Becoming Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 We spend so much time with marriage problems that we sometimes overlook what's good about marriage. Woggle is getting married in about a week. In honor of his impending nuptials, let's tell him what's good about being married. I'll start: Knowing that I don't have to carry the weight of life alone. Friendship of a life partner Safe sex whenever wherever Snuggling in the a.m. and the p.m. Having someone who knows the good, the bad, and the ugly and loving me anyway, not because he has to (like family), but because he chooses to Sharing life with someone you're crazy about even after 25 years
tinktronik Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Good anwseres. Being able to have a support system instead of handling everything yourself .
Ladyjane14 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Knowing that I don't have to carry the weight of life alone. Friendship of a life partner Safe sex whenever wherever Snuggling in the a.m. and the p.m. Having someone who knows the good, the bad, and the ugly and loving me anyway, not because he has to (like family), but because he chooses to Sharing life with someone you're crazy about even after 25 years Dang! That's a GOOD START! I like all that, and.... Inside jokes, giggling in bed until our ribs ache. Knowing who's going to be there for me when I'm sick or heartsore. Having someone that I can be there for, and spend my love on. Sharing the same memories. Patting him on the ass when he walks by and ogling his fine behind. Seeing myself through the eyes of someone who loves me, and making sure he knows he's a fine man when he sees himself reflected in my eyes.
whichwayisup Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 -Knowing you're not alone in this crazy world! -Being with someone who loves and accepts you for who you are. And lets you "be" you. -Making your spouse suffer while you pull a dutch oven on 'em! (I had to throw that one in there! LOL!) -Growing together, loving eachother, and feeling safe. -And someone to scratch that itch you just can't reach in the middle of your back!
Mz. Pixie Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 For me- Someone who really gets me and what I need and makes that a priority. Someone who I can be safe with. Someone I know that will be there for me. Having that emotional connection with another person and giving my all to them. Snuggling Kissing Loving Date nights Great sex! I could go on.........
whichwayisup Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Yeah, ofcourse sex is high up on that list. Many may feel "having sex with one person for the rest of my life" is a bad thing or could get real boring...I don't think so. Because it's always changing! The intensity, how much or how little. When and where. Sometimes it's making love and other times it's just down to the ground f**king! Knowing you never have to worry about STD's or getting to know someone else is a comforting feeling. You have the rest of your lives together to experiment and have fun in bed!
Author Becoming Posted July 24, 2006 Author Posted July 24, 2006 LAUGHING! Shared history Your very own peep show every day when he throws open the shower curtain after the shower--yeah! Just being content to be in the same room together
norajane Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Being with your best friend when you're having the best, worst, and in-between times of your life.
a4a Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Somebody to pick up the vomit that the dog left on the carpet. Somebody to oust hairy spiders from your home. Somebody to pick up a forgotten grocery item on the way home from work.
stacym75 Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Someone to start new traditions with . Someone that is there for your every need . Someone that loves you no matter what you look like when u get up in the morning. Someone that will be your best friend for life. And to find out that sex does get more and more awsome as you both learn each others bodys and try new things together. Life together ,u have the good,the bad and the ugly but i wouldn't have it any other way.Ive beed married for 13yrs and love him more and more everyday.
Tony T Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 We spend so much time with marriage problems that we sometimes overlook what's good about marriage. Woggle is getting married in about a week. In honor of his impending nuptials, let's tell him what's good about being married. I'll start: Knowing that I don't have to carry the weight of life alone. Friendship of a life partner Safe sex whenever wherever Snuggling in the a.m. and the p.m. Having someone who knows the good, the bad, and the ugly and loving me anyway, not because he has to (like family), but because he chooses to Sharing life with someone you're crazy about even after 25 years What's wrong with this thread is that the term "marriage" is a misunderstood generalization. First of all, relatively few people are actually married in the truest sense. Marriage is a union that takes place between the souls of two people...not in a church...not in a synagogue...not at the justice of the peace. Two people can be married long before any ceremony if they are joined in a spiritual way that transcends the understanding of the ordinary man. Otherwise, marriage is two people whose brain chemistry was stimulated violently, sufficiently and long enough to take then down the aisle of the church of their choice...if they were sharp enough to agree that far. There may or may not be a lifetime involved, there may or may not be safe sex involved, there may or may not be snuggling involved, and there's a good possibility that your weaknesses will be used more against you at the right opportunity that in support of you. Marriage can also involve violence and murder of the very person you had all those great things with. Do a little Googling if you don't believe me. Can you say spouse abuse? So rather than worry about the sweet things of marriage, it might be preferable to concentrate on just getting married...in the truest sense. Finding that special person who stimulates your heart along with your sex organs...and whose soul reaches deep into your spirit to join it in a volcanic eruption of the otherworldly type that assures a forever union and that all those wonderful things that are part of marriage are lasting, pure and sincere. Godspeed everybody!!!
Outcast Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Finding that special person who stimulates your heart along with your sex organs...and whose soul reaches deep into your spirit to join it in a volcanic eruption of the otherworldly type that assures a forever union and that all those wonderful things that are part of marriage are lasting, pure and sincere. I'm game! Nice to see some cheery posts about pairdom. For a few moments, anyway..
JamesM Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 All of the above. Looking at the person you are married to and still after 16 years thinking how incredibly beautiful she is. Touching her and feeling the same feeling of blood rushing to...well, there... Looking at other women and feeling the great security of knowing that you have the best one for you. Of course, everything in all these posts is precluded by the fact that in a good marriage you have this huge sense of relief that you chose the right person.
superconductor Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 What's good about marriage? All that's good about marriage comes between these parentheses: ( )
Outcast Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Oh there HAD to be a spoilsport. I'd love it if all the naysayers would keep their clouds away from this sunny thread just for once.
Tony T Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Oh there HAD to be a spoilsport. I'd love it if all the naysayers would keep their clouds away from this sunny thread just for once. There's a big difference between a naysayer and one who states the naked truth. We can't limit participation in this thread to those who remain captivated by chemicals and illusion. Wouldn't be balanced. On the other hand, the great light which shines upon the subject of marriage is that it is absolutely possible to have a long lasting and happy one if the time is taken to find the right partner. And how many people do you know know how to do that?
HokeyReligions Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Someone to kill the bugs Someone to walk the dogs sometimes Someone to share a comfortable silence with Someone to wake me up when I'm having a nightmare Someone to play pranks on and know it's OK Someone to shop for or make things for Someone to rub my feet Someone who does all those things because they love me and want to And a Vice-Versa for all of the above (except kill bugs - that's his job alone - mine is to run screaming and tell him where the bugs are!)
norajane Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 On the other hand, the great light which shines upon the subject of marriage is that it is absolutely possible to have a long lasting and happy one if the time is taken to find the right partner. And how many people do you know know how to do that? My parents have been married for 40 years (so far) and are happy. Actually, my married friends are also in happy marriages. I really don't know that many people who are divorced or miserable in their marriages.
superconductor Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 My parents are approaching Year 50. They can't stand one another.
Tony T Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 My parents are approaching Year 50. They can't stand one another. Long live the great matrimonial bond of shared assets!!!
Tony T Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Someone to listen to bixtch. Someone to tell me she's not interested in sex this year. Someone to tell me she needs money for the big sale at Macy's in New York, as well as transportation and lodging at a five-star hotel. Someone to tell me she's too tired to prepare dinner and will I take her to the Marriott for steak and lobster. Someone to tell me if I want to watch the programs I like I'll have to do it in the garage. Someone to walk with at the mall while she looks at every single thing a person could ever possibly wear. Someone to tell me if I want somebody to talk to, go to LoveShack! Someone to check my computer every single day while I'm at work to be sure I haven't looked at naked women...or haven't talked to any.
GuySimple Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 We spend so much time with marriage problems that we sometimes overlook what's good about marriage. Woggle is getting married in about a week. In honor of his impending nuptials, let's tell him what's good about being married. I'll start: Knowing that I don't have to carry the weight of life alone. Friendship of a life partner Safe sex whenever wherever Snuggling in the a.m. and the p.m. Having someone who knows the good, the bad, and the ugly and loving me anyway, not because he has to (like family), but because he chooses to Sharing life with someone you're crazy about even after 25 years Funny, minus the sex comment these are the same reasons I gave my wife about why we should get a dog.
whichwayisup Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 My parents are approaching Year 50. They can't stand one another. Yes, but they also love eachother just as much.
GuySimple Posted July 25, 2006 Posted July 25, 2006 Question....Is being married 50 years love or a habit?
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