melbourneboy Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Ok guys i just need someone to talk some sence into me right now, My Girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now,and last night she went out with her friends to a Bar and was drinking and the Bar tender was flirting with her and was giving her Free drinks all night and then asked her what she was doing afterwards and then shortly after he finished his shift my Girlfriend and this guy was Talking (most likely flirting) with this guy for half an hour and dancing, he gave his number to her (even thou she rekons she didnt save it) and she gave him her number. This happned last night and im seeing my Girlfriend today i just dont know how to feel about all this. My Girlfriend did tell all me this on the phone and shes honest about all this stuff but i just am angrey about it all, i really dont know how to feel. I guess im Jealous but i dont want other guys flirting with her and i dont want her flirting back . im not 100% sure that ne thing happned with this guy becuase i asked her when she was drink if she kissed him and she said No and i asked again and she said "YES" is that what you want to hear. So i dont really know now what happned o well i guess ill probly never know. If i crack it im going to seem insicure but on the second hand i just dont think it right flirting and giving ur phone number out like this. Does any one have ne Advice im seeing my g.f in 3 hrs and i really dont know what to do about it Tell me what you guys think. cheers Ben
superconductor Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 You: I don't like the idea of you going out and giving your number to men that you've just met at a bar. Her: Oh, lighten up. It was just a little harmless flirting. You: Makes no difference to me whether you think it was harmless flirting or not. Please don't do it again. Her: I'll do whatever I want. You: You're absolutely free to do whatever you want. I'm just telling you that I don't like it when you do that. Her: Why? Are you insecure? Jealous? What? You: Makes no difference. I don't like it when you do that. Her: So what are you gonna do? Stop me from going out? Is it control you're after? You: I'm not going to do anything other than tell you that I don't like it when you give out your number. Her: No, really. Are you going to forbid me from doing that? You: I'm not going to forbid you from doing anything. I'm just telling you that I don't like it when you give out your number to other men. Do you understand? Her: No, I don't understand. I don't get why it's such a big deal if I go out and have fun. You: Go ahead, go out and have fun. I just don't like it when you give out your number. --------- Point is here to be clear that you're not happy about her behaviour, and it's up to her to be trustworthy enough to manage herself without you having to worry about this all the time.
Author melbourneboy Posted July 28, 2006 Author Posted July 28, 2006 OMGgg now im so pisssed i just spoke to her and she admited to cheating on me. im so angrey and upset
superconductor Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Sorry to hear that, MB. Now's the time to just chill for a bit. Take your emotions out of the equation, just for a little while. Obviously, if she cheated, then your relationship with her is over. Done. Finis. Kaput. Go full-bore NC (no contact) on her now. No explanation is necessary. That means no contact whatsoever, no emails, text messages, phone calls, messages through friends, nothing. If she contacts you, do not respond. Hang tough, dude. We'll get you through this.
Author melbourneboy Posted July 28, 2006 Author Posted July 28, 2006 i Think she deserves a chance, but shes going to have to make it up2 me big time im so angrey right now i just cant belive that she did it. like wtf whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
xFallingAwayFromYoux Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I think you should talk things through with her. If she was drunk well maybe its not much of an excuse but when your drunk you do do things you regret. Talk things through with her and see if you want to give her another chance. If you really like this girl and don't think she'll do it again (or shes not the type to usually cheat) then she's worth another try. Good luck man .
xFallingAwayFromYoux Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Oh I was looking at your old threads and I see your 21 with a 16yr old gf, I was wondering if you could take a look at my latest thread if you have time thanks.
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