theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Warning: long story, brace yourself. I was on vacation and was swimming/playing in a lake with my dog. A very attractive girl walked over to me and said how cute my samoyed is and then introduced herself. I then told her my name and where I am staying. She reciprocated the same information. There was a girl from home that was still sort of nagging at my mind so I was a bit rude/nervous and ended up swimming away, saying nothing more. The next morning on my run I went to where she was staying and saw her walking down the road with a towel. I said hello and apologized for my rudeness the day before. She said it was no big deal and asked if I wanted to swim. So we walked down to the lake and there were a few of her friends there, so we hung around with them. She constantly watched me, almost protectively. Eventually there were just 4 of us left and the girl suggested that we chicken fight in the water so she was my partner and we did that for a little bit then ended up leaving. That night I walked back to her place and saw she was with another guy, but she asked that I stay and play cards with them. We sat at a table and she was on my left while her sister and the other guy were on the other side. Every time I said something that was even just a little bit funny she would laugh and rest her head on my shoulder. We hung out for the rest of the week a lot. Every time we were together she showed signs of interest, eye contact and then smiling/giggling, touching me, making me look at her sunburn(that just so happened to be in the middle of her chest between her bikini top), she even had me feel her abs, which she did not flex properly the first time so I had to press them again. The day before I was leaving we were at the lake together just sitting on the beach/bench talking. I asked what she thought of my personality and she said that I was too reserved for her to tell but she was pretty sure I was very nice on the inside and she wished I would open up for her. I told her that she could ask me any question she wanted but she said she had none. Eventually, I confessed that I was rude on the first day partially because there was another girl on my mind. She looked away and asked a bit about what happened but she soon switched to the guy she was chasing(which she did not fail to mention how attractive she thought he was) and all of her exs. Then I received a phone call and had to leave. The next morning, 4 hours before I was going to leave, I stopped by expecting to take a walk with her and talk more. She was reading and said hello. We said a few sentences to each other then sat in silence for a while. I asked if she fixed her phone yet and she said yes then immediately ran and got it, listening to all 15 of her voicemails. In the middle, she said that if I had anything to say she would stop, but I did not. After she was finished, we sat in silence until I apologized for not being entertaining. She said "well you may leave, I have people to call and a book to read." So I walked away after saying "I guess I'll see you next year. Have a good last year of high school." Not the goodbye I expected, at least a hug. I am assuming that her behaviour after I confessed about the other girl was to spite me and am only angry at myself for that. Was she actually interested or was I just being used as a play thing to keep her busy? I am quite interested in her and the second day of knowing her put the other girl out of my mind and made me lose all feelings I had. She does live far away but, I am willing to put up with it to be in a relationship with her. I texted her apologizing for speaking of another girl like that and should've realized it would make her uncomfortable. She sent back "Lol you are kidding right? hahaha". I responded with "well you seemed angry with me or at least perturbed when I left" to which she said "no, I was just bored" which is completely contradictory to what she told me when I left? Should I tell her I do have feelings for her? Interpretation of her behaviour or advice on where to go from here is MUCH appreciated.
superconductor Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Tell her nothing. In the very short time that you were with her, you apologized a whole basketful of times. Not the best approach. Where to go from here? Contact her once, but only once. If she reciprocates, then maybe you can start something. My gut feeling, though, is that she's written you off. Sorry, dude, better luck next time. and STOP APOLOGIZING already...!
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 I apologized 3 times in 7 days, and one was necessary, rudeness is unacceptable. The apologizing isn't what bothers me. Another time was sarcasm and she knew that. Like I said we've been in touch already and this is the second day back home.
Walk Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 I second superconductor's post. I don't think that will turn into anything like you hoped it would. I think she was initially attracted to you. Then it sounded as if she was trying to get things going by finding excuses for you to touch her, but you didn't take it anywhere. She said she wished you would open up to her, possibly implying that you were hard to read and she couldn't tell if you "liked" her in that way or if you were just passing time with her. Then when you told her about the other girl, she figured you were still stuck on that girl, and that's why you didn't want more with her. She wrote you off and is covering her embarresment by being "busy" and flip with you in the text message. A girl makes excuses for you to touch her.. then act on it. Don't just poke her belly a couple times and walk away. She was giving you an invitation to take things past talking.
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 Thank you walk, I agree with you. I definitely regret not making any move. I think I left out a few points that might've made it seem more clear why I did nothing, still what was there to lose? Superconductor, I didn't mean to offend you up there if I did. But I doubt that in this situation apologizing was the problem, although I understand where you're coming from. Walk hit right on it this time. The least I should've done is come clean when she asked me to. Thanks, I sort of had it figured out already but I wanted to see if other people thought the same thing I did.
AwkwardMan Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Wow, you've got epically little game. Good read though, don't expect this to go anywhere.
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 yes well, I am rather a bit younger than she is
Green Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 You should send her a text msg saying your dog is sick and may die and you need her comfort than kiss her!
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 Lol, except we live 9 hours apart...
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 So she says she knew all along and had no interest? Very confusing.
Walk Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 She was playing you? You just talk to her or something?
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 yeah i've been talking to her but i told her that this friendship would not last and so i confessed that i was interested. She said she knew.
Author theman101 Posted July 25, 2006 Author Posted July 25, 2006 and then she said that she only wanted me to open up because it would help me personally. So is she lying to me to give me payback or is it the truth. Because I thought her signs were pretty blatant towards what she wanted.
Green Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 You should forgive and forget this girl untill then next time your at that beach place its over
Author theman101 Posted July 26, 2006 Author Posted July 26, 2006 Yeah, pretty confusing but she's acting pretty bitchy... not sure if I want to forgive her. I did apologize for being an ass.
Sand&Water Posted July 26, 2006 Posted July 26, 2006 and then she said that she only wanted me to open up because it would help me personally. So is she lying to me to give me payback or is it the truth. Because I thought her signs were pretty blatant towards what she wanted. So she knew all along. Has she changed her mind, and perhaps wants to take you seriously now. Confusing, the very least. Seems, she likes being the boss. Has she confronted you about where you stand? or what she wants?
Author theman101 Posted July 26, 2006 Author Posted July 26, 2006 Well she says she had no interest and wasn't trying to lead me on?
Author theman101 Posted July 26, 2006 Author Posted July 26, 2006 that's not really related to my problem flairwood....
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