dating

[littlelevi15]

okay so me and my best friend went on a 1 week cruise...i met this guy the first day and we liked each other alot...we hung out every night til about 3 in the morning...he is perfect for me and we have so much in common...the cruise ended july 9th and me and this guy have talked almost every single night online and occasionally on the phone since then...i told him how i felt about him online and he said he felt the same way, he always called me baby girl on the phone and through the computer...then all of a sudden he didnt text me back or write me back online for about 2 days...so i texted him and he says "he tried to text me but it must have not gone through" (which i dont belive)....but now its werid...he calls me home girl now and buddy...i dont get it...what happened? i feel like he likes me as a friend now...im also in the coast guard and i am gettting stationed to were he lives in about two months....i need adviceee....pleasseeeeee helppp

[Seriously]

My advice to you, read: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship, by Sherry Argov.

 

I have read this book three times just to remind me of what I need to look for out of a relationship. We all know it but, unless it is smacking us in the face we will not see it. If you write a paragraph on loveshack then you know what you need to do.

 

Another thing to think hard about: Actions Speak Louder than Words!

 

p.s. Thanks to that book I have not wasted a lot of time wondering but being with a guy that I know is in to me as much as I am into him. You will know when it is the right one, I promise. He is not.

[nips5050]

I think you should just see what happens. I mean, keep communicating with him and tell him you're going to be in his town. Hang out with him, see him...just go with the flow. Don't push anything cuz guys do not respond well to women who are pushy (at least from my experience) Maybe a guy would say different

[shachic]

how old are you guys? (just curious to see what his maturity level is....but I guess that has nothing to do with age, eh? :-)).

Anyways, I actually agree somewhat with reading either 'Why men love bitches' or the sequel, 'Why men marry bitches' by Sherry Argov. I read the latter just yesterday - basically what this book teaches you to do is to keep your distance and let the man chase you (instead of chasing the man).

My problem is that I tend to like guys way more than I should very early on. As a result, I do stupid things (that i would never do as an independent, strong minded single...lol) that often scare the guy away (initiating phone-calls, text messages, etc etc).

Right now, i'm currently talking to a guy who I really like. He's long distance, and we met through a mutual friend online - we have neve met, but we seem to have a LOT in common.

He initiated a lot of the phone-calls - but in the past week or so, he has not called me - and everytime I see him online, I initiate the convo.

 

Then....I realized that I might be scaring him by being too available and easy to reach.

So, thats when I read the book.

Even though its killing me, i'm going to just take it easy, not be online all the time and just go out and have fun with my friends.

I am thinking of even meeting other guys to date also.

I really like this guy, but I realize i need to keep myself busy and occupied, and just not think about it so much. Its not easy for me to do - but I want him to get to know the real me. At the same time, I want to see if I can date other guys too.

 

I think you should read the book and see if you can get ideas from it. He might be pulling away now, b/c you are making yourself too available to talk to.

Guys LOVE the thrill of the chase. But they can only chase you if you are running. If you're standing still, you are making youserlf very easy to catch...and whats the fun in that..?? :-)

Hope this makes sense.

Its not easy.....but it does work (trust me, i know its not easy..i'm going through it right now!).

Good luck..