were headed), and then perhaps back to her place for....??????? I know, I'm reading into it too much. It may have even been just one of her friends in the car, too, but... my mind is really wreaking havoc on me right now. Why is this so hard for me? :( :(
Ariadne Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Hey, About halfway into our conversation outside, I saw my ex's car drive by the restaurant we were at out of the corner of my eye. Oh, no! What a bummer. My breathing practically stopped for about 30 seconds. Yeah, I can imagine that. I'd just get in my car and chase him. Now I have this picture in my head of my ex with some other guy, probably going to a movie tonight Nah, she's probably trying to go out and meet people since it's Friday... Maybe it was just a girl friend of hers like you said. She's recently single too (going through a divorce actually), so she was sympathetic That's nice too, to get to talk to people and go out. It helps. Take care, Ariadne
Winfield Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Now I have this picture in my head of my ex with some other guy, probably going to a movie tonight (that was the general direction they were headed), and then perhaps back to her place for....??????? Well, if she is, that's up to her - she's no longer with you, and you're no longer with her. As exes, you're both free agents. Besides, you've just had dinner with another woman, so, potentially you could have been doing the same! Why go through the process of dating again, if you don't feel ready? What's the hurry? Dating opportunities come and go - it's not the "be all and end all"! Take it easy!
loveinlife Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 It must of been hard to see that happen. Esp since you are not completely over her. I really understand what you are going through. I am very sorry for that. I am some what in the same shoes. Don't want to get into any relationships for awhile. But like most of the people on this LS said, dating is good. I hope the best for you.
Diver012 Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I cant imagine dating for a while. Ive toyed around with online dating, but its just not my thing. Ive started talking to a few people online, and it just seems creepy somehow. Ide rather meet someone in person and decide if its someone I would like to date. I know a lot of people do it, it just isnt for me. Good luck on your second date..
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