heart_broken1 Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 just confessed to the love of my life recently that I cheated on her twice since we've been officially going out. We had a long distance relationship and during the 10 months that we had been going out officially I fooled around twice with two different girls. We had only met each other 3 times in those 10 months but we were deeply in love and I had cheated on her once after we met face to face for the first time since we met on the net. Then I cheated on her again after we met a second time. I confessed to her recently because we were confessing to each other what we had done before we met up face to face. Even though we hadn't met yet we were supposedly in love but she had also done some things I never would have expected her to do, but since we became official she was faithful and I slipped. But I really do love her and it hurts so much now that I've lost her. She wasn't able to forgive me after I had told her. I did everything I could have done to show how sorry I was. The night I told her I drove 12 hours to see her. During the time I spent in her city, I bought her flowers, sang her a song on her doorstep, bought her a gift and cried with her. It has been a month now and she is still in alot of pain and so am I. I've stopped calling her because she said it only makes things harder. She is the most beautiful and the best woman I've ever known. I know I could never love anyone like I love her. I really am sorry and regret what I did. Everyday I pray that she will somehow come to forgive me and take me back. "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always the case as I am proof it is not. I confessed my mistakes and have turned from them. I know that if she takes me back she won't regret it. I want to know if anyone thinks things can still work out between us. Are there any success stories out there? Would any of you ladies forgive me for what I've done? Please help me. Thanks.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 i am of the "Burn me once, Shame on Me, Burn me twice, Shame on You" school...... sorry dude..... i would have to redecorate your house if you did that to me.
Ladyjane14 Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 Even though we hadn't met yet we were supposedly in love but she had also done some things I never would have expected her to do, but since we became official she was faithful and I slipped. Are you saying that you "cheated" on somebody you had never even met in person before?
Guest Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 just confessed to the love of my life recently that I cheated on her twice since we've been officially going out. We had a long distance relationship and during the 10 months that we had been going out officially I fooled around twice with two different girls. We had only met each other 3 times in those 10 months but we were deeply in love and I had cheated on her once after we met face to face for the first time since we met on the net. Then I cheated on her again after we met a second time. I confessed to her recently because we were confessing to each other what we had done before we met up face to face. Even though we hadn't met yet we were supposedly in love but she had also done some things I never would have expected her to do, but since we became official she was faithful and I slipped. But I really do love her and it hurts so much now that I've lost her. She wasn't able to forgive me after I had told her. I did everything I could have done to show how sorry I was. The night I told her I drove 12 hours to see her. During the time I spent in her city, I bought her flowers, sang her a song on her doorstep, bought her a gift and cried with her. It has been a month now and she is still in alot of pain and so am I. I've stopped calling her because she said it only makes things harder. She is the most beautiful and the best woman I've ever known. I know I could never love anyone like I love her. I really am sorry and regret what I did. Everyday I pray that she will somehow come to forgive me and take me back. "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always the case as I am proof it is not. I confessed my mistakes and have turned from them. I know that if she takes me back she won't regret it. I want to know if anyone thinks things can still work out between us. Are there any success stories out there? Would any of you ladies forgive me for what I've done? Please help me. Thanks. Maybe it was other factors involved that influenced her decision besides you cheating. She could have also reasoned that the distance between you two was unbearable and might make it harder for her to trust that you would be faithful from here on out. You have to understand that once a person has been deceived or even lied to (which I equate to cheating) then its kind of hard to just take a person's word at face value that they won't do it again. That doesn't automatically build trust even when two people see each other everyday. The fact that you two were in a long distance relationship to begin with probably suggests to me there was not a whole lot of depth to this relationship, otherwise I don't think you would be soo shocked at her reaction to your confession. To really get to know someone you have to spend quality time in their company and while I certainly think the computer and phone is a convenient way to introduce two people. I don't think it affords the same opportunities as dating face to face and getting to know someone and shouldn't be used as the sole means of communication between two people contemplating spending their life together. Therefore, I really can't say I blame her for ending it so abruptly. My suggestion to you is this: If she does agree to give it another try you need to try to move closer to her so that you can spend quality time with her in her company getting to know one another. Otherwise how do you know if this is really even someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with outside of the fact that she is attractive.
Author heart_broken1 Posted July 27, 2006 Author Posted July 27, 2006 Hey, I'm heary_broken 1. In response to "Are you saying that you "cheated" on somebody you had never even met in person before? :confused:".. no i cheated on her after we met. We didn't count what we did with other people before we met each other cheating. Although it did hurt us both that we did it. She is also a virgin so I wasn't getting anything off her when we did meet and I had come out of a relationship where I was getting alot of sex. It's no excuse for what I did but it was just in the heat of the moment. And it response to guest.. I did tell her that if she was to give me a second chance I would move immediately to be with her and I know that I would have never done what I did if I had lived closer to her. And I don't only love her because she is attractive. We just clicked and the time we did spend each other was awesome. We were so happy. Everyone could we were very happy together. Her family have never even seen her so happy when she was with me. I know that I will be happy with her for the rest of my life. I don't think I could even get myself to move on because I'll always be in love with her.
silktricks Posted July 27, 2006 Posted July 27, 2006 Are you saying you decided she was the "love of your life" before you ever met her? How much actual relationship do you have with this woman? How committed were you to each other?
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