daisyduke1234 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 I'll try and keep this one as short as possible, but basically you guys give good advice, so thought I'd see whether you guys thought I was being paranoid or possessive. I'll quickly tell you the background. Basically the boyf. is really into his snowboarding big time. I go once a year, but he likes to go up to 3x a year. He usually puts an add in a snowboard forum asking others to go with him. Well, one year this girl agreed to go with him and they struck up a friendship. I didn't think anything of it the first year, but then she went again with him this year to America snowboarding. Wasn't happy at all about the American trip as I've never been and was one of those places that we'd agree to do together. So majorly peeved off anyway. They went over Valentines and I never received a message on Valentines day, not even a phone call for the entire week that they were there. Anyway, when they got back to England, I got a text from the boyf. to say that he was really tired and was going to stay the night in London. Instinctively I knew he was going to spend the night with her in her flat. I was fuming. I tried ringing him all afternoon and night on his mobile, but no answer whatsoever from him. The next day, I was really upset, tried ringing and texting, but nothing. It wasn't until 5pm the following day that I got a message to say that he'd just woken up! They'd landed at 2pm the previous day. As you can imagine, by now was well and truly hurt, upset and angry and didn't know whether they'd spent the night together. His mum seemed to think that he'd cheated. Anyway, when he got back, we had big words. I told him that you don't do things like that - spending the night at some girls flat, especially when he knew what I think of her. I've never met this girl, but that's cos I'm not actually allowed to. Anyway, this weekend he told me that his mate had got a free ticket to the London motor show. He went up there. I've now discovered that she went to. He told me that he spent the night at this guy's house, but I'm not so sure. You see his printer isn't working and I know for a fact that he doesn't know his way around London, let alone where this guy lives, but he does know what she lives.... He promised me that we'd spend today together, but he didn't get back until gone 6pm. I've since discovered that he spent the day with her in London .... I've had a massive row with him about this and he told me nothing happened, but I just don't know what to believe. I just feel sick, betrayed and upset.
CaterpillarGirl Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 He chose spending time with her over you and he lied about it. Twice. Please don't be fooled by this jerk again. Find a man who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Nope not parnanoia at all hun Listen to your gut feelings. This isn't normal for a boyf to do. Hes lying to you. Get out while you can. I'm sorry
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