clynn Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Date #2 We went for dinner yesterday. After dinner I suggested ice cream. There are two places across the street from each other - one is gelato, the other Dairy Queen. I chose Dairy Queen cuz I wanted a chocolate sundae. Just as we were heading inside, he indicated he is lactose intolerant. ME: We should go across the street then, its not a big deal to me. HIM: No, no. It is only a slight intolerance. It just means I'll probably be farting a lot. ME: Well, you shouldn't be uncomfortable. Lets go across the street. HIM: No. Lets stay here. It'll probably be you that is more uncomfortable. For crying out loud. That was far too much information for a second date. He had options: - he could have said nothing and opted for an ice tea. Or a mr. mistee - he could have just left it at the "lactose intolerant" and taken me up on my offer to go across the street. After finishing my sundae, he commented "I've never seen someone eat ice cream that fast". Hmmm......
Chinook Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 For future reference tho... it would probably take around six to eight hours for the ice cream to get from his mouth through his system and result in gas from his butt.... so unless much later... you guys were doing something else... it shouldn't really be a problem
Author clynn Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 well, okay - but in that case - i didn't need to hear about it. And....telling me about it pretty much threw chances of me being anywhere near his butt 8 hours later.
amaysngrace Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 He sounds like he's looking for a momma rather than a girlfriend. Either that or he's really into Along Came Polly. Too weird.
IceWind Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Red Alert! Red Alert! Seriously, I'd confront him with that kind of attitude. My GF would kick the crap outa me if I did something that senseless
Author clynn Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 Awww, it was Date #2, no ass kicking required. I just don't think there'll be a Date #3.
Chinook Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Awww, it was Date #2, no ass kicking required. I just don't think there'll be a Date #3. Nope, me either! Altho, I could tell you the very funny story of meeting a guy for date #1 and half way through the date as I'm putting a wine glass to my lips he says "you know, when this gets sexual would I be able to shave you..?" How I didn't drop the glass I will never know. Then suddenly I needed the bathroom and left! Needless to say there was no date #2. Even if I did have a brazilian or was into shaving, you wouldn't ask halfway through a first date! Imbecile!
Chinook Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 That is very funny! dum, dum, dum. Oh yea! I wasn't laughing tho... I was more concerned with running away as fast as I could! Can laugh now though. He's since become known in the Chinook-friends-dating-legends as "Bic Man" (Bic being a UK brand of cheap & nasty razor!) You can imagine the torment and torture I get huh...? "So Chinook, have you heard from Bic Man lately huh..?"
climbergirl Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Date #2 We went for dinner yesterday. After dinner I suggested ice cream. There are two places across the street from each other - one is gelato, the other Dairy Queen. I chose Dairy Queen cuz I wanted a chocolate sundae. Just as we were heading inside, he indicated he is lactose intolerant. ME: We should go across the street then, its not a big deal to me. HIM: No, no. It is only a slight intolerance. It just means I'll probably be farting a lot. ME: Well, you shouldn't be uncomfortable. Lets go across the street. HIM: No. Lets stay here. It'll probably be you that is more uncomfortable. For crying out loud. That was far too much information for a second date. He had options: - he could have said nothing and opted for an ice tea. Or a mr. mistee - he could have just left it at the "lactose intolerant" and taken me up on my offer to go across the street. After finishing my sundae, he commented "I've never seen someone eat ice cream that fast". Hmmm...... I don't get it.........what exactly did he do that was 'wrong'? Seems just a little uptight and judgemental...IMO.
brightskies Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: For one thing, he shared waaay too much information on a first date. The first date is supposed to be nice and glossy and fun; there's plenty of time to get to know each other's nasty habits/problems later. You need to build up to that level. For another, he basically insulted her by implying that she's a piggy eater, albeit probably not on purpose. But still. He should be more careful next time.
alphamale Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 This is how it should have gone CLYNN: Just as we were heading inside, he indicated he is lactose intolerant. ME: WTF! Are you a sissy or something. Lactose Intolerance my foot! HIM: No, no. It is only a slight intolerance. It just means I'll probably be farting a lot. ME: Well, I'm not smellin' your stink farts! Get away from me weirdo! HIM: No problem, i'll get you a taxi. And you owe my $29.50 for dinnner!
SoCalCatman72 Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Dating Rules for dates 1-3 by Catman. 1. It is better to remain silent and be regarded as an idiot, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt. 2. When in doubt, refer to rule #1. 3. When drinking several alcoholic beverages, refer to rule #1 Ok, just kidding, but that was a huge overshare on his part.
climbergirl Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: For one thing, he shared waaay too much information on a first date. The first date is supposed to be nice and glossy and fun; there's plenty of time to get to know each other's nasty habits/problems later. You need to build up to that level. For another, he basically insulted her by implying that she's a piggy eater, albeit probably not on purpose. But still. He should be more careful next time. -And here I thought his warning was quite chivalrous. I mean, he was willing to indulge in a food that certainly wasn't going to 'agree' with him. In all seriousness, how is his sharing different than, say, warning her about his allergy to peanuts? <nasty habits> Farting is a habit? Really? Geez............he only said it...........it's not like he pulled the covers over her head!
tinktronik Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 -And here I thought his warning was quite chivalrous. I mean, he was willing to indulge in a food that certainly wasn't going to 'agree' with him. In all seriousness, how is his sharing different than, say, warning her about his allergy to peanuts? <nasty habits> Farting is a habit? Really? Geez............he only said it...........it's not like he pulled the covers over her head! Chivalrous? If he had been that he never would have said anything in the first place about it .Sounds more WHINEY to me . And do I know whining from boys.
Outcast Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 IMHO, he could have used a better word (say, maybe 'gassy') but what's the harm? What's better - warn you then or turn into a gasball and stink out the place later? Then you would've posted about what a smelly windbag he was And it doesn't have to take six hours to hit. I have a friend who's so affected by soy that she'll have troubles immediately following a dinner if soy is in it. There are two or three things I can't eat because they do the same to me. People always want to know why you refuse a food item, so I say that I'll be 'gassy'. I also don't inform people I'm going to 'go pee' or 'have a piss' but that's me - lots of people seem to think it's common and normal conversation so maybe this dude is a relative of WWIU's and talks farts regularly
Author clynn Posted July 28, 2006 Author Posted July 28, 2006 Outcast, I think he did have an alternative. He could have said, "ice cream doesn't agree with me" I don't have to know it makes him fart or be gassy. Saying that he was lactose intolerant was really enough for me. Even still, even if he did decide to tell me that ---- to then indulge in the very item he said upset his stomach???? Hmmm. Stand firm on your allergies at least! I did think it was somewhat chilvalrous because he was indulging my choice of dessert place to go to. But he could have still ordered something without dairy in it and said nothing at all. That would almost have been more gallant because he would have been making the concession without asking for recognition of it.
stoopid_guy Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 At least he was comfortable enough to share this detail of his life with you. And slightly lactose intolerent or not, would many of us be able to go to an ice cream shop without eating ice cream?
Trimmer Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Nope, me either! Altho, I could tell you the very funny story of meeting a guy for date #1 and half way through the date as I'm putting a wine glass to my lips he says "you know, when this gets sexual would I be able to shave you..?" How I didn't drop the glass I will never know. Then suddenly I needed the bathroom and left! I can't shake the image of Chinook trying to escape out a tiny, high, bathroom window, only, in her panic, she is blocked by an unexpected brick wall once she opens the window (as in the movie "La Femme Nikita", although I'm assuming Chinook didn't put 3 slugs in the guy first...) :laugh:
Walk Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I'm lactose intolerant too.. And over the course of the years, I have gotten the spanish inquisition from nearly strangers on why ice cream doesn't agree with me. Now I'm to the point that I just tell people it makes me fart. So frankly, I don't see where this guy went so wrong. He didn't ask you to smell his farts. He was just explaining how it affected him. It's a bodily function. And just because you don't fart, doesn't mean the rest of the world doesn't. Besides, most guys view bodily functions as 'enhancing' traits, and aren't afraid to admit they actually have them. Even on a first or second date. I'm just not seeing why this would be a reason to never date him again. Talking about normal bodily functions is a deal breaker, even if on a second date? Why is it too much information?
a4a Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 I'm just not seeing why this would be a reason to never date him again. Talking about normal bodily functions is a deal breaker, even if on a second date? Why is it too much information? I agree..... it is not like he said he was going to blow gas out his ass or make a hershey squirt in his pants. He used a proper term for his reason for not eating the ice cream. Perhaps if he did not divulge his lactose intolerance you would have thought he had an ice cream phobia or was being a stick in the mud not joining in on the ice cream eating frenzy? As for eating your ice cream fast..... did you really shovel it in that fast? Maybe that was his way of saying " boy you must be in a hurry to end this date" Don't be shocked if he is telling his friends how you scarf up ice cream like a tornado..... nor be shocked if you eating habits grossed him out and he doesn't want a 3rd date. Now what is the real reason you don't like this guy?
typical Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 it is not like he said he was going to blow gas out his ass or make a hershey squirt in his pants. :lmao: Oh, who the hell cares how he termed it? I dont understand why his attempt at being real with you was considered a reason not to ever go on another date again.....maybe he was trying to lighten it up a bit. At least he was being honest....Why do people have to be like this: first date is supposed to be nice and glossy and fun; Why does it have to be glossy? Why do we have to censor ourselves all the time? He was just talking about a fart, no reason to be up in arms. Now what is the real reason you don't like this guy? Yes, is there a more substantial reason? Are you just being picky? Or does the idea of someone who talks about farts remind you of a bad scene?
Outcast Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Why does it have to be glossy? Why do we have to censor ourselves all the time? Exactly. It's people who think that the early part of a relationship needs to be all airy-fairy who then come back when the guy turns out to be human complaining about how 'he's not like he was at the beginning'. The whole problem with dating, IMHO, is precisely that people are about presenting an image rather than being themselves. And by 'being themselves', I don't mean blow gas out his ass or make a hershey squirt in his pants neither of which he did, thank heavens.
BareGoddess Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 Yes, he was being himself. But in my opinion he showed NO class. It's a good thing the OP saw the REAL guy now. She obviously isn't in to men who show no class and/or refinement. He also showed poor judgement. I mean there's the right time and place for everything. A second date is NOT the right time to reveal something of that nature - at least not in the crass way he did. Better to know all of that now.
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