sickkitty Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Hi guys, So im feeling really low again after i went 4 a drink with my ex on monday i thought every thing was gonna b ok we talked and had a laugh it was nice and i thought i was ready 2 move on Then yesterday when i was taking a walk i bumped in to him we talked 4 an hr had something to eat, but i didnt no how to take him, i no we wont get back 2gether (as much as i want to coz i really miss him) but the way he was with me was confusing he doesnt want me back he said that but he said he still loves me and i look better than ever! He kept holding my hand and hugging me, then he gave me a kiss good bye Im so confussed he wants to c me as a friend and i want 2 c him i no he is just using me but i cant help my feelings im so low right now Didnt help that i was dreaming about him all night!!! I just need a bit of advice and some one to talk 2 i feel so alone Amanda xx
Clouseau Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 How long has it been since you split? It sounds like you still harbour feelings for him, even though he is over you and by the way it sounds it seems like its too early for you to be meeting up with him again just to be friends. I find this difficult too - but Im still adopting a semi NC policy with my ex. She contacted me last week via MSN and Im tempted to contact her this week via the same method. I know people on this board would advise against me doing that though... Basically you need time and space to get over him before you can be friends, and that involves the most painful thing of all which is breaking off all communication - something that I haven't managed to do yet... You also need to keep yourself busy with friends and other hobbies to take your mind off things. You gotta show that you can life your life for you and be happy without him - and in time you will. You will feel better and time will heal you, but it's just a bit of a slow process and it wont heal if the wound is constantly being re-opened cos it will just tear you up inside... I dunno if this is much help - as everyone is different, but you will get better!
Author sickkitty Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 Thanx 4 ur advice x But the true thing is b4 i met this guy i was so unhappy me and my mom dont get on and my friends barely contact me and when they do im a last resort, when i met him i was the happiest id ever been in my life So no im back to square 1 I think its his company i miss most because most of the time im alone He is also my first love (2nd bf) so thats hard 2 get over! i no thats life and il learn from this, times a healer etc i just dont wanna hurt ne more x Amanda xx
loveinlife Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Amanda seems like you are going through some difficult time. Same with me, my ex was my first love and second gf. We are friends and semi keep in contact via phone few times a week for a year since we broke up. I finally realized tonight that ex are not good friends, somehow i feel that I always care more about her than she does for me. I plan on nc with her and turn off my phone , which I did tonite. I hope not to call her, pick up her calls or hear from her again. Each time I hear her voice it trigures my emotions, so i guess its best for me not do do so. I hope you will find yourself happy again without your ex. Took me almost a year to repair myself. I hope you get better. Try to meeting new people and do different activities than what you ussually do with you're ex. Also listen to your friends, they might give some good advices on moving on or provide a good support system for you. ---------------------- Life is unfair, but who said it was fair in the first place. -Sam
Author sickkitty Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 Thanx loveinlife i cant believe its taken u nearly a yr iv looked at a few of ur posts and u have given some great advice My ex is sometimes very cold hearted (dont no if he means 2 b) when i talk 2 him he sometimes acts distant with me but when we meet up (which isnt often) he is all over me i dint get it, is it guilt? im trying 2 move on, i only have 1 very close friend who rings me ever other day but she lives like 2 hrs away from me and nither of us drives Im on another message board called starfury.co.uk if any one is in 2 buffy & angel (Charmed,24 etc) then u guys should cheak it out im really weak at the moment, i feel i need him 2 servive (i no i dont) i always want to talk 2 him, he was like my best friend id always run 2 him when i was up set, i still want 2 run 2 him but i no i cant x Amanda xx
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