SHortyAnGel Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Okay, I seriously need someone to slap me until my face turns blue..! MM got a promotion... seriously happy for him... his been doing the job for a long time & finally got the title!... well deserve...! BUt that also mean not alot of time. I spk to him last week. i asked him if he was happy..? simple answer is half... [ what the hell does that mean..?] I finally found a good friend of mine who is also seeing a MM bu t she gave her MM a deadline & he complyed w/ it... BUT he is refusing to get a offical divorce..? [ if he has already moved out to his own place] the process has alreay started... finish it rite?... THis is Question for Old Europe - I have read your situation & advise & i must say the one trait that i do admire w/ anyboy is strength esp emotionally, i love the tough factor that you possess.....Please understand professionally i am kickn ass & basically my situation w/ MM is my actual motivation to continue to climb up the corporate ladder... [ in the process ] & this also has become my distraction..... I know that if a MM truly cares for you he would do anything in his power to ensure that you do not go away... BUT how would you acutally word it to say NC... this is what i want... w/o sounding needy..? i have been w/ him for over 2 yrs now. I see MM & his W almost everyday.... its hard [duh!] I am sorry if i am not making any sense...?
superconductor Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Look, the dude is trying to wrestle with new responsibilities here. That means more time required at the office (or job site, or whatever). Cut him some slack. His relationship with you is supposed to be the most hassle-free part of his life. I know that if a MM truly cares for you he would do anything in his power to ensure that you do not go away I don't know where you came up with this one, but it's completely false. The more difficult the relationship becomes, the easier it will be for him to leave. Truly caring for someone doesn't mean that you'll put up with endless amounts of sh*t.
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I know that if a MM truly cares for you he would do anything in his power to ensure that you do not go away... Uhmm, if the MM is happy as things are, meaning he's still married and with his OW, he'll do anything in his power to make sure things don't change. He's having two women meeting all his needs, why on earth would he give that up????
Sami_D Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 I know that if a MM truly cares for you he would do anything in his power to ensure that you do not go away... BUT how would you acutally word it to say NC... this is what i want... w/o sounding needy..? Stating what you want and need from a situation is NOT NEEDY. Needy is bending over backwards and accepting Anything he throws your way because you don't have the guts to say, 'this isn't working and I need more, and if you can't help with that, then we'll have to part'. Needy is afraid to state needs in case they don't get met. As for the first part of your statement: If a MM cares for you, he Will Let You Go, because he cannot give you what you need. Hanging onto people because of your own desires is selfish, not caring. You state what your needs are, and if he can't meet them, he lets you go, and you walk away with dignity. That is how it should go. Either that, or he gets his act together and leaves his M, and catches up with you later, IF you're free.
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