Walk Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Crass? Crass would've been to describe in detail (as a4a pointed out) the smell and consistency of the farts. If she prefers not to date a person who says they fart, or who acknowledges bodily functions, then good for her! But, it edges on snobbish in my opinion. Kind of makes me think of those cartoons where the old guy in a top hat makes remarks like: "I say old chap, those commoners are so crass." And I'm not sure I would automatically discount a person based on their vocabular. But rather their actions and beliefs. I think the guy was going out of his way to accomadate the OP. Even though he was going to suffer hours of cramps and a painful belly afterward... she wanted ice cream. For her, he would suffer the consequences. But he mentioned farting.. so screw him. Poor guy. Unnecessary pain and suffering for her desire to have real ice cream, and she shows no appreciation for it.
tinktronik Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I don't know that the crassness would have bothered me at all. What would have bothered me is ...Oh no , I can't eat this ...it will make me gassy and uncomfortasble..but no,,,oh no Ill eat it anyway ...we can't possibly go elsewhere ..your descision is going to make me uncomfortable, but alas , sigh... These kinds of things irritate me to no end...Why did'nt the guy just say beforehand that he was lactose intollerant and suggest the other place ? And since he did not why bring it up and then complain?
Buttaflyy Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I think it was just plain rude and tasteless. I don't want to hear about farting when I'm ready to eat. If the roles where reversed, he'd probably think she was disgusting. Since he agreed, why not just skip the dairy? He was going anyways, why mention that icecream makes him fart? It's not like he said lets skip it.
typical Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Yes, Crass is not the word I would use for his divulgence.... I think, personally, that he was attempting possibly to show his humerous side, and his more human side as well. He might be the type that gets nervous, and just says whatever is on his mind at the moment. Perhaps he has been out of the game for awhile, and uncertain what the boundaries are. Another thought is that perhaps his past girlfriends have appreciated his random honesty...Maybe he was trying to get you to smile and thought by talking about such a thing might prompt you to be playful in turn, as alphie suggested: Just as we were heading inside, he indicated he is lactose intolerant. ME: WTF! Are you a sissy or something. Lactose Intolerance my foot! HIM: No, no. It is only a slight intolerance. It just means I'll probably be farting a lot. ME: Well, I'm not smellin' your stink farts! Get away from me weirdo! HIM: No problem, i'll get you a taxi. And you owe my $29.50 for dinnner! Maybe he was trying to discern where your sense of humor level was. He might be the playful, humourous type that thought you were a bit stiff and stifled and wanted to losen you up a bit....Because, after all, everyone does fart! Maybe he is kicking himself over it right now. But, I gotta know, did he fart or what? And, you obviously liked him if you went out on a second date. But the minute he tried to humanize everything, you called it off?
tinktronik Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 This also struck me as something that would bug me on a date. I mean, the guy had SUCH a valid reason for opting for the other locale for dessert, but then patronized the gal and martyred himself. Bingo , kind of passive agressive , whiny stuff...Would irritate me to no end.
jerbear Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 He had options: - he could have said nothing and opted for an ice tea. Or a mr. mistee - he could have just left it at the "lactose intolerant" and taken me up on my offer to go across the street. Sounds like avoiding confrontation or situation, it is food or at least walk over there and get something. After finishing my sundae, he commented "I've never seen someone eat ice cream that fast". I wouldn't comment on a woman eating her food quick. Faux pa on a 2nd date. Ok, maybe if she is my daugther or after 6+ months of dating but not on a 2nd date and only as teasing.
Author clynn Posted July 28, 2006 Author Posted July 28, 2006 I don't know that the crassness would have bothered me at all. What would have bothered me is ...Oh no , I can't eat this ...it will make me gassy and uncomfortasble..but no,,,oh no Ill eat it anyway ...we can't possibly go elsewhere ..your descision is going to make me uncomfortable, but alas , sigh... These kinds of things irritate me to no end...Why did'nt the guy just say beforehand that he was lactose intollerant and suggest the other place ? And since he did not why bring it up and then complain? That pretty much nails it. Stand firm on your allergies. A little backbone! Though, yes, it was sweet that he was trying to be accomodating, I suppose.
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