gamingvsreality Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 I would like you to share some opinions here please! My fiance of 5 months likes online gaming, this includes MMO's (multi massive online) games. He has subscriptions to two popular games and plays daily. I am not sure how much he games in a day, except for when he's at home. These at home sessions can range from 1-6 hours a night. I find he games more the more we intimate. He games less and gives me more attention when there is not as much intimacy. Is this normal. Literally, this is his favourite pastime. If he feels there is nothing else for him to do. This is what he does. I'd just like to hear what you have to say. I would also like to know if you think this might be an addiction. His parents both have addiction problems. Thanks
magichands Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 I find he games more the more we intimate. He games less and gives me more attention when there is not as much intimacy. You seem to be separating attention and intimacy? How does that work? Maybe this is an enthusiasm thing. When he is more enthusiastic about life he games more, and also gives you more. Less gaming is a sign of less interest in life, and you. I'm probably totally off base here, but I had to write something.
tikigods Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 Honestly a couple hours a night isn't anything. Its only an addiction if it starts to get in the way of daily activities, like he won't go to work and so on and so forth. Have you been dating for 5 months or just engaged for that amount of time? When did he start doing this? Have you ever thought of maybe joining in and playing with him?
Blackfrost Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 I see nothing wrong with playing mmo's at any age, as long as it does not get to the point where he's not fulfilling the things he needs to fulfill in your daily lives. I've played them for years (off and on) and met those that are real addicts (i.e. put on 50+ pounds, lose their jobs, their houses, their families, and still keep playing). Those are addicts. There is nothing wrong with playing video games, as long as like everything else, they are done in reasonable moderation. I see playing games, no different then the millions of people who sit on the couch every night and stare at the tv for hours, read for hours, or any other particular way that people like to unwind out of their daily lives and enjoy themselves. Games are entertainment like anything else that people enjoy doing in their off time.
Guest Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Try playing with him, I've been doing so for 5 years ^_^ They are actually a load of fun!
ladyzero Posted July 29, 2006 Posted July 29, 2006 Oy, do I feel your pain. lol My husband plays an online game, an MMO. It's a multiplayer demo version of this game, where they all hook into the same "server" and play online together. Medal of Honor is the name. He's even formed a "clan" with these people, and they have practice several times a week PLUS a scrimmage match between them and another clan on Saturdays. And each time he plays, it's at least two hours, the ones on Saturdays usually last 3 or 4. This is a total involvement game--he cannot pay attention to anything else and do well in it. And being extremely competetive, this means that for hours on end he ignores me and our two boys. I KNOW he's addicted to this game; it's just gone too far for it not to be an addiction, though he'll admit it when pink elephants fly. lol And to answer Guests response....I have tried playing with him. Our oldest son is actually very good at this game. But our youngest and I just don't have the eye-hand coordination (you have to use the mouse *and* the keyboard) one needs in order to even have a chance at this game (the people that play are VERY good). But even our oldest no longer wants to play b/c my husband just gets too serious about it, including reprimanding the boy for making a mistake in the game. We've had many fights over this game. So, I have to agree with Blackfrost.... just from what you've said, I don't see anything wrong with it. If it starts interfering with your relationship than I'd worry. My husband is borderline; sometimes I wonder if I didn't nag him if it'd be worse than it is.
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