almostthere Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 I just needed to get this off my chest no matter how wrong or bad it sounds. I know I'm horrible and out of line on this but I just cant help it. My live in boyfriend works 6 days a week and only has Sundays off. I work fulltime and study all the rest of the time and all I really have is Sunday to relax when I am not studying. I have two kids of my own and he has three of his own. He wants to bring his kids over every Sunday from early morning until bedtime. Which would be ok but they dont listen for anything and wreck a lot of things and eat snacks every 15 minutes. I cant afford to feed them that much food and I dont want them eating that much because it is unhealthy. I allow my kids one healthy snack after breakfast and two snacks (one after lunch and one after dinner before bed. They threw around my moms boxes of fitz and floyd (which is expensive ceramic) that I had stacked because she is still moving her things out. Fortunately all I can tell right now that broke was a bow. I cleaned for 2 hours last sunday only to have the place wrecked in 10 minutes. I cant handle it. It is to the point where i want to start taking my kids out every Sunday and not be there anymore. The thing that set me off this week was that my bf and I planned on taking my kids to the museum for three weeks now this sunday. but today he tells me he wants to pick up his kids instead. We cant afford to take everyone because it would cost $100 just in admision to get them in. I am a member there so me and my kids are free. So I told him that was fine but next time dont wait til i am really looking forward to doing things before you break off the plans. I am tired of feeling like we are the second family. I know we are by why does it have to feel so much like that. I am starting to think that I should call it quits now because this just isnt going to work for me. I cannot have them there every sunday for the rest of my life. and shame on me. I know thats horrible but i need my time with my kids too. I havent done anything with them lately. I am going to figure out my bills and see if i take up my second job again if i could live there on my own. I am not sure i want this anymore. I dont think I am the type of person who can handle second place and take it gracefully. I know i am being a *itch but this is just how i feel. my children are well behaved and i dont know how to handle with unruly children. before i throw away a good relationship is there anything i can do besides just deal with it? i just want to feel like a family too. is there anything wrong in that?
Stunner Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 I don't think you are doing anything wrong. It isn't working out...simple. Whatever problems exist now will only grow worse over time. You are smart by ending it now. And, IMO...you are not being a b****. I support your decision.
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