burning 4 revenge Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Being forward and being easy are to very different concepts B4R. What I want to know is if guys prefer the chase, as opposed to having a woman being direct with her intentions? (I don't just mean sexual intentions)sometimes. it just depends on whether, or not it becomes fast forward. she was blowing me within three hours of meeting her, so for her they were one and the same i prefer woment o be forward, but not wh*res.
Outcast Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Pink, there will never be a single answer to any question about what 'men' or 'women' like. There will always be a myriad of responses because humans are individual with individual tastes. You could run into 465 LSers who hate women who do that and another 465 guys in your immediate community who love it. Unless you're planning to go for the LS guys, you're best to ask the men in your own life what they think, IMHO.
johan Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 ...Unless you're planning to go for the LS guys... What do you mean "unless"? I thought she was hitting on me.
magichands Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 What do you mean "unless"? I thought she was hitting on me. Man - don't kid yourself - that tryst on the plane was a one-off.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 What do you mean "unless"? I thought she was hitting on me. not to ruin your weekend ,but if you re-read the thread it's obvious she was interested in me
Author Pink Amulet Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 LOL- Yes, Johan was wonderful on the plane and did appreciate my upfront nature! Outcast- If that were the case why would any of us bother posting threads at all! I was just bringing up something I was wondering about. It's much easier to ask these questions to LS'ers than people in my own life. Isn't that why we are all here!!
MsArtful Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 LOL- Yes, Johan was wonderful on the plane and did appreciate my upfront nature! Outcast- If that were the case why would any of us bother posting threads at all! I was just bringing up something I was wondering about. It's much easier to ask these questions to LS'ers than people in my own life. Isn't that why we are all here!! I come here because it amuses me:)
Author Pink Amulet Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 Finding amusement in other peoples miseries... I can dig it
stoopid_guy Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 What I want to know is if guys prefer the chase, as opposed to having a woman being direct with her intentions? (I don't just mean sexual intentions) Which guy? we're all different. I think "direct with her intentions" is always good though. I think it's great if you initiate the chase, as long as I'm not seeing you initiate with several guys at once. And, if you initiate and it turns some guy off, you probably wouldn't get along anyway.
Author Pink Amulet Posted July 30, 2006 Author Posted July 30, 2006 Apparently Lindsay Lohan is scaring guys off with her upfront "I just want sex" attitude...
WithOrWithoutYou Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 It is a turn-on when women are forward. Most of the guys I know love that (myself included).
mental_traveller Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 That would be a bit too forward for my tastes, but if I was attracted to the woman then it wouldn't make a huge difference. In your case, it seems like the guy was a bit of the shy retiring type, so being forward was probably exactly the right way to make a big impression on him. And he called you up, clearly impressed, so I'd say you got a result. Remember everyone has their own different way of doing things, just be yourself, follow your instincts, and worry less about whether it's the "done thing". P.S. I don't really think it was your approach that was "intimidating", rather the person you tried it on was easily intimidated.
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 Haha- wow I don't even remember writing this thread! He turned out to be a bit of a bore in the end anyway
Noos Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I don't see how the way I look plays a part in defining me as a psycho. I didn't say you were a psycho, I said that a less attractive woman than you would be thought of as a psycho if she took the same approach. I think you wrote about this experience because you know that most guys think you're hot and you wanted to know what they would think if a girl as hot as you are approached them as a stranger to ask for a date. You wanted to hear them say they'd love it and would fall over themselves to say yes. But if a 5' 5" brunette non-Playboy model took the same approach to a male stanger, it would be a thanks but no thanks. You know it and I know it! They'd say yes to you because of the way you look. Average girls would not have a chance and would be thought of as weird or desperate. Girls who look like they fell off a page of Ralph get chances that the rest of us don't have and get away with a lot more stuff. You even had to put in Mark's response which inferred how hot you were...
Noos Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 And the reason you can be so confident with guys is because guys treat girls like you as princesses..
Yamaha Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I think most guys prefer the chase, I know I do. I like to pursue a gal and if one came onto me as "in your face" as you did I would be put off by the experience. I think your approach would be fine for shy guys who might not approach you unless you were the aggressor but for a confident guy he would not be impressed.
Adunaphel Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I 100% agree with Noos. I'm jealous of you, Pink. No, really, I am. I have to resort to brains to get attention from guys, and to sense of humour whenever I try a direct approach. And my direct approaches have not really worked so far.
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 I 100% agree with Noos. I'm jealous of you, Pink. No, really, I am. I have to resort to brains to get attention from guys, and to sense of humour whenever I try a direct approach. I must say, I am really uncomfortable with this... and what Noos said, made me quite angry to be honest. Please don't be jealous. Looks can only take an attraction so far... The best part of me (and the only part that matters) is inside
johan Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I think it's not completely fair to think that the dating world is really that much easier for pretty women. They get cheated on and abused just as much as anyone else. They fall just as hard as anyone else. It seems like they fall for creeps more often. I've seen some get to be really cynical, because it just didn't matter what they did in life. The major congratulations came for their hair or breasts. And men were willing to give them professional favors in the hopes of making some kind of connection. In the dating world, sincere appreciation for anything other than looks is hard to come by. I wouldn't want to be treated like a trophy. As if I was just empty. Well, at least not outside the bedroom. It seems like people (men, women, young, old, straight, gay, etc) only notice the beauty in the end, and they tend not to think it's important if there is anything substantial underneath. If I was going to be a woman, I'd probably choose to be only above average in looks. Not gorgeous.
Adunaphel Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I must say, I am really uncomfortable with this... and what Noos said, made me quite angry to be honest. Please don't be jealous. Looks can only take an attraction so far... The best part of me (and the only part that matters) is inside Hey, I really think you are a nice and caring girl, and you *do* have brains. But like many others insecure not-so-pretty girls down there, I am basically jealous of stunning looking people, even if not necessarily in a "mean" way. Please rest assured that if I looked anyhting like you, I'd be counting on my looks more than you do. I guess that average looking people can easily think that great looks make your life easier, while there are so many disadvantages that come along with them - the worry of guys falling in love more with your looks than with the rest of you is only a minor one of such disvantages. I don't think that Noos meant to offend you, but it is true that beautiful people get away with a lot of stuff that the rest of us cannot afford. The above was meant generally, and not referring specifically to your situation. Thinking about which, and getting finally on the original topic, the guy was clearly showing interest in you. So I guess it's not, really, a question of looks, and it is not really a question of approaching guys,also. It's just a "approaching directly guys that act like they are very interested in you", which is very different with "just approaching guys". Most guys I know would really appreciate it, and be very happy. Some might get shocked/scared, but they'd still brag about it with their friends. It was a funny approach, but the "if you want to distract me some more" part would make the shy ones even more shy. If you had just handed him your number with an excuse (out of character for you, i guess. It's stuff for chickens like me) I think that 99% of single male population would have called you back under similar circumstances. Edited to add: feel like apologizing for being a jealous b*tch sometimes. I wrote the other post with a "all is so much easier for hot ladies" attitude.
justagirliegirl Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 I think it's not completely fair to think that the dating world is really that much easier for pretty women. They get cheated on and abused just as much as anyone else. They fall just as hard as anyone else. It seems like they fall for creeps more often. I've seen some get to be really cynical, because it just didn't matter what they did in life. The major congratulations came for their hair or breasts. And men were willing to give them professional favors in the hopes of making some kind of connection. In the dating world, sincere appreciation for anything other than looks is hard to come by. I wouldn't want to be treated like a trophy. As if I was just empty. Well, at least not outside the bedroom. It seems like people (men, women, young, old, straight, gay, etc) only notice the beauty in the end, and they tend not to think it's important if there is anything substantial underneath. If I was going to be a woman, I'd probably choose to be only above average in looks. Not gorgeous. Pretty people get abused and cheated on just like anyone else but nobody can deny the advantages to being good looking. You absolutely DO get special treatment. Sadly gorgeous, hair, bod, and breasts are key. Men would fall all over themselves just to be near me. I don't know how much free stuff I have gotten from men. Men think I was hot and would just pay for my gas or pay for my items at the circle k. I'd never see them again. I would be mighty naive to think they were doing it because they thought I was smart or a nice person or for what was inside. They were doing it because of how I looked. I also have to agree if an ugly or average girl was so bold like that to the guy in the classroom that he would have been creeped out and would have been laughing about it with his mates. My workmates and I had a discussion about men other other day and we talked about how they seemed to be intimidated by our intelligence(we work in IT). One workmate was saying she was always the friend girl the guy would have a good time with and confided in but the big boobed blonde who had a career at McDonalds was the girl he chose for his girlfriend. She had come to the conclusion that good looks are number 1 and anything else didn't matter much. Looks fade as they do with all of us. We get older and don't turn as many heads and the favors dwindle. We had better have something substantial by then as the cute blush and giggle that worked on men at the age of 19 looks pretty silly on a 45 year old woman. Not saying that it is right, but that is the truth and that is the way it is. Looking back, it would have been much easier to have been average looking.
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 Pretty people get abused and cheated on just like anyone else but nobody can deny the advantages to being good looking. You absolutely DO get special treatment. Sadly gorgeous, hair, bod, and breasts are key. Men would fall all over themselves just to be near me. I don't know how much free stuff I have gotten from men. Men think I was hot and would just pay for my gas or pay for my items at the circle k. I'd never see them again. I would be mighty naive to think they were doing it because they thought I was smart or a nice person or for what was inside. They were doing it because of how I looked. I also have to agree if an ugly or average girl was so bold like that to the guy in the classroom that he would have been creeped out and would have been laughing about it with his mates. My workmates and I had a discussion about men other other day and we talked about how they seemed to be intimidated by our intelligence(we work in IT). One workmate was saying she was always the friend girl the guy would have a good time with and confided in but the big boobed blonde who had a career at McDonalds was the girl he chose for his girlfriend. She had come to the conclusion that good looks are number 1 and anything else didn't matter much. Looks fade as they do with all of us. We get older and don't turn as many heads and the favors dwindle. We had better have something substantial by then as the cute blush and giggle that worked on men at the age of 19 looks pretty silly on a 45 year old woman. Not saying that it is right, but that is the truth and that is the way it is. Looking back, it would have been much easier to have been average looking. *cough* No wonder the stereotype perpetuates... Good luck with everything.
Walk Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 My bf says... "Even a model has had a man who got tired of ****ing her." er... to translate... It ain't all about the looks if you wanna keep a man. Might get them easier, but still isn't going to be enough to keep them if that's what a woman wants. This isn't a slam against Pink.. She seems like a good person with a brain, and seems to actually use her brain. But in the end.. looks only get you so far. So, although I would love to have even HALF the good looks that Pink does... I'd by far rather have my inner self that I've worked decades on perfecting.
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 Well I work in radio. So my face is useless there And I wouldn't be there if it wern't for... *taps head*
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