Guest Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I don't know if this is the right place to post this or not. But I'll give it a shot. It has to do with a womans attraction to a man. It would be nice to get feedback from women especially. One popular "dating expert" notes the following: When [men] act like a Wussy, [they] do things like: - Pursue - Cling - Share "feelings" - Act submissive - Seek approval - Pine away This is WUSSY behavior. It's distinctly FEMININE in nature. When guys act like this, they're getting in touch with their inner little girl (and she needs a spanking in the worst way). And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part? When you act like this around a woman (and ESPECIALLY a "goal oriented" woman who's probably smart and powerful) they CANNOT feel the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you. Women aren't attracted to Wussies. This is a UNIVERSAL truth. So, tell me women, is this a "universal truth"? Do men really need to pay close attention to these?
SUMMER 1969 Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Woman like a man with confidence. If a man shows low self esteem, most woman do not find that attrative. Woman like men that are powerful
burning 4 revenge Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 women would like to see all men who either have emotions, and, or small penises, extinct
jimmy20013 Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 And guys wanna see girls with small boobs and who show emotion or cry disappear. Add women who dont wanna sleep with us on the first date as well. Everybody is looking for perfection.
johan Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I am quite interested in the answer to this because I want to pursue, cling, share "feelings", act submissive, seek approval, and pine away. I don't think I could enjoy myself otherwise.
Pink Amulet Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Yes- All of those things sound rather sickening to be honest
Outcast Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 And yet there are some controlling women who just love a guy who'll do their bidding. I know one couple like that and they've been happily married forever. It takes all kinds. There's no such thing as a 'universal truth'. Except that there's no such thing as a 'universal truth'
tinktronik Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 personally, i like to make women cry That for some reason does not surprise me .
burning 4 revenge Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 That for some reason does not surprise me . my most wonderful memories of **** are of her sitting there with her sexy pouty mouth strained in a frown, tears streaming in down noiselessly
sacred cow Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 that popular dating expert happens to be David DeAngelo, I've given that a shot...too bad I didn't maintain it and turned into a wussy. Very effective though, it's just that u have to keep it up the whole time or else, attraction level really drops fast when 'wussy' behavior is demonstrated
Guest Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 When [men] act like a Wussy, [they] do things like: - Pursue - Cling - Share "feelings" - Act submissive - Seek approval - Pine away This is WUSSY behavior. It's distinctly FEMININE in nature. It's easy to see how these would be a turn off. But geeze, I guess I better not ask whether or not she enjoyed dinner. I'm sure she'll think I'm "seeking her approval." I also don't see how "sharing feelings" is a bad thing a little down the road. I mean, isn't this what honest communication is about in a relationship.
MrPot Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 If you think about it, those types of qualities are unattractive in women as well as men. Some often try to look at "the game" as different for both sexes, but the same base rules apply to both sides (as well as homosexual relationships). No one is attracted to a wimp. If you're a hetero man, you want a woman who stands up for herself and is confident. That's "hot." You can't love someone you don't respect. To attract someone, they must respect you and they certainly don't respect a pussy, whether they have one or not
burning 4 revenge Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 yeah, but the most alluring thing is when a woman is totally emotionally dependant on you and then all of sudden doens'nt need, or want you anymore. it makes your head spin 360 degrees
newbby Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 i was just about to say, are those things attractive in a woman? those things are just not attractive. nobody falls for someone they can control, someone who seeks to please them.... if you have behaved this way, then dont worry about it, everyone has at times. just find somebody else and put it down to experience.
Yamaha Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 All these rules are just a total turn off for attraction. If I have to be different than I am then the one I am pursuing is not worth it ( to me ). All of this game playing is just to tedious. You are who you are and there will be a person out there to match your personality.
soberminded Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 If you think about it, those types of qualities are unattractive in women as well as men. Some often try to look at "the game" as different for both sexes, but the same base rules apply to both sides (as well as homosexual relationships). No one is attracted to a wimp. If you're a hetero man, you want a woman who stands up for herself and is confident. That's "hot." You can't love someone you don't respect. To attract someone, they must respect you and they certainly don't respect a pussy, whether they have one or not I'll have to disagree with you. If we started a thread about what kind of women men are attracted to then you will get different answers. The same rules do not apply to both sexes. I am attracted to a woman who shares her intimate feelings and who is voluntarily submissive and what the majority would call clingy. I don't care what the majority says because most of the time the majority is all the fools on the same side. The majority is rarely correct. But again clinginess is a relative notion. What's clingy behavior for one person may not be clingy behavior for another. Clinginess only applies when there is not an equal interest level between both partners. In other words when both partners are not equally into each other. The clingy part comes in when one partner is more into the relationship than the other partner. If a woman calls me 3 times per day everyday I don't find that clingy because I am happy to hear from her. I want her to feel free to call me as often as she wants to. I wouldn't necessarily say that an unconfident woman is unattractive to me but I do find bitchy arrogance unattractive. If she lacks self esteem then I can help her boost her confidence. That's what a partner is there for. A relationship is a partnership where two people help each other out during down times. That's a real partner. Otherwise what is the point of having a relationship?
soberminded Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 All these rules are just a total turn off for attraction. If I have to be different than I am then the one I am pursuing is not worth it ( to me ). All of this game playing is just to tedious. You are who you are and there will be a person out there to match your personality. Absolutely. If a woman does not respect me or is not attracted to me because I share my feelings and I'm willing to compromise and go out of my way for her then that's her loss. I find that usually when I get dumped it's a blessing in disguise. Why? because I have been set free to find the woman who is more compatiable for me. If she can't appreciate my submissveness then she has done me a big favor by letting me go. The dumper loses out more so than the dumpee unless of course the dumpee was abusive or cheated.
Guest Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 Absolutely. If a woman does not respect me or is not attracted to me because I share my feelings and I'm willing to compromise and go out of my way for her then that's her loss. I find that usually when I get dumped it's a blessing in disguise. Why? because I have been set free to find the woman who is more compatiable for me. If she can't appreciate my submissveness then she has done me a big favor by letting me go. The dumper loses out more so than the dumpee unless of course the dumpee was abusive or cheated. I am the OP on this thread. And I agree with what you have said. My ex gf broke up with me about 6 months ago. Although she didn't mention that any of my behavior was "wussy-like" I think to some degree it was there. I am a strong person emotionally and physically. She had been through some rough relationships in the past. I wanted to show her that she really meant something to me. And so I really went out of my way to demonstrate my love for her. For the past months I have really been beating myself up because I think that my emontions may have actually killed the attraction. She tells me that she just wasn't ready. But I continue to analyze this to the nth degree and put the blame on myself. "If only I could have been more of a challenge. If only I could have done this or that ..." I seem to be driving myself crazy with this "head game" stuff. I can accept that it's over. The only thing that I want is for her to look back one day and just think ... "hey that guy WAS really great to me." But she hasn't contacted me one time and I doubt that she ever will. Any thoughts of consolation?
Yamaha Posted July 31, 2006 Posted July 31, 2006 The only thing that I want is for her to look back one day and just think ... "hey that guy WAS really great to me." This is wrong thinking. The only thing you need is to be yourself and be happy with that knowledge. If she thinks about you in the future and that she messed up is you wanting acceptance from HER. You do not need her acceptance as you know you are a great guy. You need to keep that in your thoughts and what she thinks will not matter in the least. Learn from this experience and look for someone who knows you are a great guy and you can show it and they will appreciate you in return.
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