toowens Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Okay Im Cameron and im 16 years old. Me and this girl Yolanda (Yolie) have liked each other for over a year. It all started when her sister was living at my house cause her dad was in jail and Yolie came to visit for about 3 days. She was over here and me and her hung out the whole time and somehow were always touching each other. I rarely get to see her even though my dad and her dad are best friends. We have liked each other and stuff and there would be no problems if she didnt live with her grandma. Her grandma is really strict. Well the first time awhile ago when i was talking to her on her cell her grandma took her phone away cause she doesnt want her talking to guys. She is 15 she needs to talk to guys. Well so i went over there on july 15th cause it was her dads b-day and we all hung out and stuff. i wanted some alone time to talk to her but her grandma wouldnt even let us be alone so her grandma made her dad stay with us. Well I got her alone for like 20 seconds and asked her to call me sometimes cause she isnt allowed to get phone calls from guys. She said she could but she never has so far. I know she likes me and stuf cause she even told my dad she does. Now everyone else I asked said that i got to let her go and that i shouldnt go against her grandma. But the thing is i have tried to. Every time I think that im over her she somehow comes over here with her dad or I go over there. I really dont want to get over her cause I have never felt this way about anyone in my life. Now I have her house number and stuff but if I call she will get in trouble. I honestly dont know what to do. I just cant get her out of my head. No matter what i do i always seem to start thinking about her. Can somebody please help me? Please dont just ignore this..
lovestruck234 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 G'day Cameron, Ok. Right. Mmmmhmmm....Yolie's Grandma is quite the controlling type isn't she?? Well, if I were you, I would talk to her Grandma. I know you're only 16 and believe me, if I could go back to being 16 with the knowledge I have now, I would pass my teen years like that!! lol You will be surprised how much she will respect you ad soften up a bit if you approach her and talk to her about it. See if you can compromise on something. Let her know that your intentions are only to talk and get to know her (wink wink he he he...for now, that is!) and that you would never do anything to hurt her etc etc. Let her know that Yolie means a fair bit to you and that when something or someone means so much to you like that, that it's hard to keep away. Even if you ask her if she's ever been in the same position. You might find her parents or grandparents may have been quite strict when she was Yolie's age. Just gain her respect and trust. You may be quite surprised!! I say, don't rebel against her for the time being until you chat to her and see what she comes up with. Offer for a certain time or whatever that you can talk to Yolie, and if she would like, that you come over and just sit in the lounge room under her supervision until she learns you're not as bad as what she thinks. I know that would suck but the outcome will be minty sweet!! Ok, here's a little story I'll share with you. When my bf and I were about 5 or so months into our relationship, we were (and still are) seeing each other every night. But I had a curfew of 10pm weeknights and 12am weekends. I HATED IT!!!! So much!! And so did my bf. So we finally came to a conclusion to talk to my mum and dad about it and guess what??? I am now allowed to stay at his house weekends now!! My parents repsect me more now for confronting them, rather than doing things behind they're back (as in staying over his house without permission)... But anyhoo, talk to Yolie's LOVELY Gramdma, and see what outcome comes out of that. By the way, have you spoken to your and Yolie's dad(s) about this?? Cos they don't seem concerned about it, in fact, they bring you around to see each other. Maybe ask if your dad can sit in on your chat with Grandma ad have him contribute to a decision.... Good luck, lover boy!!
Author toowens Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 You know thats a really good idea. The next time that I go over there im gonna have a nice chat with her grandma and stuff. And also her dad really likes me alot so I have no problem with him or anything and my dad doesnt have any problems either.
lovestruck234 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 You know thats a really good idea. The next time that I go over there im gonna have a nice chat with her grandma and stuff. And also her dad really likes me alot so I have no problem with him or anything and my dad doesnt have any problems either. Great! All the best!! Let us know how you go asap!!
Author toowens Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 And also... Is it normal for me to think that she doesnt like me for some reason. I mean I know for a fact she does cause I mean she's told me before and she always gives me you know that look and stuff. Plus she's always staring at me and makes sure she gives me at least 2 hugs before she leaves. Whenever we see each other when she has to go she gives me a hug then walks out and comes back like a second later and says "Now I have to go" and gives me another hug. Yet for some reason im always doubting if she likes me or not.
lovestruck234 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Aww don't be doubting anything for a second.... Sometimes when you are really starting to get on well with someone and it looks like it will progress into something more, you tend to over-analyze things, and in this case, it's the fact if she likes you or not. She likes you, I can tell!! Don't worry about that!! Let your feelings blossom into a beautiful flower and don't be afraid to show them. Hug HER first next time. Cos she may be having doubts as well. (And even go in for a bit of tonsil hockey!! Ay? Ay? ) I'm joking. Don't stress over it, it's aaaalll good!
Author toowens Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 Aww don't be doubting anything for a second.... Sometimes when you are really starting to get on well with someone and it looks like it will progress into something more, you tend to over-analyze things, and in this case, it's the fact if she likes you or not. She likes you, I can tell!! Don't worry about that!! Let your feelings blossom into a beautiful flower and don't be afraid to show them. Hug HER first next time. Cos she may be having doubts as well. (And even go in for a bit of tonsil hockey!! Ay? Ay? ) I'm joking. Don't stress over it, it's aaaalll good! Haha okay... Thanks...
lovestruck234 Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 Right, you should of had long enough to talk to Granny, how did it go?? A bit of advice.... be really considerate to her opinion. If you don't agree with something she says, don't bother about saying you don't agree. Just nod and listen to her reason behind it all. Share what you think is a reasonable decision, and then ask her if she is ok with that... All in all, try and not to think like a 16 yr old, try to think like an 80 yr old. She will think you're much more mature if you act as though you are!! All the best!!
Author toowens Posted July 29, 2006 Author Posted July 29, 2006 Actually I tried but for the last 4 days but nobody over there has answered their phone. I dont know why. But everytime it rings and then goes to the answering machine. Its getting me mad. I did find out some good news though. I found out that me and her are gonna be going to the same school as soon as school starts on august 14th.
lovestruck234 Posted July 30, 2006 Posted July 30, 2006 Hmmmm....kinda strange isn't it?? BUT, you've hit the jackpot with her going to the same school as you!! You little ripper!!! Well, August 14th isn't that far away, you can hang out till then can't you? If you get onto her before then , then great, but if you don't, you're going to see her at school so that's probably the best time to discuss her Grandma. Face to face!! Not MSN, not over the phone, but face to face. You'll be great. It will all sort out in the end! THEN, you go for the tonsil hockey!! Kepp us posted!
Author toowens Posted July 31, 2006 Author Posted July 31, 2006 Okay now i feel like im not gonna be able to see her until the first day of school, now if that happens do I ask her out on that day or do I wait a day or two? Also thank you for helping me out. i really appreciate it.
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Ohh and i almost forgot aboout the tonsil hockey...
lovestruck234 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Ok.....if I were this girl I wouldn't want you to ask me out straight away....that's just what I would be like. I'm the type of girl who loves that build up before going out, like you both know you want each other, you flirt uncontrollably, like you're just waiting for each other to make the first move. But that's just me. I'm a bit different. My bf and I, before we started going out we were mates for 3 yrs prior. The month or so before we got together was so much anticipation. We had a little beaten up car that we would just drive around the bush all day and would have such a great time. All I wanted to do was kiss him and I knew he felt the same. I find it's best off to let it build gradually. Get that close that you can't take it anymore. If you hit her up straight away it might scare her off. But I suppose it depends on the situation. Are you both sort hinting that you want to get together? Does she hint that? Oh, yeah, THEN the tonsil hockey. Actually my bf and I shared that first sweet make-out session before we were officically bf/gf. Woo, it was good and it made it alot more comfortable and less awkward when we got together cos we weren't nervous or anything.... That was a long time ago..... Just, timing is EVERYTHING. This is a BIG thing and you don't want to screw it up.
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Yeah she keeps hinting that she wants me. She even asked my dad if I liked her or not. Im soo stupid, I never made a move before when she was asking questions like "would you ever make out with me" I was too nervous and I was just like "Yeah I would".... The one time that she was at my house she was always like rubbing my hair or touching me no matter what. i was just to scared to make a move. The thing is now im not scared at all.
lovestruck234 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Well, that's good. They're all good signs! You're not stupid, just shy. I find that cute, my bf was the same with me. Sometimes the shy ones seem like really tough nuts to crack, but once they're cracked....they are definitely cracked!! Now he's not shy at all physically, emotionally, verbally or sexually. I love it! I have opened him up for the better! Hee hee This girl wants you bad and looks like all she's craving is you and your tongue!! Really, it's good that you're not shy now, so please...make out with the girl!! She wants you really bad. Either ask her out then make out or make out then ask her out. If I was Yolie, I would prefer option 2.
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 I was thinking of something like asking her out and as soon as she says yes. (assuming that she says yes) then i would move in on her.
alphamale Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 She is 15 she needs to talk to guys. Actually, TOOWENS, the stats show that the longer she holds off on "talking to guys" the better life she'll have down the road. I'm all for seperation of the sexes in High School and below.
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Actually, TOOWENS, the stats show that the longer she holds off on "talking to guys" the better life she'll have down the road. I'm all for seperation of the sexes in High School and below. Everyone has their own beliefs.
lovestruck234 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 I was thinking of something like asking her out and as soon as she says yes. (assuming that she says yes) then i would move in on her. Mint idea, stud muffin! You've got it all planned out! Woo good for you!!! She'll be thrilled!
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Okay well as soon as anything happens i'll let you know.
lovestruck234 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Great! Good luck! I'll be keen to hear how it goes! Oh and ps: It's been a pleasure to help you. I hope I have been of help.
Author toowens Posted August 1, 2006 Author Posted August 1, 2006 Yes you have helped me alot (WAY more than anyone else). None of my friends or anything have even helped me. They either told me to get over it or said that I was obsessing.
alphamale Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Yes you have helped me alot (WAY more than anyone else). My advice was to stay away from chicks until you're a bit older. I thought it was pretty good. But I could be wrong.
lovestruck234 Posted August 1, 2006 Posted August 1, 2006 Yes you have helped me alot (WAY more than anyone else). None of my friends or anything have even helped me. They either told me to get over it or said that I was obsessing. Aww you're not obsessing at all. You just have a bit of a (major) crush, that's all! Good for you, I say. Don't listen to you're friends when they tell you that sort of talk, simple nonsense!! Hee hee
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