dominsane Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 My ex broke up with me almost three weeks ago, and I've cried every day since. But two days ago, something changed. He told me the *real* reason why he broke up with me. And I was sad, but mostly pissed. He told me that he didn't want to date me anymore(in the future) because he said I stalked him...and I really, really didn't. (That's why I was pissed) And since then, I've been really depressed, but really calm. I don't know what it is, but I used to get sad and cry whenever I thought of him. But now, I'm not crying. I'll be sad, and feel like crying, but I don't. It's like I literally can't. I don't know exactly how I feel. Has this happened to anyone? I just think...I might be getting over him...or something (?)
superconductor Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Perfectly normal. During your crying phase, you didn't have all the information you needed. Now that you have it - despite the fact that it may be incorrect - that's taken the burden off of the "what did I do wrong?" thought process. Better to be mad than sad anyway. You're clearly getting over him, which is as it should be.
LaraV Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 My ex broke up with me almost three weeks ago, and I've cried every day since. But two days ago, something changed. He told me the *real* reason why he broke up with me. And I was sad, but mostly pissed. He told me that he didn't want to date me anymore(in the future) because he said I stalked him...and I really, really didn't. (That's why I was pissed) And since then, I've been really depressed, but really calm. I don't know what it is, but I used to get sad and cry whenever I thought of him. But now, I'm not crying. I'll be sad, and feel like crying, but I don't. It's like I literally can't. I don't know exactly how I feel. Has this happened to anyone? I just think...I might be getting over him...or something (?) When experiencing grief from loss - any and all emotions and emotional states are perfectly normal. Even feeling "numb" or "insane laughter" is normal. Anything goes.
KittenMoon Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Don't be surprised if you actually find yourself feeling worse. I used to cry all the time... now I don't much anymore. It feels deeper. I call the crying thing sadness, this is more like despair. I suppose like all the other feelings it will pass eventually.
Mollyanna Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 if it helps, you can have some of my tears. I am still crying first thing when I wake up, and before I go to bed. But at least most of the daytime tears have disappeared so I can actually work! I agree that it does sound like you are getting over it. The healing has begun. Let it numb you up so you can get on with your life and not let anything break you right now. I think that is a good thing. You will feel things again when your body, heart, and mind are ready.
trebon Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I agree that you are on the road to recovery. embrace the numbness as an oppertunity to move yourself forward and grow. Keep strong and it will al work out. Good luck.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Hmm if i loved someone and they stalked me. I think I would take that as a compliment haha not saying you did
Author dominsane Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 When experiencing grief from loss - any and all emotions and emotional states are perfectly normal. Even feeling "numb" or "insane laughter" is normal. Anything goes. Yeah...I get that "numb" feeling all the time...and I laugh randomly, even when there isn't anything funny going on...or I'm not even thinking about anything funny. And crying was more like sadness, too... I think I've accepted the fact that we won't be together anymore... But I keep on thinking about him...and things we've done. I just get sad...and I just think about how it's not going to happen anymore. Well, at least, not with him. I guess it is a kind of dispair. I just want to feel better. I want college to start already, so I can meet some new people... I think it'll be easier when I start hanging out with more people... Thanks for your advice..or...your opinions... I appreciate it.
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