SUMMER 1969 Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Hey I have a question, I have wrote a post under breakups, but to make a long story short.. I dated a guy for a year, I asked how he felt about me and told me he cares about me, but is not in love with me and does not see himself falling in love with me anytime soon.. He told me I am a great G/F but thats pretty much it.. Well now he is telling me that he wants to take One day at a time with me.. He told me that he cares about me and wants to be my b/f and we will just see what happends.. Everything seems to be the same as it was before I asked him how he felt about me.. Well, I am leaving the country tomorrow for a One week vaction with a friend and I will not be able to use my cell phone out there... My question to you is, do you think he will cheat on me? Do you think he will forget about me? I guess I am just insecure about our realtionship right now... I don't even think he gets it.. What I mean by that is, I don't think he even understands that I feel insecure.. He told me he does not want to talk about our realtionship anymore, at least right now.. He said it is a emotional drainage and is drama.. ( Trust me, I know I am dumb for dealing with this right now ) but, I am actully seeing his true colors now and I am paying closer attention to his actions.. I don't know why I feel so insecure about the reationship, but I have this sick feeling in my stomache... I don't know.. Is this normal? I mean, if you know you get treated like crap from a guy, why is it that we stick it out? Why do I even talk to him? Any advise?
P1xie Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Hey I have a question, I have wrote a post under breakups, but to make a long story short.. I dated a guy for a year, I asked how he felt about me and told me he cares about me, but is not in love with me and does not see himself falling in love with me anytime soon.. He told me I am a great G/F but thats pretty much it.. I think he answered your question with the above quote. He is not in love with you. I think you want more than that. It's been a year and if he's not in love why is he still with you? Why are you still with him. Sounds to me he likes you as a person. You seem more like a **ck buddy than a girlfriend. He told me he does not want to talk about our realtionship anymore, at least right now.. He said it is a emotional drainage and is drama.. ( Trust me, I know I am dumb for dealing with this right now ) but, I am actully seeing his true colors now and I am paying closer attention to his actions.. Of course he doesn't he has his cake and gets to eat it to. You need to make up your mind if you want to stay with someone that has already told you they aren't in love with you. He may love you, but there is a difference with loving someone and being in love
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 You are correct, maybe thats it.. Maybe I was just a _ _ ck buddy and not a girlfriend.. Wow, how is it that a person could date you for a year and just use you... I don't think I could ever look at myself in the mirrior again.. People can be so cruel...
P1xie Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Don't say that. This isn't your fault. You love him and sometimes love is blind. It is cruel to mislead people, but don't blame yourself for following your heart.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 Thats just it, I think I love him, at the same time I don't know how I could fall for someone that only thinks of himself.. Ya know I guess this is something I just need to think long and hard about.. I don't think he is a bad person, just a player... I guess there are a lot of people that play games, but you know what... it will come back and bite you in the ass.. It always does..
destination_unknown Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Hi Summer, I read your other thread too and you must be very dissapointed to have him admit those things. Your right, you do need to think long and hard about this. You do deserve to have romance and have someone make your heart flutter, do you want to settle for someone who doesn't love you and block the chance of finding someone who can make you happy, and who you can make happy in return? Don't fear breaking up with him because you don't want to be alone, look at breaking up with him as your chance to invite a more real and satisfying love into your life. I know its a real hard decision to make, but realise the potential that a change allows you. Best.
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