stayhomeDAD Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Let me know if you think I should suspect my wife is cheating on me. I have no hard evidence just a few off phrases caught by me here and there. For instance, one day i asked her if she ever got hit on at the job (which she travels a lot on) and she flat out said no. However, we were at a dinner party the other night and I overheard a friend of hers ask her the same question ,she looked at her and smiled and said oh yea...This made me feel a little weird. We have been married for 15 years, have two kids and this little types of things keep coming up. I usually let them go but know i just can't. Another time we were getting hot and we had a few drinks...she pulled my pants down saw that I wasnt hard yet and said ... "you men are all the same". What do you think of that? You men? Also, we were at a wedding of one of her friends from work and her ex boss was sitting next to her and they were conversing. I heard im say that he would like to have her again and she said "as a boss sure". What else would they have been talking about??? Well there are more than this someone please let me know what you think.
Bryanp Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Unfortunately you do not have any hard evidence. The statements would certainly make you start wondering especially the comment on you all men are the same and the comment with the boss. The fact that she travels alot is very difficult on a marriage. If she is cheating I do not know how you are going to find out since she travels and is staying at hotels. I would be listening very carefully what she says. If you are really worried then you can always ask a friend to follow her if she does not travel too far or simply hire a private investigator. The bottom line is that you do not have enough information to really suspect anything. I kind of doubt that she would be talking about past sex with the boss if she was sitting next to you.
norajane Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 Women in business who travel get hit on all the time. She probably didn't want you to worry, which is why she said no when you asked. "You men are all the same" is a comment that could be made because women tell each other about their sex lives, and men also their women friends about their sex lives...so we have a pretty good idea of what men are like. (I don't think they're all the same, but they do have similarities...). "I'd like to have you again" can be in reference to: as an independent contractor, as a team member, as a guest contributor, as a speaker, as a temporary hire, as a trainer, as a reference, as an employee (but not her direct manager/boss). Please don't drive yourself nuts over a few comments. Jumping to conclusions or making assumptions is rarely productive. You could ask her what her conversation with her former boss was about; you could ask her what she meant by 'you men are the same'; you could engage in a discussion about her industry and what sort of stresses she battles (like men hitting on her - it is often quite unwelcome and belittling). Stewing and spying, however, isn't likely to lead to any good.
bab Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 If this is all the evidence you have, then you are jumping to conclusions. Norajane had some good reasons why she may have made these type comments. Trust your wife until she gives you some real reason not to.
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