Luvmykids Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 When money gets a little tight in a relationship, do you notice that you fight more? When my Husband and I agrue, we don't seem to communicate very well. I try to explain how I feel and he thinks I need him to solve the problem. I really don't want him to solve my problem..I just want him to understand where I am coming from. Is this just a typical man/woman argument?
bab Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 When money gets a little tight in a relationship, do you notice that you fight more? When my Husband and I agrue, we don't seem to communicate very well. I try to explain how I feel and he thinks I need him to solve the problem. I really don't want him to solve my problem..I just want him to understand where I am coming from. Is this just a typical man/woman argument? Yes and Yes. We are in the process of buying a house, and my new job doesn't start for another couple of months. I've been scrutinizing every dollar that we spend, and it's hard for me to give up control to hubby, so yeah, we fight more. But we communicate pretty well, so most of the arguments are short lived. But I think that you've hit the nail on the head about how you two "argue". It's VERY VERY typical for a woman to just want to be understood and heard while a man wants to fix things. Maybe start off your explination with, "I don't need you to fix this, I just want you to know what's on my mind. I do appreciate how ready you are to fix things, but that isn't what I need or want in this case." Maybe that will help? On the other hand, remember that when you husband actually opens up and tells you what is bothering him, he isn't looking to just be understood, but for things to be fixed.
alphamale Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Is this just a typical man/woman argument? I would think so...finances are an emotional subject with most.
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