Guest Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 first of all, an introduction. hello to everyone. my name is chris, i'm 20 years old, a corporal of marines stationed in north carolina, and i have a huge problem. i've been single for the past 6 months and it's driving me crazy. i've learned a lot about myself in the past half year, and one of those things is that i've NEVER actually asked a girl out on my own... everyone i've ever dated (including my ex-fiancee) has been the initiator. the way it has always happened is that i get to know them in an environment where i see them a lot and gradually build up to that point of romantic interest. that's all well and good, as i've been called a flirt with people who know me, but in terms of people i don't know... NOTHING. i guess what i'm asking for is advice on how to initiate conversations with women! once that ice is broken i have no problems at all carrying on a conversation, but that initial greeting is elusive as all get out to me. i'm an attractive guy, smart, funny once in a while, a bit sarcastic... i hate jerks and typical guys, so being one of those isn't my problem. i'm sincere, i'm not looking for one-night stands (i don't like that idea at all), you know? i'm not looking for marriage either but... i guess you know what i mean. anyways, to all who read this, thanks, and i hope to read some responses soon. thanks again chris
Outcast Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 I guess it depends where you're doing the looking. If you're out and about, all you need do is ask a question about the venue or the products (if you're in a store) the music (if you're at a concert), etc. Basically, the best way to get into a conversation is to ask questions.
lovestruck234 Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 first of all, an introduction. hello to everyone. my name is chris, i'm 20 years old, a corporal of marines stationed in north carolina... Just a word of advice, be VERRRY careful giving out too much information about yourself on forums/sites like this. There are some pretty shifty people out there... Sorry, I just thought I'd warn you!! Carry on...
theman101 Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Yes, but a 20 year old male is not at much risk compared to a 12 year old.
Walk Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Hey Cpl. I know when I was down there for mos, the crowd wasn't too terribly savory for long term commitments. Then again, I was only there for a few months... I'm the same way in dating. I get to know a person first, and then usually they initiate. How about joining a group or club? Something that might interest you enough to go, yet would have women members too. I'm coming up short on interesting sounding groups... uh.. dog rescue, or mountain biking, or nature hikes. (like you need more walking.. hahah) That way you could still have the "get to know her first", then woo her with your charm later. Or take a class at one of the colleges. Don't they have one around the base there? You could meet all kinds of twenty something women just dying to meet a "good" man. You'd beat the stuffin' outta a college boy any day. Plus, last I heard, it's free for active duty members.. I think you have to pass it with a C though...
hchris6738k Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 well, i don't think girls really like guys who come on too strong and latch on to them, or say phoney lines when they meet them, even when a guy i don't know says "hi" it kind of annoys me, everyone is differant though. but, i think that just making a comment to a girl you are interested in is a good start, i think standing in long lines (grocery store, motor vehicles etc...) is a good way to just make a comment, you know like "good thing i left early" "is the wait long?'- little things like that, then one line leads to the next. a girl can usually tell by the way you look at her when you're having non-chalant talk, if you think she is pretty, or interested in her other than chit chat in a line. you'll be able to tell by her body language if she is interested also. before you go, if the conversation & body language was good, just be brave and give her your number and say something like it was nice talking, call me if you'd like to meet for coffee. that is way better that asking for her number-she is in control, and since she dosn't know you, she won't get home & think "he was cute, i hope he calls me" then in the back of her mind she's also thinking "**** i hope he isn't really a weirdo, and he has my number!", also meeting somewhere, is good you are both getting yourselves there and back, no obligation, no uneasiness about getting into vehicle with a guy you don't know, and coffee is perfect, because it's quick,unlike dinner, it's a good start, and not at all intiminating. go for it, good luck
lovestruck234 Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Yes, but a 20 year old male is not at much risk compared to a 12 year old. I'm just sayin! You never know what some looneys are capable of these days!!
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