Guest Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Why is it that my husband is most of the time angry and lashes out at me or the kids, and hardly ever helps me do anything, but yet when he wants sex, he becomes very nice? He starts helping me some, and acting loving, but the very next day after I have had sex with him, he goes right back to being an a**hole to me? Why does he do this? I have heard of others doing this too. Is it that they are selfish and out for number one? It seems he only wants it when he wants it or when it benefits him. Like I said most of the time he is an angry person, except when he wants some sex. I have often thought about not giving into him when he wants sex, becasue he will go right back to being a jerk the next day, but heard its not good to withhold. Is he being selfish?
Becoming Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 Sounds like that could be a definite possibility. The system he's got now is working for him . . . until you throw a monkey wrench into the operation by expecting more. Watch out when you do, though; he'll try to blame you for everything and its mother. Don't be fooled. Stick to your guns by telling him what you want and then expecting that he'll do it. . . or else you can't do that for him.
JackJack Posted July 24, 2006 Posted July 24, 2006 You say he is angry most of the time? What is he angry about? Just life in general? Going on what you have said, he does seem he is a little selfish in the sense that he only decides to be nice to you when he wants sex, and then goes right back to being mean. Does he feel thats all you are good for? Is he not nice to you at any other times during your marriage?
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