RandomGurl Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Hey everyone, I have a question. You know when you date people, have you ever felt like you can rush things with one person because there is that instant connection, but for other people you date you have to work to build a connection? Is this normal? I'm new to this whole dating experience and could do with some advice. With my first boyfriend I had this instant connection with him, I mean my first date with him we could barely keep our hands off each other. (I'll spare you the detail lol). There was an age gap with him actually though. The guy I'm seeing now is lovely and wonderful but I don't have that crazy, exciting rush feeling with him. Is that normal? I mean, I aren't sure if I'm over my last relationship because he was my first ever true love. I really fell for him hard. I'm really confues and really need to know how I can feel comfortbale with things. Also, can anyone relate to having a weird feeling about dating, I can't explain it, but it feels strange .. Thanks again, Laura xx
norajane Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Some people turn you on right away (though you might not like them as people later), and others grow on you after you get to know them and realize how funny/smart/whatever they are. It's normal.
stoopid_guy Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Some people turn you on right away (though you might not like them as people later), and others grow on you after you get to know them and realize how funny/smart/whatever they are. It's normal. Agreed, no two are exactly the same. It does seem that the ones who grow on you lead to sweeter relationships though.
Author RandomGurl Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 So in a relationship that you have to work towards in order to get a connection, do you ever feel that excitement of when you get turned on immediately? I miss that about my last relationship, but I don't seem to have that with my current one. I miss my ex badly too.
stoopid_guy Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 So in a relationship that you have to work towards in order to get a connection, do you ever feel that excitement of when you get turned on immediately? I miss that about my last relationship, but I don't seem to have that with my current one. I miss my ex badly too. One of my favorite relationships of all time grew slowly. We worked together, picked on each other, and got to be good friends. Then one day we were alone in the stock room, and I honestly couldn't tell you how we wound up kissing, but we did. And YES! The excitement was definately there! I think part of the excitment in that case was that we both wanted it, but we let it build and build until it was unbearable.
serial muse Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 One of my favorite relationships of all time grew slowly. We worked together, picked on each other, and got to be good friends. Then one day we were alone in the stock room, and I honestly couldn't tell you how we wound up kissing, but we did. And YES! The excitement was definately there! I think part of the excitment in that case was that we both wanted it, but we let it build and build until it was unbearable. this is quite nice to hear. i wonder about this question too sometimes.
norajane Posted July 28, 2006 Posted July 28, 2006 So in a relationship that you have to work towards in order to get a connection, do you ever feel that excitement of when you get turned on immediately? Oh, yes! Absolutely! And it's actually way better, because you know that person well already by the time you start having sex - and they know you - so the emotional intimacy develops more easily and that makes the passion out-of-this-world.
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